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Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling is a Person Centred Counselling and Psychotherapy service created with the purpose of being flexible for you, addressing each client’s own, individual needs.

🍰 The boy the mole, the fox and the horse - by Charlie MackesySometimes the best defence is simply to enjoy the moment. ...
30/09/2026

🍰 The boy the mole, the fox and the horse - by Charlie Mackesy

Sometimes the best defence is simply to enjoy the moment. 🍰

We can spend so much time anticipating what might go wrong, questioning people's intentions or preparing ourselves for the next difficult thing that we can forget to simply receive the good moments when they arrive.

A kind word.
A thoughtful gesture.
A moment of laughter.
An unexpected invitation.
Someone remembering something important to you.
Not everything needs to be questioned, earned or justified.
Sometimes something lovely comes along...
and you're allowed to enjoy it.

Maybe that's your reminder as we reach the end of the month:

Don't be so busy preparing for the next difficult thing that you miss something good happening right now. ❤️

🎉6 YEARS OF ABERDEEN BESPOKE COUNSELLING! 🎉Six years ago, Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling began with an idea, a lot of hard...
28/09/2026

🎉6 YEARS OF ABERDEEN BESPOKE COUNSELLING! 🎉

Six years ago, Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling began with an idea, a lot of hard work and a genuine belief that people deserve a safe space to talk, be heard and understand themselves a little better.

Six years later, I still feel incredibly grateful that this is what I get to do.

A huge thank you to every client who has trusted me with their stories, their experiences and their vulnerability over the years. It is a privilege that I never take for granted. ❤️

Counselling is also something where I believe you never stop learning.

Over the past six years I've continued to develop my knowledge, attend training, explore new areas and challenge my own thinking — because the people I work with deserve me to keep growing too.

And whilst the business may have changed and developed over the years, one thing hasn't changed:

I still care deeply about the work I do and the people I work with.

So here's to 6 years of Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling — and to whatever the next chapter brings. 🥂

Thank you for being part of the journey.

Catherine @
Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling

25/09/2026

💭 A question for you today...
If you stopped worrying about disappointing other people, what would you do differently?
Would you say no?
Ask for what you need?
Set a boundary?
Change something that no longer feels right?
Take some time for yourself?

Sometimes we become so focused on keeping everyone else comfortable that we forget to ask ourselves whether we are comfortable with the life we're living.

You don't have to make a huge change today.

But perhaps sit with the question.

What would change if your needs mattered too? 💭

🛠️ TOOL – The Power & Control WheelA tool I think everyone should know about.The Power and Control Wheel is often used t...
22/09/2026

🛠️ TOOL – The Power & Control Wheel

A tool I think everyone should know about.

The Power and Control Wheel is often used to help people recognise patterns of behaviour within unhealthy or abusive relationships.

And importantly, abuse isn't always obvious.

It isn't only physical violence.

It can include:

🔸 Isolation
🔸 Intimidation
🔸 Emotional abuse
🔸 Using children
🔸 Minimising or denying behaviour
🔸 Economic control
🔸 Using jealousy or accusations
🔸 Threats and coercion
🔸 Making someone feel responsible for another person's behaviour

The wheel can be particularly helpful because individual behaviours can sometimes be difficult to recognise in isolation. Looking at the pattern as a whole can make things clearer.

And this isn't something that applies only to women.

Anyone can experience controlling or manipulative behaviour, and anyone can use it.

If something in a relationship consistently leaves you feeling frightened, controlled, confused, diminished or as though you have to constantly manage someone else's reactions, it may be worth taking a closer look at the relationship dynamics.

Sometimes having a name for what is happening is the first step towards understanding it.

🍂 Summer to Winter – Preparing for the Winter BluesAs the seasons change, so can we. 🍂❄️The lighter mornings and longer ...
18/09/2026

🍂 Summer to Winter – Preparing for the Winter Blues

As the seasons change, so can we. 🍂❄️

The lighter mornings and longer evenings of summer gradually disappear, and for some people, the move into autumn and winter can bring a noticeable shift in mood.

Less daylight, colder weather, disrupted routines and spending more time indoors can all affect how we feel.

So rather than waiting until you're struggling, perhaps this year you could prepare yourself for winter.

☕ Keep doing things that bring you comfort.
🌿 Get outside during daylight when you can.
💬 Keep connected with people who make you feel good.
📅 Give yourself things to look forward to.
🧡 Be mindful of how your mood is changing.
🛑 And remember that resting is not the same as giving up.

You don't have to love winter. You just need to find ways to look after yourself through it.

What could you put in place now that your future winter-self might thank you for?

🚩 “Maybe it was my fault…”One of the most difficult things after experiencing a relationship with narcissistic or emotio...
15/09/2026

🚩 “Maybe it was my fault…”

One of the most difficult things after experiencing a relationship with narcissistic or emotionally manipulative behaviours can be the way it affects your trust in **yourself**.

