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The Space Between Therapy UK, Cornwall (2026)

18/06/2026

Mornings can feel like a battlefield, can’t they? 😴☕️

Special thanks to Your Life & Soul Counselling for helping to remind me of what I knew but had forgotten!

You wake up already dreading the routine, bracing yourself for the pushback, and preparing for the inevitable meltdown. In our adult brains, we often think: “I need to stand my ground and build independence. If I help them now, I’m just making a rod for my own back.”

Spoiler alert: That approach is actually working against neuroscience.

Swipe through the carousel to see how I used neuro-affirming CBT to flip the script on our chaotic mornings.

🧠 The Neuroscience Shift
Our little ones aren’t operating from adult logic; especially when they are dysregulated. They operate entirely on feeling. When we force a rigid routine over connection, we accidentally trigger a vicious cycle of frustration for everyone. True independence isn’t built on an absence of support; it’s built on co-regulation.

✨ Moving from Chaos to Calm
By ditching the nagging and leaning into play, everything changed for us. We went from a morning battleground to posing like flamingos just to put socks on!

If mornings are tough right now, try checking for hidden needs first (like hunger, tiredness, or sensory overwhelm) and shifting your approach:

🧩 Gamify it: Turn boring tasks into a race or a silly challenge.

🗣️ Shift your tone: Trade a stern demand for a song or a character voice.

🤝 Connect before you direct: Meet them with regulation first, and watch their willingness kick in.

It might feel like extra effort at first, but starting the day connected, calm, and regulated is worth every single second. ❤️

💬 Which slide resonated with you the most? Are you stuck in a vicious morning cycle, or ready to try a virtuous one? Let’s chat in the comments!

👇 Save this post for the next time tomorrow morning feels like a mountain to climb.

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15/06/2026

The noise doesn’t stop. Neither does the love.

Being a neurodivergent mum with sensory differences means some days the chaos is a lot. The Danny Go. The commentary. The fighting over nothing. And somehow also the most full your heart has ever felt.

It’s a lot in every direction. And I wouldn’t change it for the world.

15/06/2026

Jam Up!

Transitions can be hard. Many parents can struggle to know what’s the right or wrong thing to do. Research posits that ‘difficult’ moments are not a sign of disobedience but a skills deficit. Be it emotional regulation, impulse control, distress tolerance etc. Even adults can struggle with this when faced with significant daily demands.

Getting dressed. Brushing teeth. Leaving the house. These things can be challenging for children. Each transition may seem like a simple request but under the surface are a series of executive functioning skills that are needed to complete tasks. The prefrontal cortex (the part responsible for task-switching and initiating action) is still under construction at school age. The human brain does not mature until approx aged 24, and the gap is even more delayed in neurodivergent people. The gap between what a child wants to do and what their brain can execute is real, not wilful.

There’s a difference between helping and doing things for them. Children build independence most effectively when support fits the gap, not when we remove the challenge entirely, and not when we demand performance without a bridge to get there. Capability is also not linear, capacity can change and progress and regress.

Research on scaffolding and executive function development shows that children build independence most effectively when the support fits the gap not when we remove the challenge entirely, and not when we demand performance without support.

Language matters. “Put your shoes on” lands very differently to “can you get one shoe on?” Narrating a step, showing it, making it feel small enough to start.

Jam Up is an app that removes the ‘demand’ whilst providing a visual prompts to support children with building independence with transitions. Less stress, more connection and regulation.

Independence isn’t built by removing help. It’s built by getting the right sized amount of help.

www.jam-up.io

10/06/2026

Nobody hands you a manual for this. You reach your late 30s and early 40s feeling confident that you know who you are and what your strengths are. Then sadly, perimenopause quietly dismantles everything you thought you knew about your brain.

If you’re neurodivergent, this hits even harder because the oestrogen that was softening your ADHD symptoms, keeping your mood stable and helping you hold it all together starts to decline. This means that the strategies that worked no longer have the same effect.

This carousel is everything I wish someone had told me before I ended up really unwell on synthetic hormones that weren’t right for my brain.

You deserve a GP who understands this intersection. And if you don’t have one, you’re allowed to push back.

Here are some credible accounts that I follow which explores the depths of hormones, the intersection of neurodivergence and neuroendocrinology.

08/06/2026

You might be looking at this thinking, why is a therapist telling me she loves chillies and hiked a volcano? Because I’m not a blank slate therapist. I am human first. Therapist second.

For a lot of neurodivergent people, neutrality reads as reads as unreadable. An unreadable face, an unreadable tone, an unreadable relationship can be interpreted as threatening rather than safety. Not to say that neutrality doesn’t have a time and a place, but perhaps for those encountering therapy for the first time, when opening up is hard and daunting, small moments of shared vulnerability can help to grow connection, compassion and courage.

