09/05/2025
The Wounded and the Healer
They no longer stand in contrast to each other in a dependent relationship of being giver and receiver.
Here there is no need for a helper, because here there is no victim.
Inside the Healer lives the wounded, and inside the Wounded lives a powerful healer –
who are awakened in the light of each other, but not by each other.
This is gradually becoming very clear within me.
In my work – both therapeutic and pedagogical – the question often arises:
"Do you think you are succeeding in helping?"
And I feel how my need to help is vanishingly small.
The more I have illuminated, embraced and released the wounded within myself,
the less I need to solve it in my surroundings.
Not out of apathy. Not out of brutality. Not out of indifference at all.
But you see – the more I have embraced, loved and taken ownership of my wounds and my shadows,
the stronger a powerful healer has grown within me.
In the encounter with and out of the wounded.
Not a savior –
but an inner healer,
who transforms darkness into light,
shame into integrity,
unconsciousness into living insight and vitality.
So when I move in the world and feel my need to help intrude,
I know that I am facing a powerful mirror –
a mirror that awakens my inner healer and points me towards the darkness within me,
which is reflected back and begs to be met.
Therefore, when I release myself as a helper,
I release you as a victim –
and I release the violation of the deep, innate power for healing that lives within us all.
So when I don't want to be your helper,
it's not because I lack compassion—
but because I'd rather be a mirror.
A mirror that shows you that your pain, your wounds, your trauma—
all your guilt and shame—
are the gateway to awakening your own inner, powerful healer.
You are not a victim.
You are an alchemist.
When the Wounded and the Healer begin to unite in one person,
we no longer need to save each other—
we can remind each other with our presence that healing is possible.
