28/05/2026
There's been a flurry of news headlines following the documentary. I had the privilege of working on this production offering psychological consultancy services in my role as Clinical Psychologist.
There will be a lot of speculation about what might or might not have happened. We may never get to the full truth. I will not speculate on the details, as I think it is important that we let investigations take place.
One of the things I find important here is understanding how the format of the programme created the perfect environment for trauma and ongoing psychological distress. MAFS started off as a more observational documentary style reality show. As it gained popularity, its format was changed to include dinner parties and generally more situations where social scrutiny and drama can happen. We know very well that drama sells, sadly.
You have two strangers "marrying" each other, with a very strong expectation that they act like a married couple, I.e. with an expectation of intimacy, s*x, trust, vulnerability. The difference between this scenario and real life is that in real life all those things come after emotional safety has been established and very much gradually as two people get to know each other.
Sure, people have one night stands with strangers in real life too, but they can then go back to their safe home environment, talk about it with friends and never see the person again if they don't wish to. On MAFS on the other hand, they are expected to stay with each other 24/7. They cannot leave, which in other words means they are effectively trapped - not in the "you are a prisoner" sense but we are not far off. The "expert" panel, often criticises those who might be hesitant to move to the next step around intimacy or emotional vulnerability for not being "all in" with the experiment. To add to that, you have a charged social situation where competition for the "best couple" and dramatic dinner parties add to the already intense mix. This is the perfect ground for trauma and abuse to take place.
I hope we can achieve some meaningful change in the industry to protect contributors and ensure this never happens again.