06/14/2026
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"She was unstoppable, not because she did not have fears or doubts, but because she carried on in spite of them." - Beau Taplin
When you need to take a leap forward into new territory, you will be scared. When you are breaking down old paradigms with new energy, you will be scared. When you are moving out of your comfort zones, habitual or addictive patterns, you will be scared. When you are about to do something that demonstrates your inner healing power, you will be scared.
When you are learning to be more assertive, self-loving, self-valuing and self-aware, you will be scared. When you are healing old trauma and emotional pain, you will be scared.
So often, when the Soul is leading you to expand, you will experience fear and doubt.
Being scared is frequently a sign that you are growing. It means that you are being pressed by your own inner wisdom to break out of patterns that keep you playing small in your life.
There is no power in using "I am scared" as an excuse, or a reason for not going where your consciousness needs to go in order to rise and uplift itself.
Caroline Myss, spiritual teacher, says that when making a decision it is usually wise to listen to the one that brings up most fear. This is because so often, the choice that brings up the most fear is the one that represents the greatest level of growth.
You have to be discerning here. Our old, ingrained limiting patterns can be very clever at making us think we are 'following our hearts' by taking a path that actually is simply a re-run of our most comfortable, addictive and unconsciously damaging behaviours.
It is sometimes easy to say, especially when we are keen to attune to our intuitive voice, that we are following our hearts when actually, we are simply following the spiritually-laziest, least psychologically-confronting route.
Following your heart and soul does not mean leaping upon every inner urge that your psyche gives you. Following your heart and soul is a discipline, because it takes patience, courage and perseverance to walk the path of authentic growth.
If you are serious about wanting to grow into authenticity, you will have to acknowledge that your heart's route is one on which you will have to work with fear and doubt. This is because the path to spiritual integrity is one which demands confronting deep fears and moving through them. This is the only way that real inner growth happens.
John Gray, the master teacher on relationships and personal development (author of Men are From Mars…), says:
"..we must be careful that we do not justify our own neurosis in the name of being authentic."
He talks about how sometimes, when we want to feel like we are 'following our hearts', we mistake it for simply following "every impulse without restraint". When a person who drinks too much follows every impulse, the addiction takes over and destroys them. When this person is ready to face their fears, deal with their repressed emotional pain and take the route towards healing, they will need to learn not to follow every desire to drink.
This route to self-empowerment, recovery and a positive life will involve coming way out of their comfort zone. They will have to make choices, and follow guidance that does not feel comfortable to them. Certainly, they will have days in which it would feel much easier to give in and have a drink to numb the pain, fear and doubt. The Highest Guidance will bring up the fear, and often feel like the scariest option, because it is the one that initiates the most profound and lasting transformation.
Like Caroline Myss and John Gray are saying, very often being authentic necessitates a deep confrontation with what the ego finds most scary.
It is scarier for a person who has jumped from drama-filled relationship to relationship all their life to follow inner guidance that says, "You know, it would actually serve you to be alone for a few years."
That person may feel, when they meet the next potential partner, that they are following their heart to jump in and feel the adrenalin high of being intimate. It feels good to have the rush of affection, the sexual thrill, to hear another person tell them, "I love you". They may mistake this for 'following their heart.'
It is in this moment when the voice of authenticity inside them really demands discerning and courageous listening.
It may feel much, much scarier for this person to contemplate the guidance that says "Be alone for a while, work on yourself, say no, detox from the emotionally-induced adrenaline rush, don't jump in this time."
The idea of being alone may bring up huge, unvisited fears and doubts. It may feel very, very frightening to take this path.
But the fear is so often the talisman, the chiming bell, the universal acknowledgement that we are entering into huge levels of inner change and radical personal growth.
If we never 'feel the fear and do it anyway', we really do stay stuck, going around and around in unending circles, with old negative patterns running our lives.
You can replace the above example with any other you choose. It could be that overwork is issue. Or a compulsion to say "Yes" to every demand or invitation from others. Or being unable to commit to your own needs for fear of disappointing others. Or being too available.
When you start to listen to true guidance that really stems from the universe and your soul's desire to grow your consciousness, you will ALWAYS be taken into situations that bring up fear.
So often, the choices that bring up the most fear in you are the ones that are leading you towards exponential soul growth.
Nearly every time I write something on this Page, I feel scared to post it. That is the Truth.
One thing that has taken me a long, long time to gain is the ability to discern true guidance that is leading me into growing my Self and using my Light for Good.
When I follow my true guidance, it is nearly always a choice that brings up fear. If I am about to do something powerful that ends up making a lasting difference in other people's lives, I usually feel a lot of fear and doubt.
Please don't be put off from making choices that you know are pressing you to expand through your fears. This is what spiritual growth is. Following your heart is a statement that is hugely over-used, and often misinterpreted. Following your heart is not an excuse to cover up lazy, negative or addictive cycles and patterns. It is a mantra that if used properly, will deliberately and continually stretch you.
To be an unstoppable force of greatness, you must acknowledge that fear needs to be confronted, stepped into and breathed through. What you are given will not be too much for you. Feeling fear is a sign that you are about to cross a significant threshold into spiritual and personal power, and are most likely going to have a positive effect on others from doing so.
Feeling fear, doing what you know you need to do in spite of it, and continuing to walk into the flames of fear, is an act of immeasurable spiritual power.
This is when you really start to take flight. This is when you become - unstoppable.
