Nicola Jane Hobbs

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Nicola Jane Hobbs

I help women feel safe enough to rest, play and fall in love with life.

As an integrative counsellor and lifestyle consultant, I combine counselling, yoga, breath work, meditation, nutrition and psychological skills training to help people thrive. In my private practice, I work with entrepreneurs, executives, athletes, authors and anyone experiencing body image distress, anxiety and burnout. In my books, I explore healing, awakening, grief, joy, stress, rest, success, community and how we can make the most of these precious breaths we call life.

22/08/2026

Gentleness can become familiar. Doing less can become familiar. Rest can become familiar. Feeling safe, loved and worthy can become familiar ♥️

This is what we explore in Becoming The Relaxed Woman — noticing the familiar survival patterns that deplete us and practising gentler ways of being until they feel like home. It’s half price until Monday. You can find the link in my bio.

20/08/2026

I know I’m not the only woman who becomes harder on herself the more tired she becomes.

When we’re stretched or depleted, our nervous systems often reach for what is familiar, what once helped us feel safe, even when what is familiar no longer nourishes us.

The beautiful thing is that, with practise and gentleness, our nervous systems can learn new ways of responding to exhaustion until caring for ourselves begins to feel like home.

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Becoming The Relaxed Woman is about learning to recognise the survival patterns we naturally reach for — urgency, perfectionism, constant busyness, self-sacrifice — and discovering gentler ways of responding. The course is half price until Monday. You can find the link in my bio.

19/08/2026

There are days when I would love to journal, to meditate, to flow through some gentle sun salutations but the truth is, I rarely have the time or energy or motivation.

And I know I’m not alone. So many of us want to care for ourselves but we are in seasons of our lives where we are pulled in so many directions.

Instead of trying to recreate the practices I once had space for, I’ve started keeping two lists — “Today I noticed how tiring it is when…” and “Today I noticed how restorative it is when…”.

The first list helps me notice the moments when I move away from myself and where I need compassion for myself. The second list helps me notice the little things that bring my nervous system back towards safety.

Paying attention to the everyday things that deplete us and those that restore us offers us a kind of map, helping us discover small sources of nourishment amidst the sacred chaos of our lives.

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I created Becoming The Relaxed Woman to help you find these small moments where you can step out of survival mode and return to yourself. The course is half price until Monday (you can find the link in my bio).

16/08/2026

It’s taken me a lifetime to untangle true guilt from the guilt I inherited, from the guilt I think all women absorb from diet culture and productivity culture and all the expectations about what a ‘good woman’ should be.

I’m realising that so much of the guilt we feel — for eating a croissant, for taking a nap, for letting our little ones watch TV — isn’t really guilt at all. It’s the discomfort of breaking a rule we never consciously agreed to follow. It feels uncomfortable at first but, little by little, it feels a lot like freedom.

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False guilt is one of the eight patterns that keep us in survival mode that we explore inside Becoming The Relaxed Woman. The course is half price until 24th August and you can find the link in my bio.

14/08/2026

I think one of the hardest parts of being a woman is unlearning the rules we were taught so that we would be ‘good girls’.

Never make mistakes. Never be too emotional. Never rely too much on other people.

But since I’ve become a mother, I’ve realised I don’t want my children growing up following these rules.

I want them to know that they can make mistakes and still be worthy, that they can tell the truth about how they feel, that they can let themselves be seen and held and cared for.

And I want this for you. And for me too.

☀️ Summer offer: Gently unlearning these rules and discovering the truths underneath them is at the heart of my course, Becoming The Relaxed Woman. It’s 50% off until 24th August and you can find the link in my bio.

12/08/2026

Take what you need ♥️

I’m 37 weeks pregnant with a toddler in a heat wave and motherhood is messy and beautiful and exhausting and life-giving and depleting and deeply nourishing and the best thing that’s ever happened to me — and I find parts of it really hard.

If you are in the thick of it, may you remember that you can love your children fiercely and still find motherhood hard.

10/08/2026

Just a few of the gloriously ordinary things healing has freed me for.

Because the goal isn’t just to free ourselves from anorexia or anxiety or perfectionism or whatever is making our lives feel smaller, it’s to free us for love, for beauty, for joy.

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07/08/2026

I don’t talk about this part of my life much anymore. Perhaps because healing has given me so many other things to care about. So many other things to dream about. So many other things to love. But every so often, a gloriously ordinary moment reminds me just how grateful I am to be free.

If you are healing — from an eating disorder, from perfectionism, from anxiety, from trauma, from anything that has made your life feel smaller — please keep going. Please trust that life can be more gentle and more beautiful than you ever could imagine.

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06/08/2026

When I’m having a rough day, these are the words I long to hear.

Of course you’re tired. Of course you’re overwhelmed. Of course you need more support.

These words remind us that we are allowed to feel how we feel, that we are not failing, that we are not broken, that our emotions are responses to the wild and precious reality of our lives.

You can love your life and still find parts of it hard.

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02/08/2026

I shared this is my stories last week and received more messages than almost anything I’ve shared in a long time. And it reminded just how many of us are carrying the same impossible expectations and just how deeply we long to feel seen in the tender, messy, exhausting reality of motherhood rather than the impossible ideals we’ve been taught to strive for.

So I wanted to share it here too, in case you needed to hear this today:

Your children don’t need you to be a perfect mother. They simply need you — with all your imperfections and limitations and soft places, in all your messiness and tenderness and humanness.

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Brighton
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Website

http://www.NicolaJaneHobbs.com/, http://therelaxedwoman.com/becoming

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