12/08/2026
Apparently a dentist appointment is necessary⦠but a massage is a luxury?
Itās the school holidays, and I hear this a lot from mums:
āI need to cancel, I donāt have childcare.ā But I also hear:
āI feel guilty leaving the kids with someone just to come for a massage.ā And THAT part interests me.
We donāt usually feel guilty arranging childcare for the GP, dentist or physio. But massage? Somehow we still think:
āThatās something Iām doing for myself.ā But what if it isnāt simply a treat?
Especially when your therapist is rather annoyingly good at the therapeutic side of things.
If your back hurts, your neck isnāt moving properly, youāre exhausted, stressed or pain is affecting everyday life, looking after your body isnāt necessarily a luxury.
Because when Mum finally reaches the point where she canāt function, the whole household feels it. So maybe the question isnāt:
āShould I feel guilty for taking 60ā90 minutes for myself?ā Maybe itās: āWhy do I wait until something goes wrong before I give myself permission to look after my body?ā
Mums, Iām curious - Would you feel guilty arranging childcare for a dentist appointment? Would you feel the same guilt for a massage? Why?