09/07/2026
“Why do you ask me every week if I’m okay with the fan on?”
Because therapy isn’t just about what we talk about.
It’s also about creating an environment where you can actually settle enough to do the work.
For some people, the sound of a fan is soothing. For others, the sensation of air on their skin, the movement in their peripheral vision, or the constant background noise can be distracting or even overwhelming.
Many of my clients are neurodivergent. Sensory needs are real, and they matter.
I ask every week, even if you told me “yes” last week.
Because your needs might have changed. Last week you might have been comfortable. Today you might not be. Or perhaps you were trying to tolerate it, masking your discomfort, or worrying about inconveniencing me by asking me to turn it off.
By asking again, I’m reopening the conversation and giving you permission to answer based on today, how you feel and what you need in the here and now, not last week.
As therapists, we can’t control everything, but we can pay attention to the things that are within our control. Small questions like, “Are you okay with the fan on?” are really asking, “What do you need today to feel safe, comfortable and able to be fully present?”
So yes… even if it’s 33°C outside, I’ll probably ask you every week for the rest of the summer.
Because your comfort matters more than my embarrassment about sounding like a broken record
💛🪭☀️
