The Real Me Therapy

The Real Me Therapy A qualified ADHD coach, transformational coach, integrative Psychotherapist and Somatic Experience practitioner. Supporting healing and change.

15/09/2026

Acceptance is not giving up. It is the moment you stop fighting reality.

It is not resignation.
It is not deciding the person doesn't matter.

It is the moment you stop pouring your energy into trying to make someone capable of something they don't have the capacity for.
And start meeting them exactly where they are.
The dysregulated nervous system will keep trying. Keep explaining. Keep hoping.

Because uncertainty feels more survivable than the grief of accepting the truth.

The regulated nervous system understands — I cannot give someone capacity they don't have. I can only manage my own.
I can only show up with mine.
And I can only decide what I am and am not willing to accept within that.

That is not giving up.
That is the highest form of self-respect.
If this is landing — the free masterclass explains exactly what's happening in your nervous system when you can't let go of a relationship that can't give you what you need.

One hour. Free. Link in bio. 👆

Where are you currently mistaking acceptance for giving up? Tell me below.

14/09/2026

There is a relationship in your life that your body already knows will never be what you need it to be.

Not your head. Your body.
The head will keep trying. Keep hoping. Keep finding new angles. Keep telling you that this time will be different.

The body already knows.
There is a grief that lives in the gap between what you want from someone and what they are capable of giving.
Not dramatic grief. The quiet kind.
The kind that has probably been there for a long time.

Most people do one of two things with that grief.
They keep trying to fix the unfixable. More effort, more appeasement, more explanation, more hope.
Or they create distance. Tell themselves it doesn't matter. Bury it under work or busyness or numbness.

Neither one moves the grief through.
Only feeling it does.

This week in Relentless we went there.
If you want to understand what your nervous system does with grief it hasn't been allowed to feel — the free masterclass is the place to start.

One hour. Free. Link in bio. 👆

Is there a relationship in your life that your body already knows cannot be what you need it to be? Tell me below.

I can't even begin to say how proud I am.Watch this space, coming very soon
11/09/2026

I can't even begin to say how proud I am.

Watch this space, coming very soon

10/09/2026

Do you prioritise yourself?

Just wondered as its been a tough week personally for loved ones.

This morning felt important to get out early and get some fresh air

Regulate and have a bit of me time

I will have alot of connection this week and it can quickly overwhelm me, so its important that I can recharge

How hard do you find it?

Let me know in the comments

07/09/2026

Tonight. 6pm. Relentless 90 begins.

For anyone who has been reading this week and knows this is for you — this is the moment.

Not Monday. Tonight.
13 weeks. Live on Zoom. Monday and Thursday at 6pm. Maximum 10 people. Direct access to me for 90 days.
This is the last cohort until January 2027.

The free clarity call takes 30 minutes. I'll tell you honestly whether it's the right fit. If it's not — I'll point you somewhere that is.

Reply to this post directly and I'll come back to you personally.

18/08/2026

Your nervous system knows how to complete an activation cycle. You keep interrupting it.

Animals in the wild do this constantly and effortlessly.

A deer being chased by a predator — full sympathetic activation, escape, then literally shaking the energy out of the body and returning to grazing.
No rumination. No medication. No protocol.
Just the cycle completing.

Human beings interrupt this process.
We feel the beginning of activation and immediately reach for something to stop it.
The phone. The food. The drink. The logical explanation. The breathing technique used not to resource — but to escape.
And because the cycle never completes — the activation never fully discharges.

It stays in the body. Accumulating. Building.
Until the capacity is so low that even small triggers produce enormous responses.
Your body knows how to do this.
It has always known.

You just have to stop getting in the way.
What do you do to interrupt your activation cycle before it can complete?

Tell me below.

14/08/2026

This week I delivered a free masterclass to 78 people and forgot to record it.

I re-recorded it the next morning.
I finished module seven of the Level 3 accredited course I'm writing.

I played golf with a scratch player and a four handicap — my handicap is 36 — and stayed in the discomfort instead of shrinking from it.
I built two new products from scratch.
And I'm still here. Not overwhelmed. Not burned out. Not running on adrenaline and cortisol and sheer willpower.
Actually here.

A year ago — even six months ago — a week like this would have floored me. The pressure of it. The visibility. The uncertainty of whether any of it would land. My nervous system would have found a way to sabotage it or escape it before it got too real.

This week I just showed up. Every day. Did the next thing. Managed my expectations. Regulated when I needed to. And kept going.
That's not motivation. That's not discipline.
That's a nervous system that has been given enough new information — through enough consistent practice — to know that the discomfort isn't going to destroy me.
That's the work.

And it's available to anyone willing to do it.
If you want to understand how your nervous system works — and what becomes possible when you do

Message me the word Masterclass and I will send it to you

One hour. Free. Watch it this weekend.

What does your week look like when you stop fighting your nervous system and start working with it? Tell me below.

12/08/2026

78 people registered. I forgot to record it. So I did it again.

Last night I ran a free masterclass on why your brain works the way it does.

An hour on your nervous system. Why ADHD is not an attention deficit. Why you avoid, freeze, and can't get started. And what actually changes when you finally understand it.
I forgot to hit record.

So this morning I recorded it again. And I'm giving it away for free. Permanently.

No diagnosis needed. No prior knowledge. No cost.
Just one honest hour that could change how you understand yourself.

Message me the word Masterclass and I will send you the link.

01/08/2026

I used to never find joy in anything.
Not because I was depressed.

Because I was surviving.

My nervous system was so consumed with what was next, what was wrong, what needed fixing — that it didn't know how to receive a moment. How to just be in something without scanning it for the threat in it.

This morning I got back from a two-hour trail run with my running club.

Six o'clock in the morning. Countryside. Fresh air.
All the way through winter there were just two of us. Two people showing up in the dark and the cold because we both knew what it gave us.
Wednesday morning — sixteen people turned up.

And standing there on the trails with that small community around me — I felt it. That thing I couldn't feel for most of my adult life.
Joy. Simple, uncomplicated joy.

Not from an achievement. Not from hitting a target or closing a deal or ticking something off a list.
Just from showing up. Moving my body. Being in nature. Being with people who get it.

That's what a regulated nervous system gives you.
Not just better focus. Not just less overwhelm.
The ability to actually receive your own life.
If you want to understand how your nervous system works — and what becomes possible when it does

I'm running a free masterclass on Monday 10th August at 6.30pm.
Why Your Brain Works the Way It Does.
One hour. Free. Online.

Link in bio to register.

Message me the word Masterclass and I will send the free registration link

31/07/2026

Stop asking permission to trust yourself.

The permission was always yours to give.
This week in Relentless we went into self-trust. The real version of it. Not the motivational poster version.

The reason most people don't trust themselves isn't a lack of intelligence or capability.
It's a nervous system that learned — somewhere along the way — that its own judgement wasn't safe. That the cost of being wrong was too high. That it was better to look outside for answers than to risk trusting the ones inside.

And so they keep asking. Keep looking. Keep waiting for someone to tell them it's okay to do the thing they already know they need to do.
Here's what I know after fifteen years of this work:
The answer is almost always already there. In the body. In the quiet underneath the noise. In the part of you that knows — before the mind starts arguing.

Self-trust is not the absence of doubt.
It's the decision to move forward in the presence of it.

If this is where you are — the free masterclass is for you. Monday 10th August, 6.30pm. Why Your Brain Works the Way It Does. One hour. Free

Link in bio to register.

What would you stop asking permission for if you fully trusted yourself?
Tell me in the comments.

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