03/08/2026
Not Zen… Yet
People often ask me if I’ve always loved flowers.
Truth be told… I’ve probably loved writing just as much.
Not the sort of writing where you sit in a matching lounge set, light a £40 candle and write beautifully in a leather journal while whale music plays in the background.
No.
Mine looks more like a woman who’s had six ideas before breakfast, can’t find a pen, writes on the back of a feed bill, loses it, remembers it three days later in the glove box and declares herself a literary genius.
I’ve done it since I was a teenager.
If someone annoyed me… I’d write.
If life annoyed me… I’d write.
If my children annoyed me… well… there wasn’t enough paper in Gloucestershire.
It wasn’t a diary because diaries involve dates and order.
I once found a note I’d written to myself saying, “Don’t lose this.”
I’d lost it.
So let’s do some maths.
Don’t panic. There won’t be a test. I failed most of those anyway.
Money and I have never really been mates.
When the children were little there wasn’t money for holidays, new cars or fancy coffee.
Some weeks there wasn’t even enough for the bridge toll to visit my brother in Bristol.
Back then my idea of retail therapy was buying the branded washing powder instead of the supermarket one and feeling outrageously extravagant.
As a single mum, spending money on myself sat somewhere below “buying new pants” on the priority list.
Then I hear people say…
“I couldn’t possibly spend £30 a week on the sauna.”
Fair enough…
But then…
How many coffees have sneaked into your week?
One after school drop-off because you’ve earned it.
One after food shopping because Tesco was emotionally exhausting.
One because Sandra fancied a catch-up.
One because it’s Tuesday.
One because… well… why not?
Before you know it you’ve spent enough to buy a small village in Costa.
And don’t even get me started on adding syrup.
Four quid for someone to sq**rt caramel into milk.
We’ve all lost the plot.
The funny thing is, we convince ourselves that’s normal, but spending money on feeling genuinely better somehow feels extravagant.
How does that work?
And while we’re on the school run…
Can we talk about parents in the rain?
Honestly, if there’s a single cloud in the sky you’d think the children were being dropped into the Amazon rainforest.
Cars everywhere.
Hazard lights flashing.
Parents attempting manoeuvres that would impress Formula One drivers.
All so little Freddie only has to walk twelve inches.
Meanwhile, the rest of us are trying to squeeze through wondering whether we’ll get home before Christmas.
Then, once we’re finally walking…
Heads down.
Phones out.
If aliens landed tomorrow, half of us wouldn’t notice because we’d be replying to “OK xx” on WhatsApp.
Look up.
Honestly.
The trees are free.
The birds are having rows that make your family Christmas look positively civilised.
Flowers are quietly doing their thing without posting motivational quotes on Instagram.
Nature’s clever like that.
Now…
Five coffees at £4.
That’s £20.
Chuck in a couple more because life happened.
There’s your £30 or £40 gone.
A jar of coffee?
Six quid.
Boil the kettle.
Froth your own milk if you’re feeling fancy.
You don’t need a barista called Josh drawing a heart in your latte.
You need an hour where nobody asks where their PE kit is.
Or what’s for tea.
Or whether you’ve seen the dog’s lead.
That’s wellness.
The sauna.
The cold plunge.
The laughter.
The conversations.
The moment your shoulders finally realise they don’t have to live attached to your ears.
I never thought I’d be someone who says, “Ooh, I do love a chai latte.”
I definitely never thought I’d willingly climb into freezing cold water.
Yet here we are.
I’m still not Zen.
I still lose my keys.
I still walk into rooms and forget why.
I still buy plants with absolutely nowhere sensible to put them.
But I’m slowly learning that looking after yourself isn’t an expense.
It’s a necessity.
And frankly…
You’re far more important than a takeaway coffee.
Even if it does come with oat milk and a very pretty leaf on the top.
Hannah