08/07/2026
I donât treat sâŹx casually, anymore.
For people who know me for a while, I have been in polyamorous neo-tantra fields.
Itâs been useful for me to liberate myself sâŹxually, explore what I like, donât like.
Though, after seeing all the ways people use it to avoid their fear of commitment (avoidant) or being alone (anxious), inner children searching for validation, not able to control desires to the point of hurting others and blame the other for not being evolved enough.
I don't believe polyamory is more evolved than monogamy anymore. I actually think monogamy, that comes after polyamory, is.
Being able to sublimate sâŹxual energy to serve a greater purpose than leaking it everywhere for short-term pleasure. And the inner work that comes with choosing someone can only be deeper because safety allows more healing. Mostly for women where survival was very much linked to a man being by her side, with the possibility of having a baby.
If he can go with an other woman at any moment, our biology canât fully relax, open and heal what emotional unavailability created in us as a child. We are social creatures, there is only so much we can heal alone in relationships.
So if you want the committed healthy love, know that every time you accept "just a night of fun" you're sending a signal. To him. To your body. To the universe.
My body is accessible. My standards are negotiable.
And life mirrors that back to you, in the men you attract, the dynamics you repeat, the love you settle for.
You don't attract what you want. You attract what you are available for.
You want the high-caliber man? Become the high-caliber woman first.
Raise the bar for yourself and the bar outside rises with you
Ready to stop the loop of avoidant-anxious and build something real ?
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