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Corbin Counselling Welcome, I’m Jocelyn Corbin, an accredited Integrative Counsellor and Psychotherapist (MBACP Accred) based in Basingstoke.

I work with both couples and individuals, offering counselling face-to-face, online (video), or by telephone to suit your needs.

📚 From My Bookcase | Us – Terry RealOne of the ideas I find particularly powerful in this book is how deeply our culture...
23/10/2026

📚 From My Bookcase | Us – Terry Real

One of the ideas I find particularly powerful in this book is how deeply our culture values individualism and independence, and how this can influence the way we show up in our relationships.

Terry Real explores how patriarchal values and the idea of being self-sufficient can create an imbalance within couples, where one person's needs, feelings or perspective can become more important than the other's.

We can find ourselves approaching our relationships from a position of 'me versus you', rather than 'us'.

But healthy relationships aren't about never needing anyone. They're about recognising that it's normal, and actually healthy, to rely on and depend upon one another.

We can be independent individuals and still need each other.

Something I often explore in my couples work is how we move away from defensiveness, blame or the need to be right, and towards curiosity, fairness, kindness and a sense of shared responsibility.

This doesn't mean abandoning our own needs or always putting our partner first. It means recognising that both people's experiences matter, and that we're on the same team.

I particularly appreciate how this book challenges some of the beliefs we've absorbed about what strength and independence should look like.

Sometimes the most powerful shift in a relationship is moving from 'How do I get you to understand me?' to 'How can we understand each other?'

💭 Connection isn't the opposite of independence. We can have both.

This is something that comes up so often in the therapy room.We can have a really good understanding of our behaviours, ...
20/10/2026

This is something that comes up so often in the therapy room.

We can have a really good understanding of our behaviours, recognise our patterns and even know where they come from. Yet, when we find ourselves in familiar situations, we can still respond in exactly the same way.

And that can feel incredibly frustrating.

But understanding why we do something and being able to respond differently are two different things.

Many of our patterns developed for a reason. They may have helped us feel safe, accepted, connected or protected at some point in our lives.

So rather than approaching these behaviours with frustration or self-criticism, what happens if we approach them with curiosity and compassion instead?

In therapy, we can explore not only where these patterns come from, but what keeps them going, what purpose they might still serve and how we might begin to experience something different.

And that last part is important.

Change often involves trying something unfamiliar. Setting a boundary, expressing a need, tolerating discomfort or responding differently in a situation where we've always reacted in a particular way.

It can feel uncomfortable, even when we know it's something we want.

This is where compassion becomes so important. We won't always get it right. We might fall back into familiar patterns, and that's okay. It doesn't mean we haven't made progress.

Sometimes change is simply recognising what's happening a little sooner, being a little kinder to ourselves and gradually discovering that another response is possible.

Understanding ourselves is valuable. But giving ourselves the space, patience and compassion to do something differently is part of how change happens.

A moment for reflection...What if confidence isn’t something you have to find before you begin?Confidence and self-estee...
19/08/2026

A moment for reflection...

What if confidence isn’t something you have to find before you begin?

Confidence and self-esteem have come up a lot in the therapy room recently.

We can easily imagine confident people as those who don’t doubt themselves, who know exactly what they’re doing, or who aren’t particularly bothered by what other people think.

But confidence doesn’t necessarily mean the absence of self-doubt.

Sometimes confidence looks like doing something while the doubt is still there.

Speaking up even though your voice feels shaky.
Setting a boundary even though you worry someone might be disappointed.
Trying something new without knowing whether you’ll be good at it.
Allowing yourself to take up space without immediately wondering whether you’re “too much”.
Making a decision without needing everyone else to reassure you that it’s the right one.

And self-esteem isn’t built simply by thinking more positively about ourselves.

It can grow through the experiences we give ourselves - noticing our needs, keeping promises to ourselves, recognising our strengths, treating ourselves with the same compassion we readily offer others, and learning that we can cope when things don’t go perfectly.

Perhaps confidence isn’t:

“I know I can do this.”

Perhaps sometimes it’s simply:

“I don’t know how this will go, but I trust myself enough to try.”

Sometimes we become so busy coping that we forget to ask ourselves whether we're actually living in a way that feels mea...
02/08/2026

Sometimes we become so busy coping that we forget to ask ourselves whether we're actually living in a way that feels meaningful.

Counselling isn't only for moments of crisis. It can also be a space to pause, reflect, understand yourself more deeply and create meaningful change.

