08/03/2026
We're often quick to focus on someone’s anger without asking enough about what happened before it. But context matters enormously.
Anger can be a reasonable response to being hurt, mistreated, disrespected, dismissed, or repeatedly pushed beyond your limits. Was a boundary repeatedly ignored? Had they tried to communicate calmly many times? Were they responding to something painful, frightening, or unjust?
The presence of anger alone doesn't tell us whether someone has a problem regulating it. Someone might cry, swear, raise their voice, or feel completely overwhelmed in response to repeated boundary violations. Those reactions don't exist outside of the context that led to them.
That doesn't mean anything done in anger is automatically okay. But understanding anger requires us to look beyond how intensely it was expressed and ask whether the response was threatening, controlling, degrading, or unsafe.
Strong anger isn't the same thing as poor anger regulation.
Sometimes anger is the part of us that knows something here is not okay. 🩷..
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