You may find yourself constantly replaying conversations.

Questioning your memories.

Wondering if you were too sensitive.

Thinking about what you could have done differently.

Apologising when you haven't done anything wrong.

Or wondering whether what happened was “really that bad.”

Over time, repeated criticism, blame-shifting, manipulation or gaslighting can leave you doubting your own perceptions.

🌿 Healing isn't just about understanding what happened.

It can also be about rebuilding your relationship with yourself.

Learning to trust your feelings.

Recognising your boundaries.

Listening to your instincts.

Understanding that having needs doesn't make you difficult.

And remembering that you don't have to keep proving that your experience was valid.

You are allowed to say:

“That hurt me.”

“That wasn't okay for me.”

“I don't want to be treated that way.”

“I trust myself.”

💛 You don't have to minimise your experience to make someone else's behaviour easier to understand.

If you're struggling to make sense of a difficult or emotionally abusive relationship, counselling can provide a safe, non-judgemental space to explore what you've experienced and begin rebuilding your confidence in yourself.

🌿 Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling

11/09/2026

💛 **Client testimonial**

It means so much when someone takes the time to share their experience of counselling.

“Catherine makes you feel very welcome, comfortable, and calm. Previously, I would have been scared to admit or discuss my feelings, but she taught me how to deal with them and manage my thoughts. Catherine also provided me with useful tools, techniques and podcasts that helped me throughout my process. Time is a healer but talking is too and I would fully recommend anyone to reach out to Catherine. She is kind and will never judge you, no matter what your circumstances are. She will be there to help.”

Thank you to this lovely client for their kind words and for allowing their experience to be shared. 💛

Starting counselling can feel daunting, particularly if you're not used to talking openly about how you're feeling.

You don't need to have the right words.

You don't need to know exactly what you want to talk about.

And you certainly don't need to have everything worked out before reaching out.

Sometimes, talking really can be the beginning of feeling a little less alone. 🌿

If you're considering counselling and would like to find out more about how it could support you, you're very welcome to get in touch.

Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling
🌿 A safe space to talk, explore and be heard.

I often hear people say something along the lines of:“Things aren’t really that bad.” Or “Do I really need counselling r...
08/09/2026

I often hear people say something along the lines of:

“Things aren’t really that bad.” Or “Do I really need counselling right now”.

And I understand why.

Sometimes life looks perfectly fine from the outside. You’re going to work, looking after everyone else, getting through the day, replying to messages, making plans and doing all the things you’re expected to do.

But inside, you might feel exhausted.

You might feel disconnected from yourself.
You might be constantly overthinking.
You might find yourself getting irritated over things that normally wouldn’t bother you.
Or perhaps you simply have this feeling that something isn’t quite right, but you can’t put your finger on what it is.

There can be a tendency to compare ourselves to others and think, “Other people have it much worse, so I shouldn’t feel like this.”

But counselling isn’t only for when life has reached crisis point.

Sometimes it is about having somewhere to stop.

Somewhere to take a breath.

Somewhere to say the things you perhaps haven’t said out loud before.

I think one of the most valuable parts of counselling can be having someone sit alongside you without judgement and help you make sense of what is happening underneath the surface.

You don’t have to arrive with everything figured out. You don’t even necessarily have to know what you want to talk about.

Sometimes you just need a safe space to start.

And perhaps that’s enough of a reason to reach out.

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💭 **An interesting question to reflect on…**If someone you cared about was going through exactly what you're going throu...
08/09/2026

💭 **An interesting question to reflect on…**

If someone you cared about was going through exactly what you're going through right now…

**What would you say to them?** ❤️

Would you tell them:

“You should be coping better.”

“You're overthinking this.”

“Just get on with it.”

“You're being too sensitive.”

“Other people have it worse.”

Or would you say:

🌿 “It's understandable that you're struggling.”

🌿 “You don't have to deal with everything alone.”

🌿 “You're doing the best you can.”

🌿 “It's okay to take things one step at a time.”

🌿 “I'm here to listen.”

Now ask yourself…

**What would happen if you offered yourself some of that same kindness?**

We can often give compassion to everyone around us while being incredibly hard on ourselves.

Perhaps today is an opportunity to speak to yourself with a little more understanding. 💛

06/09/2026

🌱 **“You are not behind. You are not too much. You are not failing. You are simply finding your way.”**

Sometimes we compare our journey to everyone else's.

We look at where other people are and wonder why we aren't there yet.

But healing, growth and change aren't competitions.

There is no set timeline for finding confidence.

No deadline for healing.

No “right” age to start again.

And no shame in needing support along the way.

💛 **Your journey is your own.**

Be gentle with yourself for the things you are still learning, the parts of yourself you are still getting to know, and the steps you are taking — even when they feel small.

Sometimes a small step is still a very brave one.

🌿 **Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling**

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Tuesday 9am - 6pm
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Thursday 1pm - 5pm
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