Lisa Visram Therapy

Lisa Visram Therapy Child and Adolescent Therapist, who uses a combination of play, sand tray, person centred and CBT to meet the needs of the client.

So now you have decided to seek therapy for your child, what’s the next step?Making the decision to try therapy is a big...
08/06/2026

So now you have decided to seek therapy for your child, what’s the next step?
Making the decision to try therapy is a big step, acknowledging that you cannot do this alone can be scary so finding the right therapist for you and you child is important. Here are some suggestions on how you might go about it.
• Speak to your child/adolescent, have a conversation about therapy and how it may be helpful to have a space for them to talk to someone in a safe and confidential space, someone who is removed from the situation.
• Think together and separately about what they would like to gain from therapy, remember that therapy is not there to “fix a problem”, however knowing what they are struggling with can help to guide what therapist you approach, for example if they would like help with strategies on how to manage anxiety or stress them some CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) might be best. If your child is young, then play based therapy may be helpful.
• Take a look at some websites such as counselling directory, BACP or Play therapy UK, here you will find a wide variety of different therapists, which can feel overwhelming at first, it may be helpful for you to choose 3 or 4 and then have a discussion with your child/adolescent (age dependent) about them, reading through their profile together. Sometimes choosing a therapist is down to the skills they offer, such as CBT or play based, sometimes it is more of a feeling, someone sticks in your mind.
• You may have been recommended someone by a friend, if so, it may be helpful to find them on one of the sites or their own website/page if they have one, this will give you more information about them and their practice.
• You might like to contact a couple of therapists and talk to them about their approach, their fees and their availability, it is a good idea to give them a brief overview of what has made you contact them, they will usually ask you some questions too.

www.counselling-directory.org.uk

www.bacp.co.uk

www.playtherapy.org.uk

When do you start to think about therapy?As parents we are continuously adapting our approaches as new things present th...
01/06/2026

When do you start to think about therapy?

As parents we are continuously adapting our approaches as new things present themselves, new challenges our children face. Most of the time these changes and adaptations work, we seek advice from friends, family, school and other parents, and all returns to “normal” we work through the challenge. Until the next “phase”.
However sometimes we feel that we have tried everything, taken all the advice and tried every tactic yet things are still not improving.
Our children won’t talk, they start to isolate themselves from friends and family, or maybe they lash out, become constantly angry, not able to contain their emotions. They might stop eating, stop doing the things that they love, they might not be able to stop crying or seem to have no emotions at all. Shutting themselves away from the world and us. Now might be the time to reach out for help from a therapist.
If, as a parent, you feel your child may need some extra support please reach out and contact me.

A little about me.I often share information about how things feel or how things can be with tips, but today I thought I ...
18/05/2026

A little about me.
I often share information about how things feel or how things can be with tips, but today I thought I would share some information about myself.
I am based in Headcorn, living with my husband, our three boys, and our dog, Fudge.
I have always worked with children, after gaining a level 3 in childcare at college I worked in many roles such as, a nanny and in a children's centre.
After having my boys I started working in a school to fit around their school life. It was around this time that I started my own therapeutic journey with my therapist and this combined with working in a school peaked my interest in children's mental health.
I was fortunate enough to be able to retrain and gain a level 7, post graduate diploma in working therapeutically with children and adolescence.
After working with clients within schools, last year I took the leap of opening up my own private practice where I see clients in Headcorn, the lake house Ashford, and visiting them at their schools.
If you know someone who you think would benefit from therapy please contact me.

Often when clients come to me, they feel they need "fixing", that something is wrong and if they could just stop doing ....
11/05/2026

Often when clients come to me, they feel they need "fixing", that something is wrong and if they could just stop doing .......... or if they could only do .........., then things would be better.
Unfortunately things are not that straight forward and often the solutions people are after are not realistic.
But the good news is that while "fixing" or changing is not the solution; there is something that does help, and that is acceptance.

Accepting who we are can have a huge impact on how we view ourselves, and those around us, when we are truly able to accept who we are, the good the bad the ugly, we are able to show ourselves self compassion. Accepting that we will have bad, sad, happy, down, excited, quiet, sleepy days, and all the others in between, may help us to move on the acknowledge that, that is just how it is sometimes.
While accepting things such as anxiety can help us to begin to build coping strategies. Rather than fighting against anxiety, accepting that we get anxious, we are more able to acknowledge that it is there and to find things that we need to support us in those moments.
If you know a child or adolescent that you feel would benefit from counselling please contact me.

