The Be Worthy Studio - Grief & Loss

09/08/2026

This morning I pulled two cards. Koala Spirit and Dove Spirit.

Spirit has a plan. Be peace.

The Koala card stopped me. The idea that chasing every distraction keeps us from recognising what we already have and what we actually need. In grief especially, we can spend so long trying to do more, find more, fix more, when what we actually need is to slow down and trust.

I know this from my own journey. A body in survival mode for years. Every time things steadied, something else arrived. Another loss. Another obstacle. And so learning to trust, to let good things in, became one of the harder parts of finding my way through.

Then the Dove. Be peace. Not find peace somewhere out there. Be it. Start within.

That’s what I see in people who do this work. Clients who’ve come to me in the depths of despair and found, piece by piece, their own steadiness. Their own safety. Their own version of happiness when they thought there genuinely wouldn’t be any.

Peace in grief isn’t waiting for life to stop being hard. It’s learning to build it inside yourself even when it is hard.

If that quiet work of coming back to yourself feels like something you need right now, the Anchor Within membership is a gentle, supported space to start. A little at a time. At a pace that works for you.

Are you still waiting for the world to feel safe, or are you starting to build that safety within yourself?

08/08/2026

There was a moment, long after everyone assumed I was "doing okay", when I realised my body was still grieving, even though my mind had convinced itself it had moved on. The tension in my shoulders. The exhaustion sleep didn't touch.
Grief doesn't just live in your thoughts. It lives in your body too, long after people stop asking how you are. If your body's been trying to tell you something too, that's exactly what nervous system work inside my Anchor Within membership is for. 🌿

07/08/2026

Someone said something to me recently that took me straight back to a time when I desperately wandered how I move forward in my life when I felt so much pain, how was anything going to change for the better when I couldn’t have my person? How do I feel different? How do I work through this?…

I understand why we ask it. When you’re in the middle of grief, you want someone to hand you the instructions. A clear path. A method. Something that says, do this, then this, then this, and you’ll get through it.

What I found is that there isn’t 1 way, 1 instruction or 1 starting point, no method that works for everyone. It is different for each one of us.

Grief is a jigsaw with 800 pieces and no picture on the box. You might find the corners first. You might sort out the edges and get a rough outline of the shape of things. But the middle? The middle is just you, picking up piece after piece, turning them around, trying them, some fitting and some not, so slowly finding where things belong. There’s no right way to do the jigsaw. There’s just the doing of it.

What there is, what actually helps, is committing to yourself. Not to a method. Not to a timeline. To yourself. Saying: I am willing to try things. I am willing to experiment. I am willing to feel weird and uncomfortable and uncertain while I figure out what works for me. I am willing to put myself first in this, even when everything in me wants to put myself last.

It’s finding people who will witness you in your grief. Who will hear you and see you without trying to fix you or rush you. It’s building a community, however small, where you don’t have to explain yourself. It’s being genuinely compassionate towards yourself on the days when a single piece of that jigsaw takes everything you have.

And time. Give yourself time.
I want to gently push back on time. Time alone does not heal grief. Time is man made. It passes whether we use it or not. What moves us forwards is what we do in the time. The small commitments. The willingness to try one more thing. The choice, made over and over again, to come back to ourselves.

You don’t have to know how. You just have to be willing. I know that because it’s exactly how I found my own way through. Not with a plan. With willingness. One small thing at a time.

Are you willing to commit to yourself, even just a little bit today?

06/08/2026

Time heals all wounds.
It doesn't.

What actually helps isn't time passing,it's what we do with that time. The support we let in. The moments we let ourselves feel, instead of pushing through. Time alone doesn't heal anything. It's the action we take within it.
Grief isn't a wound that closes on a schedule. It's something we learn to carry differently, through the things we choose to do along the way. 🌿

05/08/2026

Grief isn't one thing. It's many things, wearing the same name.

Today I want to talk about a kind of grief that often goes unseen: disenfranchised grief.

This is grief that isn't openly acknowledged, socially validated, or given the space it deserves. It's the grief that others might not expect you to feel, or might quietly expect you to feel less of.

It can show up in so many ways. Grieving an ex-partner, or a relationship that ended before someone died. Grieving a pet who was family in every way that mattered. Grieving a miscarriage or a pregnancy loss that others may not know how to speak about. Grieving someone you were estranged from. Grieving a friendship, a colleague, a former teacher. Grieving a loss that happened a long time ago, that others assume you should be "over" by now.

None of these griefs are lesser. But because they sit outside what society often recognises as "acceptable" grief, they can leave you feeling isolated, as though you don't have permission to feel what you're feeling, or nowhere to put it.

If this is you, please hear this: your grief doesn't need anyone else's permission to be real. It doesn't need to fit someone else's idea of who or what deserves to be mourned. If the loss mattered to you, it's allowed to hurt.

You're not grieving wrong, and you're not overreacting. You're grieving something that mattered, in a world that doesn't always make space for that.

You don't have to hold this alone. My Payhip store has tools to support you gently, and I also offer one-to-one support if you'd like somewhere safe to bring a grief that's felt hard to speak about elsewhere.

04/08/2026

Grief is one of the loneliest experiences most of us will ever go through, even surrounded by people who love us.

Friends check in for a few weeks, then life moves on for everyone except you. You stop mentioning it because you can see people bracing when you do. You start managing everyone else's comfort instead of your own grief.

Anchor Within is a space where you don't have to do that. A community who actually understands, live sessions, and somewhere to just be — no performing "fine" required.

