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Coaching Psychologist (MSc) | Supporting parents, professionals and teams to lead with compassion, curiosity and confidence. Helping people thrive!

Delivering psychologically informed coaching, wellbeing workshops and staff training (in person & online).

26/10/2026

You get to the end of the day exhausted and think, “I haven’t stopped all day and I still haven’t done half of what I needed to.”

You’ve worked. Collected the children. Listened to the friendship fallout. Made dinner, helped with homework, replied to the school email and remembered tomorrow’s PE kit.

But the kitchen’s a mess again. There’s washing upstairs. You didn’t finish everything at work.

Those unfinished things become the verdict on your whole day.

Before motherhood, achievement might have been easier to recognise: a finished project, a target met, something tangible to show for your effort.

Now, so much of what takes your time and energy involves caring, planning, remembering and responding. There’s rarely a clear finishing point.

Paid work, caring for children and running a home are all forms of work. They ask different things of you. Measuring them all by what’s finished or visibly improved leaves a lot uncounted.

The mums I’ve coached have described how redefining success, productivity and achievement have helped them recognise things they hadn’t previously given themselves credit for.

That shift can help you recognise the value of your effort and feel a sense of accomplishment, even with things still on the list.

Tonight, try asking:
“What took my time, energy and attention today that I haven’t counted?”

What would you add? 💛

Follow for support with stress, self-doubt and feeling like you’re never doing enough.

20/10/2026

“You wanted children.”

Yes. Apparently that means you should be able to raise them without needing support, finding it hard or having anything to complain about.

You’re keeping track of everyone’s needs, thinking three steps ahead and making decisions that feel like they could affect your children for the rest of their lives.

Food. Sleep. Screen time. Friendships. Are you doing enough? Too much? Have you missed something?

Then you’re told you’re overthinking it. Being controlling. You need to relax.

But everyone still turns to you to ask what the plan is.

I want mums to have support before they’re completely burnt out. To be able to say “this isn’t working for me” and have that taken seriously.

You can love your children and want your day-to-day life to feel different.

In coaching, we work out what needs to change for YOU: the support you need, the expectations you’re trying to meet and what you want to do differently.

So your wellbeing has a say in how you parent and live, too.

DM me COACHING if you’d like to talk about working together.

19/10/2026

“It’s just how I am.”

How many things have you explained away with that sentence?

The planning. The checking. Offering to sort something when you’ve already got more than enough to do. Picking up on someone’s mood and immediately wondering how to make it better.

You’re organised. You’re helpful. You’re the one everyone can rely on.

But bloody hell, it’s exhausting when you feel like you can never stop.

Being caring doesn’t mean everyone’s happiness has to be your responsibility. Being capable doesn’t mean you have to be the one who sorts everything.

And sometimes you really ARE doing too much because other people aren’t doing enough. You can’t “just let go” of responsibilities that nobody else is taking on.

But there can also be things you’ve got so used to doing that you barely notice you’re doing them. Stepping in before anyone asks. Saying yes before checking whether you want to. Struggling to leave something with someone else without keeping an eye on it.

That’s something we can explore in coaching. What actually needs your attention? What could be shared? What happens when you say no, let someone do it differently or make a decision that someone else isn’t thrilled about?

I’m here for the mums who want to care for the people they love and still have some time, energy and say in their own lives.

If you recognise yourself here, DM me COACHING and we can chat about working together 💛

16/10/2026

My god, can a mum do anything without someone having something to say about it?!

Keep track of everything and she’s controlling. Say no and she’s being difficult. Make time for herself and she’s selfish. Admit she’s struggling and suddenly it’s “well, you chose to have children.”

When did being a good mum come to mean having no needs, no limits and absolutely nothing to complain about?

And the frustrating bit? Sometimes we’ve heard these things so often that we start saying them to ourselves.

I’m here for the mums who are questioning all of this. Who love their children and want a life that has room for them too. Who are learning to trust their decisions, say “that’s too much for me” and share the responsibility without having to supervise the whole bloody thing.

We tell mums to look after themselves, then judge them when they actually do.

If you’re recognising yourself in this and want support with trusting your decisions, setting limits and making room for yourself, DM me COACHING and we can chat about working together.

Post inspired by Lauren Lauren Baird | Marketing | Business coach for therapists 💛

14/10/2026

Your brain at 10pm: “Remember that thing you forgot to do in 2019?”

You’d think after a full day of doing All The Things, your mind might clock off when you do. But no. It’s still there, replaying conversations, running through tomorrow’s schedule, and generally refusing to give you five minutes of peace.

The mental load is real. And it doesn’t care that you’re exhausted.

So here are five questions that might actually help you sort through the noise. Not in a “fix yourself with positive thinking” way more in a “let’s get clear on what’s actually going on here” way.

Because when you’re running on empty, your brain treats everything like it’s urgent. The school form. The replayed conversation. The vague sense you’re failing.

But here’s the thing: not everything spinning around in there needs the same response. Some of it needs action. Some needs reassurance. And some? Someone else needs to sort it out.

Swipe through and see what lands. Save it for when your brain’s doing its 3am greatest hits.

And if you’re reading this thinking “yes, but HOW do I actually change this?” DM me SUPPORT. Let’s talk about what it looks like to work together.

12/10/2026

The “calm” people notice has taken a LOT of work.

Which is wild, because I’m naturally prone to anxiety, catastrophic thinking and wanting to control things when I’m stressed 😅

I’ve spent years understanding my reactions, what I carry from growing up, and why someone else being upset can feel like something I urgently need to fix.

With my daughter, I’ve worked hard to stop making her feelings and behaviour about me. I’m clear on my values and the relationship I want us to have.

She can be unhappy with a boundary. I can understand her feelings and still hold it.

Do I always feel calm? Absolutely bloody not.
Do I always get it right? Also no.

But I can feel uncomfortable and still choose how I respond.

If you’re constantly watching everyone’s moods, keeping the peace or saying yes because dealing with their reaction feels harder… you’ll know how exhausting that is.

What if you could hold a boundary even when you feel guilty? Be kind without fixing? Care about someone’s feelings without taking them all on board?

What would change for you?

If you’d like to explore how coaching could help you feel steadier and more confident in those moments, send me a DM 💚

P.S. My daughter and niece had locked themselves in the gym toilet in this photo. We had to find a random man from the industrial estate to get them out. But yeah, we can call that calm 😂

05/10/2026

We’ve been sold some seriously unhelpful stories about what it means to be a “good mum.”

You know the ones. The little niggling voice that says you should be able to handle it all, that asking for help means you’re failing, that your needs can wait until… when exactly?

Here’s what I want you to know: **being capable doesn’t mean you have unlimited capacity.**

The exhaustion you’re feeling? The resentment creeping in? The guilt when you dare to rest? None of that is a personal failing. It’s what happens when the bar keeps rising and the support stays exactly where it is.

You’re not struggling because you’re doing motherhood wrong. You’re struggling because the expectations placed on mums are completely unrealistic.

Swipe through to see five beliefs we’ve normalised in motherhood that are actually setting us up for burnout.

Because loving your children and saying “today has been really hard” can absolutely coexist. 👉
**You don’t have to reach breaking point before your needs count.**

If you’re ready to stop pushing through and start building a version of motherhood that includes shared responsibility, clear boundaries and actual space for YOU – message me. Let’s explore working together to create change that reflects your values AND your needs.

You deserve support that actually supports. 💛

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