Gabriella Coaching - Life Coach

14/10/2022

10/06/2022

Is “working on relationships” necessary ⁉️⁉️
👷📉🖇️🚴🚣‍♂️
👉 Can’t we just go with our feelings and what comes naturally??
👉 Doesn’t “working on it” make my relationship strained, far-fetched?
👉 Maybe all of it should just come naturally, without putting any effort in it.
I’m sure you had these thoughts already?
Or maybe you are asking yourself these questions just now.
We just had this discussion with our friends last weekend.
And it got me thinking.
Is there a right answer here?
I have no idea!! Truly! I have no clue! 🤪
I would be happy to know the universal law for this and also many other things in life, it would be so much easier sometimes.
What I’ve learned is that there is no such a thing as universal law for everyone. For some of you this can be a relief and maybe for others it can be a bummer, but at the end of the day … you do whatever the heck you want to do. 🤣😂😂
I don’t think there is a right way or the wrong way, there is just an impact of your actions or inactions. The effect, the consequence, the result you create with your choices.
And I chose to have a long term relationship. I chose to be married and I chose to make my marriage not just work, not just make it fine. I chose to make the best out of it. And yes it takes work. 🤷‍♀️
What kind of work? 🤔🤔
Work on myself. That is where the work starts and where it ends. It’s in my best interest. Yes it affects my husband for sure and our marriage, but it’s me who benefits the most.
And also let me be fair here. ☝️☝️
I don’t think being single, having no kids, or having short time relationships require less work.
Not at all! And is it different work? I’m not sure about that either.
Life happens to all of us regardless of what relationship status we have.
And coping with challenges requires skills that are learnt through self acceptance, self reflection and getting your butt up after failing. Here we go again. Work on yourself.
What’s authentic for you? What is true for you? That’s your path.
I know being married and having kids is what is authentic to me. 👨‍👩‍👦 🥰
And even if things go wrong, we get stuck or we go off track, I know I’m gonna do my best to find the way to get it back on track. ☹️🖕😫😤🙅🗯️
It happened before, it’s gonna happen again!
And I’m not saying WE, I say ME because I don’t know about my husband, I’m not responsible for his actions, but I’m all in 100% regardless. I have my back.
This is where my integrity lies.
And this is where I help other women to tap in.
Into their own integrity.
Whatever “work” you think you need to do for your relationship right now, do it for you first!
I can show you how.
Wanna know how you can work with me?
Feel free to send me a pm and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.
Or you can book a free discovery call 👉 https://calendly.com/gabriellacoaching/discovery-call

03/06/2022

“Why don’t I have butterflies when we kiss?”

“Is it normal that I am not dying to get a text?”

“Is it normal that I feel super chill and relaxed?”

"Do I just don’t care that I am not stressed out?”

If you got used to intense, full of drama and constant ups and downs in your relationships, it might be confusing when you hook up with someone who makes you feel safe, super chill and relaxed.

Having intensity and passion doesn't always make a good relationship. Long term relationships require other qualities too, like ability to cooperate in life, support for each other's difficulty, having the same goals or common interest or finding your purpose in your role as a partner. Feeling calm and not needy is also a great experience. It means you are free to be yourself and not needing the other person's validation to feel valued. When the relationship enhances who you are is what makes it work. Sometimes it looks different than you have imagined, and that is what can be confusing.

Instead of intensity, aim for intimacy.
Much more empowering and makes the relationship actually work.

You want to know what the difference is? Jump on a free call with me and I'll walk you through 👢.
Link in Bio.

02/06/2022

Trust issues can take so many forms.
This one is only one of them.

But whatever it is for you, make sure you get clear on who's the trust issue is and to get clear on your bonderies.

Book your free discovery call to get right on track! Link in the comments 👇.

25/05/2022

What skills? It might be one of the these 👇

♦️ To trust yourself more

♦️ To trust your partner more 

♦️ To give up controlling things that are out of your control! 

♦️ To ditch the emotional drain and feel in control again

♦️ Better communication skills. Do you want to be better at communication? Expressing your needs in a more loving way?

♦️ How to set healthy boundaries and have your own back for it?

♦️ What are you responsible for within a relationship? 

♦️ Where does your responsibility end? 

Which one of these is the ONE you want to master?

You really need to start with ONE!

Sometimes you get overwhelmed by just thinking of the things we want to change or improve in your lives or in your relationships. 

But that’s because your brain freaks out about ALL of the THINGS that went wrong or just suck.

But NO!

All you need is to start with ONE of these. You Chose!

And soon as you start getting better at ONE you will see all of the other things getting more aligned. 

All of a sudden you have access to your inner wisdom and things don’t look so unfixable any more.

Just start with ONE.

Which one?

Hop on a free discovery call with me and I”ll help you figure that out.

Link in bio.