£11.99/month. First month free if you join in the next two weeks. 🌿

https://payhip.com/b/nlKrf

Grief takes our anchor away. It strips everything back and forces you to reevaluate, you're different, your life is different, and trying to rebuild from that place can be really hard. You don't know who you are anymore.

04/08/2026

You don't have to have your whole life figured out to take one honest step forward.
Rebuilding after loss doesn't happen in one big leap, it happens in the small, unglamorous decisions nobody sees. Choosing to try again. Choosing to ask for support. Choosing to believe you're allowed a future that looks different from the one you planned.
That's the work. And it counts, even on the days it doesn't feel like much. 🌿

03/08/2026

Today would have been my thirteenth wedding anniversary.

It isn’t. And this morning, like most mornings, I’ve sat in the quiet with my coffee, my dog’s feet tap tap tapping behind me. I get to watch the shadows dance through the sunlight in the garden. I get to hear the birds chirping, chattering, singing, and see them swooping through the air in front of me. I get that every single morning without fail, and it’s beautiful.

I hold so much gratitude that this is how I start my day. Because of my bereavements, I am aware, I feel into the importance, the fragility and the gratitude of my life, so much more than I did before. And at the same time, I’m starting my day missing my husband, wishing he was here to celebrate thirteen years of marriage. Wishing he was here to see his boy. The reality of my life is duality, a duality of holding sadness and wishes for a different reality, alongside compassion, joy, and gratitude for everything I have.

I get to hold this space for myself. Once upon a time I didn’t have the capacity to be able to live in that duality. I just had the pain, numbness and the sadness. Now I get to have it all, the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. But I get the highest of highs because I let myself feel the lowest of lows. When life was numb, I got to feel sometimes nothing, sometimes just the pain. And now, because I have held space for my grief and my pain, I also get to hold space for people who also have to be brave every single day, people who are going through what I have been through, of being exhausted and holding it all together, and still trying to make life good for themselves and for the people around them. I get to hold space for people who want to learn and grow, even in the middle of everything falling apart.

And again, the duality comes in, because I also get to live in a world where my husband, my dad, my father-in-law, and my brother no longer walk this earth with me. But the beauty of my work, unfortunately, comes because of my experience with death and loss and pain and grief.

Some days can still be really hard. And some days have become really amazingly good. Again, that’s the duality of it. It’s exactly where we get to feel huge amounts of joy, because we have also felt the depths of despair. The highest of highs exist because the lowest of lows do too. If I’d stayed numb to my feelings, I wouldn’t get to feel any of it.

My heart is broken, and I feel so much love and gratitude, at the same time. I live in a world full of loss, and full of so much creation.

The happiest day of my life, marrying my husband, also holds so much sadness since his death. And this year, it is also filled with more gratitude and joy, because it’s also the day I’ve opened my Anchor Within membership. A space to support people learning to live with grief the way I’ve been doing, consciously, for twelve years now. It holds so much creation in it. So much love. So much grounding. That it felt right, somehow, that it landed on this day.

I am grateful to be in this space today, to have all the feelings in one day. Obviously I would like things to be different, but they aren’t. And sometimes the fear still comes in, being a solo parent has its own challenges where fear definitely comes in. But in terms of my grief, of how I try to face each day, I try to choose faith in myself and self trust. Because without that, there is nothing. And so by following my faith and trust in myself, and a lot of determination! I have created something that brings me joy, and hopefully it will bring joy to other people who move through this membership alongside me, as we work gently together toward that long-term thriving, toward fully living in our own lives again, with the joy allowed back in.

I want to live in that world. Not the numb one. Not the one where I pretend I’m fine while I’m breaking inside. Not the one where I shut out the pain, because shutting out the pain means shutting out the joy too.

I’m in it now. And I know I want to be in the world where sometimes I cry so hard I can barely breathe, because in that same world, I also get to laugh so hard my belly wobbles and my face hurts. For so long, I didn’t know this space of duality even existed. I thought it would just be pain, forever, and I didn’t want to live like that. But I had to.
And now, now I know I can live in this space. Both things, always, at once. And that’s not something to survive. That’s something to live in.

Happy anniversary, my love. I remember the happiest day of my life, marrying my best friend, my soulmate. I was so lucky to find my person. And as the tears roll down my face missing you, I get to look around at a life I am so, so grateful for, and one I have made sure you are still very much present in.

03/08/2026

It's here!
Anchor Within Membership opens today ✨

I built this because grief takes our anchor away. It strips everything back, and so many of us are left not knowing who we are anymore, running on a nervous system that's been on high alert for far too long.

Anchor Within is a low-cost membership £11.99/month, for grounding back into yourself, supporting your nervous system, and finding your way to a life that moves forward alongside your grief, not instead of it.

Inside: a live meditation, a live journaling session, a monthly talk with real discussion time, and my workshops included, live and recorded. Plus my habits and insights to how I manage my grief and wellbeing after 12 years and multiple losses.

A place to come back to yourself, with a community who actually understands.

Join in the next two weeks and your first month's completely free. 🌿

Link below

https://payhip.com/TheBeWorthyStudio

02/08/2026

I pause before I begin

How often do we rush into the day. So many thoughts, feelings, distractions… can you give yourself a moment to pause and let your body be, not do?

Give yourself a focus, your breath, a spot on a wall or a flower in the garden and keep bringing your mind back to what your focusing on and let every other thought that comes in float away like a cloud on the breeze and it will probably come back again and go again and come back again. So focus in again and keep giving it ago.