When you’ve spent years scanning every interaction for cues about whether you’re safe, a therapist who gives nothing away may not feel containing. It can feel like more of the same exhausting work, just in a room where you’re also supposed to be vulnerable.

I bring warmth, honesty, and real human presence into the work to create a space where growth can occur.

There is a courageous part of me that wants to echo the importance of being human and another part of me that wants to not be perceived. So here’s me exposing myself to being perceived.

07/06/2026

Therapy isn’t a course of antibiotics. You don’t just complete it and move on, cured.

But it’s also not something you need forever.

The length of time someone spends in therapy is so individual and honestly, one of the questions I get asked most. How long will it take? Will I need to come forever? What if I want answers quickly?

The truth is, I genuinely don’t know at the start. Nobody does. What I do know is that your nervous system sets the pace, not a fixed number of sessions on a referral form.

Some people come for six sessions and leave feeling like themselves again. Some need longer to unpick patterns that have been there for decades. Some pause, go live life for a bit, and come back. All of it is valid. We’re not here to ‘fix’ you but help you to come home to yourself.

Therapy isn’t is a quick fix and also isn’t a life sentence.

It’s just the right amount of time. Whatever that looks like for you.

Feel free to email me with any enquiry questions on my website - link in bio.

06/06/2026

EMDR theorises that our brain is capable of Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) but that in traumatic situations, when our amygdala is actively keeping us safe, our memory store can go offline, in turn, preventing our AIP from resolving traumas as we ordinarily with day to day experiences.

EMDR is a NICE recommended therapy for various difficulties including single event PTSD.

EMDR research shows large therapeutic effect sizes (g = 0.75 to 0.93) for reducing PTSD and trauma symptoms compared against people who don’t receive support (Seok & Kim, 2024). EMDR can also help with various difficulties including depressed mood, anxiety, social anxiety and phobias. A few studies showed that single event traumas could be overcome in 3-6 sessions.

Studies also show that EMDR helps to overcome difficulties in a shorter space of time, therefore making EMDR a more cost effective solution for certain difficulties.

02/06/2026

I spent years convincing myself I couldn’t have ADHD. Because I was organised and I checked everything twice. I never missed a deadline (I just lost sleep over it instead or created false deadlines and finished them all a month before - as pressure leads me to complete overwhelm).

Those weren’t signs I didn’t have ADHD. They were signs I’d been masking it for so long, that even I couldn’t see it anymore.

I knew the criteria. I just kept questioning and doubting out of uncertainty. That’s the thing about masking in women and girls especially. The exhaustion gets misread as anxiety. The hyper-organisation gets called perfectionism. The self-monitoring gets filed under low self-esteem. But underneath all of it is a system trying to compensate for executive functioning challenges.

If you saw yourself in any of these slides, you’re not broken. You’re adapting to a world that is build differently to the way you operate.

Save this if it resonates. Share it with someone who needs to see it.

💬 Which one hit closest to home for you?

01/06/2026

I love being a mum. I hand on heart wouldn’t trade it in for the world. Though I still mourn about not being able to cope how I hoped I would in certain situations. But I’ve learnt to accept this, accommodate for my needs and acknowledge the positives that come with having a heightened sensory system which includes hyper-empathy.

Everyone has their own way of experiencing information through their senses, but some people are much more/less sensitive than others. This is often linked to conditions like autism or sensory processing disorder. Many people might feel both overly and under-sensitive to different things, though this isn’t true for everyone.

Forcing yourself to endure situations such as bright lights, aversive sounds and smells won’t lead to habituation over time. It is a physiological phenomenon and we can’t force only seek to work with what we’re born with.

Drop 🧡 below if you can relate
Is there something that I haven’t mentioned that what works for you?

One day I’ll have more time for bigger trips and social gatherings but for now, I’ve accepted that this is my current chapter and I’m ok with that.

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28/05/2026

Not all anxiety is the same. And if you’re neurodivergent, that distinction is important.

GAD, ADHD anxiety, and autistic anxiety look similar on the surface but they’re driven by completely different things. One is about worry spiralling. One is about a nervous system that can’t regulate dopamine. One is about a world that wasn’t built for how your brain works.

And yet? All three get lumped under the same diagnosis. All three get the same generic treatment plan. And a lot of neurodivergent people spend years in therapy that was never designed for them.

If you’re autistic or ADHD and you’ve been told you have GAD, it’s worth asking some questions.

• what experience does the therapist have in working with neurodivergent people
• what knowledge do they have about the intersection of neurodivergence, burnout, health and hormones?

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