23/05/2026
How come the people who say “I’m a pr!vate person” usually post everything else except their spouse?
“I’m not a social media person” or “I’m a pr!vate person” is the excuse that some people give as the reason why they don’t show off or celebrate their spouses online.
But the truth is that most people are not asking for public drama, endless posts or forced online affection.
What they truly desire is acknowledgment.
As a therapist, I’ve seen this countless times. A partner who feels hidden eventually starts feeling unwanted.
That's not cos love only exists online, but cos public recognition often communicates pride, security and intentionality.
You don’t have to post your partner every day.
You don’t need matching outfits or long captions.
But if you can publicly celebrate your achievements, your friends, your bu$iness, your birthday and everything else that matters to you, yet your partner is always absent from your world, it naturally raises emotional questions.
Healthy relationships are not built on social media validation but secrecy and emotional invisibility can slowly destr0y trust.
Sometimes the issue is far from “I’m a pr!vate person.”
Sometimes it is…
☞ “I want to appear single.”
☞ “I’m unsure or not proud of this marriage.”
☞ “I don’t want accountability.”
☞ “I’ve never learned how to openly value my partner.”
Most people don’t hide their spouses for pr!vacy… they hide them for convenience.
A person who genuinely values you will not make you feel like a secret they constantly need to hide.
Pr!vacy is healthy but making your partner feel unseen is not. There is a big difference.
If you truly think you are a “pr!vate person”, wait until you find your spec dear.
If this teaching blesses you and you’d like to keep drinking from my cup of wisdom, go ahead and 𝐟𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐦𝐞.
Share the post as well… someone on your timeline may need it more than you know.
I remain your noble relationship coach and marriage therapist Courage Sorbe aka Wisdom Bank. 𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐫 𝐜𝐫𝐚𝐲𝐟𝐢𝐬𝐡, 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐧 𝐌𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫.
