Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling

14/08/2026

Could childhood emotional neglect still be affecting you today?

Many people grow up believing their childhood was "fine." They had a roof over their head, food on the table, and their physical needs were met.

Yet they still struggle as adults with low self-worth, people-pleasing, difficulty identifying their emotions, perfectionism, or feeling disconnected from themselves and others.

This is something Dr Jonice Webb has brought to light through her work on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).

Emotional neglect isn't always about what happened to us—sometimes it's about what didn't happen. Perhaps your feelings weren't acknowledged, comfort wasn't available, or your emotional needs went unnoticed.

As a counsellor, I have completed training informed by Jonice Webb's work and regularly support clients experiencing the lasting effects of childhood emotional neglect.

Healing begins with understanding your story, recognising that your feelings matter, and learning new ways to connect with yourself.

If any of this resonates with you, know that you don't have to work through it alone.

💚 Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling provides a safe, compassionate space to explore your experiences and move towards a more fulfilling future.

11/08/2026

Wellbeing App Recommendation

Every now and then I like to share resources that can support your mental wellbeing alongside counselling.

This month's recommendation is How We Feel.

Created with input from psychologists, this free app helps you identify and understand your emotions, recognise patterns, and develop healthy coping strategies. It encourages you to check in with yourself throughout the day and offers practical tools grounded in psychological research.

While an app can never replace the value of talking to another person, it can be a useful way of building self-awareness between counselling sessions or as a first step towards understanding how you're feeling.

Have you tried How We Feel? I'd love to hear what you think.

https://howwefeel.org/

💚 Remember, support comes in many forms, and asking for help is one of the strongest steps you can take.

The How We Feel Project is a non-profit working to help everyone better understand their own emotions.

10/08/2026

If you're interested in understanding difficult relationship dynamics, communication, and protecting your emotional wellbeing, I'd highly recommend listening to Jefferson Fisher's conversations on healthy boundaries and dealing with manipulative behaviour.

One episode I particularly recommend is his discussion on recognising emotionally unhealthy communication and responding without escalating conflict. While Jefferson Fisher doesn't diagnose people as narcissists, he offers practical advice on handling controlling, defensive, or emotionally challenging interactions in a calm and confident way.

It's a thoughtful listen for anyone who finds themselves walking on eggshells in relationships or struggling to communicate effectively.

Have you listened to Jefferson Fisher before? I'd love to hear your thoughts.

You might be dealing with a narcissist—or at least someone showing strong narcissistic behaviors. In this episode, I break down exactly how to talk to those people without losing your cool, your confidence, or your sanity. Whether this person is your boss, your sibling, or your partner—you’ll ...

09/08/2026

You don't have to wait.
You don't have to wait until you're completely overwhelmed.
You don't have to wait until you've tried everything else.
You don't have to wait until life feels impossible.
If something has been weighing on your mind, it's enough.

Sometimes we convince ourselves that our struggles aren't "serious enough" to ask for support. But counselling isn't only for crisis—it's a space to understand yourself, make sense of what's happening, and move towards the life you want.

Today is as good a day as any to take that first step.
Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling is here whenever you're ready.
www.aberdeenbespokecounselling.co.uk
💚 Don't wait for the "right" time. Sometimes now is the right time.

08/08/2026

I recently had the opportunity to attend Manifest 2026 in Newcastle, and what an inspiring few days it was.

As a counsellor, I believe that learning never stops. Events like this are a great opportunity to hear from experts, discover new ideas, reflect on my own practice, and continue developing the skills I bring into the counselling room.

Investing in my own professional development means I can continue offering the best possible support to the people I work with.

I'm looking forward to bringing fresh insights and renewed energy back into my practice.

07/08/2026

Anxiety doesn’t always look like panic.
Sometimes it looks like overthinking every decision.
Sometimes it’s feeling exhausted before the day has even begun.
Sometimes it’s constantly feeling “on edge” without knowing why.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
Anxiety can be difficult to live with, but it doesn’t have to define your life. Talking to someone can help you better understand what’s happening, develop practical coping strategies, and begin to feel more in control.
This month, check in with yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend. Small steps matter.
💚 Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling offers a safe, confidential space where you can explore what’s on your mind, at your own pace.
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If you'd like to find out more about counselling, feel free to get in touch or visit my website. 💚

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31/07/2026

✨ As we come to the end of another month...

"I worry that I'm not very good at anything."

— said the boy.

The horse smiled gently.

"Practice kindness."

Sometimes we measure ourselves by achievements, productivity or perfection.

But kindness—to ourselves and to others—is never wasted.

As this month comes to a close, I hope you take a moment to notice just how far you've come, rather than focusing on how far you think you still have to go.

Be gentle with yourself. 💛

30/07/2026

💭 A question to gently sit with today...

What did you need as a child that you never received?

Maybe it was...

• To feel heard.
• To be believed.
• To feel safe.
• Encouragement.
• Affection.
• Consistency.
• Acceptance.
• Permission to simply be yourself.

Sometimes understanding what was missing helps us recognise what we still need today.

Be gentle with yourself if this question brings up emotions.

28/07/2026

☀️ This photo was taken during my holiday in June. I was so lucky with the weather 😎😎😎

As much as I love the work I do, taking time away is something I genuinely believe is essential—not a luxury.

Rest isn't something we earn once we've reached exhaustion.

Stepping away helps us reconnect with ourselves, gain perspective, recharge and return with renewed energy.

If you're planning some time off this summer, I hope you allow yourself to truly switch off.

Your wellbeing matters too. 💛

27/07/2026

📚 Current Read... After attending the amazing Mani-fest 2026 in Newcastle this year...

Manifesting Like A Mother - Book - was given to me free by someone who won it but already had it (maybe i manifested reading this book!!)

Manifesting is something that's fairly new to me, and I'm enjoying learning more about it with an open and curious mind.

Whether you fully embrace the concept or simply appreciate the opportunity to reflect on your goals, mindset and intentions, I think there's always something valuable to take away.

I'm looking forward to seeing where this journey takes me.

Have you read it—or are there any books on manifesting you'd recommend?