29/08/2026
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The headaches didn't stop after the wedding. They got worse. You already know the doctors couldn't help, painkillers were all anyone offered, and none of it touched what was really going on.
Eventually I was put on a waiting list, two years long, for the pain clinic at the Charitรฉ in Berlin, one of the most renowned university hospitals in Germany. I got in a year early. They found inflammation in my spine and gave me injections. It helped, for a while. Then the pain always came back.
Eventually, the doctors decided my pain was psychosomatic. They sent me to a doctor who ran a course, once a week for six weeks, only for chronic pain patients. There, we learned autogenic training together, a way of speaking to your own nervous system until it learns to calm itself. Each week we were given one new sequence to add, and we had to practise what we already knew three times a day at home, until it became automatic.
I still remember the exact feeling, three weeks in. I used to cycle from my flat to that class and back. On the ride home after week three, I suddenly noticed I felt happy. Properly happy, relaxed, light, in a way I hadn't felt in years. And then I realised something else. I hadn't thought about my headaches at all. Not once. I'd simply forgotten them.
That was the actual end of it. Not one more injection, not one more pill. My own nervous system, finally given a way to switch itself off, one small sequence at a time.
I still practise it almost every day, over thirty years later.
It took me much longer to understand why the headaches had started in the first place. Not the exam. Not even the wedding, not really. Underneath both of them was something older, a feeling I'd carried since I was a child, that whatever I did, it had to be better, because good was never quite good enough. That belief is what pushed me past every limit I had, again and again, until my body finally forced me to stop.
I didn't understand any of that back then. I only understood it years later, looking back.
That's the difference I try to give my patients now, the thing I wish someone had given me. Not just a technique to calm the body, but the understanding of what's actually driving it underneath.
I know exactly where you are, if any part of this sounds familiar. I've been there. And I'm not there anymore.
If youโre carrying something similar now, a body that wonโt settle, a mind that wonโt stop pushing, Iโd love for you to join for an Inner Healer Connection Live Group.
Itโs a small, guided space where we work through exactly this together.
You can find the details here: https://mailchi.mp/5bc33e1b01ac/27-inner-healer-connection-live-group-experience
If youโd rather start with something smaller first, I also wrote a short, free e-book, Five Gentle Ways to Connect With Your Inner Healer. You can download it here: https://mailchi.mp/8f033f9655cc/g4w27nr1q6