13/05/2022

Death isn’t the opposite of life, it’s the opposite of birth.

Whaat??? This thought blew my mind.

Life is what is in between. 💡👍

The opposite of life can’t be death, it’s the non-existence.

You see, if there wasn’t for birth and death, life wouldn’t be possible.

So let’s STOP worrying about DEATH, it’s not going anywhere.

And let’s start focusing on WTH is going on with this LIFE!

How to live it?? This is the only thing we have some control over!

Does it sucks? YES

Is it unfair? YES

Is it painful sometimes? YES

But it’s also Beautiful and Miraculous and Loving and Tickling and Funny

And I’m not saying Hire me as your LIFE COACH so you can learn how to focus only on positives and then you’ll be happy ever after.

What I say is, if you feel stuck or struggle with moving forward in your life but you really want to do something about it, let's talk.
I can help you figure out your way out of it.
I can help you figure out how to make this place more pleasant and more joyful for you.

So if this is something you want, just hit ne up in dm or you can book a free call with me. Link in bio.

13/04/2022

How can we get better at loving and being loved?
What can I do to feel love?
What can I do to feel loved?

Why is love always the best option?
Love feels great.
Love never hurts.

No matter what the problem is, you can always ask, "What would live do?".

Love always does the best thing.

Let's discuss it this Friday when I'm doing my Live class within my FB group. Sign up to What you can control to have the relationship you love. Link in Bio.

01/04/2022

Do you people please in your telationship?

How do you know if you are people pleasing?

What does it even mean?

Why is it important?

Because it generates emotions that are leading into victim hood.

People pleasing is when I say or do something I didn't mean to, just to keep the peace, avoid conflict or just to seem cool and cooperative.

But what happens here is I expect to be appreciated for it at the end.

I expect the same in return.

And these are the things we can't control.

Again.

Let's see how we can avoid people pleasing and appreciate our own emotions instead.

Join me for the LIVE training call next Tuesday.

Sign up, link in Bio.

17/03/2022

My Free Training on How to have a relationship you Love is still on.
Next week is the week 3.

You can watch the videos and attend the q&a session we are going to have next week.
The tradnng is accessible for you in the Facebook group. You can watch it any time.

Sign up now so you can learn

💥 Where is the stress and anxiety coming from?
💥How to manage stress other than what you already know.
💥Why do you feel disconnected in your marriage?
💥How to shift from resentment to genuine connection with your partner

Link in Bio. Drop a comment if you have questions.

04/03/2022

I don’t know about you, but I don’t like the idea behind the frase: You Complete Me. 

I know it sounds romantic and so true, because it means you have found your soulmate, your perfect match. Which means you gonna be happy for ever ❤️ 🎊

At least this is what fairy tales have taught us when we were little girls. 🍎

It’s a kinda nice idea in a different world or a different universe .. 👽👾🛸

But the reality of this idea is that if I think you complete me, what I say is that I’m not good enough. I’m not complete for myself or others. I’m basically not good enough for this world without you.

It means I’m coming into this relationship with lack and I need you to fill this lack up.

Please fill my cup of worth so I can be good enough. 🙏

And you better take care of that cup being filled all the time buddy, so that I can feel secure, confident and happy always! 👆😜

This kind of LOVE can do the work at the beginning. I can use it as a shield to cover up  my weaknesses. So maybe for a while I can even feel complete. 

But you know, the truth is when you are looking for LOVE from a place of insecurity and lacking, then you will find just that.

And it won't be until down the road when you realize that you use this love to delay personal work, which might have been difficult at the time.

That is the work you want to do to find that security, confidence and abundance you are looking for.

So no, I don’t believe that LOVE can complete you, but I believe that LOVE supports the person you already are, whoever that person might be.

You want to know more about this work, jump on my discovery call. Link in Bio.

02/03/2022

"If you work hard enough and do all the right things, you gain enough control in life to ensure safety and happiness for yourself and your loved ones.” Familiar?

We can call that the illusion of control.

The reason that we are so anxious is because in the back of our mind we know that control is an illusion.

But control is not always a losing game, there are so many things you can control.

You can’t control the waves, that’s not your business, but the way you surf on them is what makes you feel in control.

So instead of:   How can I fight it or control it?

The right questions would be: 

How can I surf with that?
How can I turn it into a gift?

The difference is huge, it feels different. 

The first question takes your power immediately. Because you know it’s impossible.

The second question gives your power back because your surfer skills are in your hands.

Sometimes sadness happens in the world, just like now.

You can let the sadness be there and not take control over you.

Remember, sadness is an emotion. It’s in your control. What do you want to do with it?

Taking responsibility over things you can control is the first step to a better life and better marriage. I can help you take back the control and make strong decisions on what surfing skills you want to master. Hop on a free discovery call. Link in Bio.

04/02/2022

😂😂 I find it incredibly creative!! 🤩😃