28/07/2026
He made a comic.
For M E 😳
Anyone who know me well, knows that this is pretty epic!
Our AuDHDer struggles to process emotions. This means that for as long as we can remember there have been no “I love yous”, hugs, or acts of affection. Conversation is painfully honest, touch is a no go and most days I wonder if he loves us in the typical sense at all.
Then he made me a comic for my birthday.
He independently decided to make me something, chose to focus on it all day and then stayed up two hours past his bedtime just to finish it for me.
For my AuDHDer, his own time and routine are his safety net. He has never yet been able to put the needs of another before his own, and yet here he was spending an entire day creating something for someone else.
Bedtime is sacred and deviating from the “right time” almost always triggers anxiety and yet, he still willingly chose to stay up two hours past his bedtime just to finish it for me and he didnt resent me for it.
In neurotypical terms, this was a sweet gesture but in our world, it was a monumental sacrifice of his own comfort, safety, and energy, all to make me feel special.
We often measure love by physical affection and verbal declarations. But for SEND children, love can show up differently and sometimes it takes time. It can show up in intense focus, shared special interests, and in the effort it takes to step outside their comfort zone just to bring us into their world.
And after 13 years I was able to see a little glimpse of it.
To any SEND parent struggling to feel seen and loved, please know that you ARE ✨
It may take longer for them to show you, and it may not look conventional. But love doesn’t always need words. When they find their own way to show you, they W I L L . 💫
