07/02/2026
I noticed some real-life effects of attachment-based actions this week… and it was wonderful ✨
I misplaced my usual glasses at some point during the week and had to resort to an old pair (cue the headache from a slightly wrong prescription 😅).
What surprised me was how many children in my school setting noticed straight away. As soon as they saw me, they said things like, “You’ve got different glasses,” or asked, “Have you got new glasses?” For context, many of these children work with me regularly — but one moment stood out in particular…
There’s a girl who says hello to me every time she sees me. I usually comment on her beautiful plaits or hairstyle that day, how happy she looks, or tell her I missed seeing her if I hadn’t seen her the day before. She’s not a child I work with 1:1 and isn’t part of any specific intervention with me.
Yet she noticed my change in glasses immediately — and it really got me thinking about how powerful secure attachment is, and how our small, consistent interactions may have provided her with that ❤️
In attachment theory, a securely attached child learns that people matter and are worth paying attention to. When caregivers consistently notice a child, that child learns to notice others in return.
Children with insecure attachment often notice changes too — but for a very different reason. They’re scanning for danger, cues, or signs that they might need to be cautious.
So often, children come to me with insecure attachment. And after 12 weeks of Drawing and Talking Therapy, many leave with something much closer to secure attachment — because for those 12 weeks, all my attention is on them and whatever wild and wonderful world they’ve created through their picture.
They’ve been seen… consistently… and that has shown them it’s possible within others too ❤️
I have now found my glasses… 🤓 phew!