10/12/2026
👻 Welcome to the therapy haunted house, where the scariest things can sound like ordinary practice.
“Defiant.”
“Avoidant.”
“Needs to be more flexible.”
These descriptions can shape a child’s treatment before we’ve understood their experience. What are they refusing? What feels overwhelming? What are the adults asking them to tolerate—and could those conditions change?
As therapists, we need to examine whose expectations guide our work, whose comfort we prioritize, and whose account of progress we believe.
Neurodiversity-affirming, child-centred therapy requires curiosity about the child’s experience and a willingness to change our own approach. Children deserve a meaningful say in their goals, respect for their sensory needs, and support that makes life feel better to them.
🎃 The question that follows us through every room: Whose goal is this?