If any of these signs resonated with you, I'd love to know which one spoke to you most.

With curiosity and compassion, Jocelyn

A little re-introduction...Hello, I'm Jocelyn.Whether you've been here for a while or you've only recently found my page...
07/07/2026

A little re-introduction...

Hello, I'm Jocelyn.

Whether you've been here for a while or you've only recently found my page, I thought it was time to say hello properly.

I believe that being truly heard can be life-changing.

For many people, it's a surprisingly rare experience to feel listened to without judgement, without someone trying to fix them, or without feeling they need to be anything other than themselves. That's what led me to become a counsellor, and it's something I continue to feel deeply privileged to offer every person who walks through my door.

I'm an integrative counsellor and psychotherapist based in Basingstoke, working with adults both in person and online across the UK and internationally.

People often come to see me feeling overwhelmed, stuck or exhausted from carrying things on their own. Sometimes they know exactly why they're struggling. Other times they simply know that life doesn't feel quite right anymore.

I work with people experiencing anxiety, depression, trauma, low self-esteem, relationship difficulties, neurodivergence, addiction, grief and loss, life transitions, and those navigating psychiatric medication withdrawal.

One of the things I love most about this work is that no two people are the same. I don't believe therapy should be a one-size-fits-all process. Every person brings their own story, experiences, strengths and challenges, and I believe therapy should honour that.

My approach is warm, collaborative and evidence-informed. I'm naturally curious and enjoy helping people make sense of themselves—not by judging or trying to "fix" them, but by creating a space where they can safely explore, understand and grow.

Outside of the therapy room you'll usually find me walking in nature, making music with friends, spending time with my family, or enjoying a good coffee.

Thank you for being here. Whether you're looking for support yourself, you're simply interested in mental health, or you've been quietly following along, I'm really glad you've found your way here.

If you're wondering whether counselling might be right for you, you're always welcome to get in touch for a free 15-minute chat.

Jocelyn 🤍

Sometimes we cope for so long that we forget how much we're carrying.If you're feeling overwhelmed, anxious, stuck, or f...
23/06/2026

Sometimes we cope for so long that we forget how much we're carrying.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, anxious, stuck, or finding relationships difficult, counselling can offer a safe space to explore what's going on and find a way forward.

I work with individuals and couples in Basingstoke and online, supporting clients with anxiety, relationship challenges, trauma, self-esteem, life transitions and more.

If you're curious about counselling, I offer a free 15-minute introductory call so we can see whether I'm the right fit for you.

💚 Daytime appointments available

📞 07305 074635

Many people assume healthy relationships are the ones with the least conflict.In reality, all relationships experience m...
23/06/2026

Many people assume healthy relationships are the ones with the least conflict.

In reality, all relationships experience moments of distance, misunderstanding, and disconnection.

The question isn't whether rupture will happen - it will.

The question is: what happens next?

Can we stay in the conversation? Can we repair? Can we find our way back to each other?

Often, that's where trust is built.

What does repair look like for you?

Corbin Counselling BACP Accredited Counsellor & Psychotherapist

A validating read for anyone who’s spent too long questioning themselves in relationships.
28/05/2026

A validating read for anyone who’s spent too long questioning themselves in relationships.

Anger is one of the emotions I think many of us struggle to understand, both in ourselves and in others.Some people fear...
20/05/2026

Anger is one of the emotions I think many of us struggle to understand, both in ourselves and in others.

Some people fear it. Some explode with it. Some suppress it completely. Some learned very early that they weren’t “allowed” to feel it at all.

But anger itself is not wrong.

Often underneath anger there is something deeply human: hurt, fear, grief, shame, helplessness, crossed boundaries, or unmet emotional needs.

And sometimes anger is less: “I am an angry person” and more: “My nervous system has moved into protection.”

That distinction can reduce so much shame.

Of course, not every reaction that comes from anger is helpful or healthy, but the emotion itself deserves curiosity rather than immediate judgement.

The goal isn’t to never feel anger. The goal is to understand it, express it safely, and respond rather than react.

If you’ve learned to keep others comfortable…you might have learned to override yourself in the process.To say yes when ...
22/04/2026

If you’ve learned to keep others comfortable…
you might have learned to override yourself in the process.

To say yes when you mean no
To stay quiet when something doesn’t feel right
To prioritise connection over authenticity

And that makes sense.
It likely served a purpose at some point.

But you’re allowed to take up space too.
🌿 This week, notice where you might choose yourself -
even in a small, compassionate way.

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