When someone starts therapy it can often feel harder before things feel better, like taking a plaster off a wound. Thing...
27/04/2026

When someone starts therapy it can often feel harder before things feel better, like taking a plaster off a wound. Things are uncovered, exposed, out in the open, things that they were unaware were even there. This new self awareness can feel raw and scary, but through this self awareness is where the most progress can be made. Working together, nurturing through these tough times can help support growth and understanding.
If you have a child or adolescent who you feel would benefit from speaking to a therapist, please reach out and contact me.

Sometimes for children and adolescents life can feel overwhelming and all those little ni**les can build up to become un...
20/04/2026

Sometimes for children and adolescents life can feel overwhelming and all those little ni**les can build up to become unmanageable, it becomes more than we as parents can support, this is where therapy can help.
I am a child and adolescent therapist, I use a combination of different techniques such as play therapy, talking, CBT, and person centred to support my clients in a way that best suits their needs.
I am currently taking on new clients with availability Mondays and Fridays, online or in person.
Please feel free to contact me for more information, or check out my profile on the counselling directory website.
https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/lisa-visram?_gl=1%2A129y6c3%2A_up%2AMQ..%2A_ga%2AMTcyMDcxMzA0Ni4xNzc2Njg5NTA0%2A_ga_BMWGCG64PD%2AczE3NzY2ODk1MDQkbzEkZzEkdDE3NzY2ODk1MjkkajM1JGwwJGgw

We often hear, or tell ourselves and our children, that happiness is a choice, that we choose our own pathway, however, ...
13/04/2026

We often hear, or tell ourselves and our children, that happiness is a choice, that we choose our own pathway, however, this "toxic positivity" can leave us or our children, feeling that we are the problem, that we are not trying hard enough.
On days when it feels hard, when you are unable to see a way through, take it slowly, allow yourself some time to feel sad, to cry.
Trying to spot one small positive within the day may help, while recognising the need to rest and to look at the progress you or your child has made, could help you to see the bigger picture.
While also thinking about how we feel, and what helped us to feel that way, on our good days can help us to identify what is needed in the low moments.

Sometimes we can be really tough on ourselves, with a list of “shoulds” in our mind, this could lead to shame and to fee...
30/03/2026

Sometimes we can be really tough on ourselves, with a list of “shoulds” in our mind, this could lead to shame and to feelings of inadequacies, that others are doing better.
Let’s try to look at the “shoulds” we carry and reframe them with some self-compassion. Let’s acknowledge that we are doing the best we can in the moment, and sometimes that looks like taking great strides while other times we need to take things minute by minute, and that is ok.

Anxiety can become such a big part of ours or our children’s lives, what may start of as a small ni**le could build to f...
23/03/2026

Anxiety can become such a big part of ours or our children’s lives, what may start of as a small ni**le could build to feel like it is taking over everything we do. It may not feel like it, but anxiety is there to protect us, it is our alert system to potential danger, but what happens when this alert system sees danger everywhere and evokes such a response that it takes over our body.
Some things that may help are:
To firstly acknowledge the anxiety, to remind ourselves that it is trying to protect us, maybe say out loud if it helps, “oh this is my anxiety it has spotted danger”.
Reassure your anxiety that there is no danger here, thank it for trying to look out for you, “thank you anxiety for protecting me, there is no danger here”
Use a grounding and breathing technique could help.
This is by no means a quick fix, it will take lots of practice and repetition for a nervous system to alter, so be kind to yourself, don’t expect results straightaway, it takes time, and that’s ok!

Our world can seem so binary when it comes to feelings, it’s right or it’s wrong, it’s good or it’s bad, yet the reality...
16/03/2026

Our world can seem so binary when it comes to feelings, it’s right or it’s wrong, it’s good or it’s bad, yet the reality is much more complicated. The grey in the middle, the combination of both are often unseen, this can lead to children unsure how they feel, or how they “should” feel. Allowing our children to understand that two feelings can co-exist could help them make sense of their emotions. To know that it’s ok to grieve but still have a good day, that you can feel worried about something new whilst also a bit excited about it, that you can love your best friend but not want to play with them all the time. Knowing this could create acceptance in our children, knowing that they can feel opposing emotions at the same time could help to alleviate guilt.

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