Mindful ADHD Therapy

05/11/2026

The emotional weight of a relationship is not yours to carry alone.

You are both responsible for carrying your own emotional weight. You are responsible for yours, and your partner is responsible for theirs.

You are both responsible for communicating your feelings, taking care of your own emotions, and not placing them in the other person’s bag to carry.

Because your emotions are yours. And your partner’s emotions are theirs.

Of course, you should support each other. You should be able to lean on each other, make room for each other’s feelings and help each other through difficult times.

But there is a difference between supporting someone and carrying their emotional responsibility for them.

And if you find yourself being the only one carrying the emotional weight in your relationship, that is an incredibly lonely place to be.

And it is exhausting.

You are not supposed to carry it all by yourself.

04/11/2026

Why are you minimizing yourself? What is the price?

03/11/2026

True confidence isn’t thinking you’re flawless. It’s being able to acknowledge your mistakes, shortcomings, and imperfections without letting them define your worth.

You can be wrong and still be worthy of respect. You can hurt someone and take responsibility without concluding that you’re a terrible person. You can have flaws without needing to defend yourself against every criticism.

Confidence is the ability to face the truth about yourself without losing your respect for yourself.

And perhaps the most important part is this: when you no longer need to protect your self-image at all costs, you become freer to learn, apologise, change, and grow.

You don’t have to be perfect to be someone you can respect.

02/11/2026

Are you supposed to change your partner? Is your partner the one who needs to change?

Many couples come to therapy hoping that if only their partner would change, everything would be okay.

But relationships don’t work that way.

In a relationship, both people need to be willing to look at themselves and take responsibility for what they bring into the relationship.

If your partner tells you, directly or indirectly, that if only you would change, we wouldn’t have these problems — or that the problems in your relationship are simply because of who you are or how you behave — it’s worth taking a step back.

Because a relationship is created between two people. And the difficulties you experience together rarely belong to just one person.

Both of you need to be willing to look inward, reflect on your own patterns, and take responsibility for your part in the relationship.

It’s never just about changing you. And it’s never just about changing them.

It’s about understanding what happens between you — and what each of you can do to create something different together.

02/11/2026

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31/10/2026

Have a spooky day!

29/10/2026

Are you showing your authentic feelings?

28/10/2026

Do you often feel guilty or feel like you’re never quite enough?

Do the demands of society, everyday life, and the people around you sometimes feel overwhelming?

Do you feel like you’re constantly trying to keep your head above water?

And do you sometimes look at other people and wonder how they seem to manage their lives and relationships so much more easily than you do?

You’re not alone. ❤️

Many people with ADHD recognise these feelings.

And perhaps you’re not failing at life. Perhaps you’ve just been trying to meet expectations that are too much to carry.❤️

27/10/2026

Do you find yourself masking? Do you know why? 🩷

26/10/2026

Is it hard for you to communicate your needs?

Maybe you’ve experienced having your needs overlooked or unmet in childhood or in previous relationships.

If so, you might have learned to feel that you’re asking for too much, that your needs are unreasonable, or that it’s safer to hide what you really feel and need.

But constantly hiding parts of yourself to make a relationship work comes at a cost.

Even when your needs aren’t met, it’s important to be able to communicate them in a responsible way. You can express what you need without blaming, demanding, or expecting your partner to meet every need you have.

At the same time, there are some basic needs that should be present in every healthy relationship, such as respect, trust, empathy, and kindness, as I’ve talked about in previous reels.

You deserve a relationship where you can express your needs, be yourself, and feel that there is room for you, too.

Because abandoning yourself to maintain a relationship isn’t sustainable. ❤️