Sue S Counselling and Supervision

21/10/2026

Healing is not a linear direction it is a brain-based process involving our nervous systems as we support it to rewire. This takes time and experiences e.g. acknowledging our pain, self-refection’s, supportive relationships and expressing ourselves emotionally.

In our healing we are strengthening our neural pathways and redirecting them, creating new neural pathways.

This takes repetition its not a one cure all situation.

We need patience, understanding and self-compassion as we work through our traumas and anxieties as our reasoning brain and our emotional brain come together in harmony for our overall well-being.

It is necessary to reflect upon what we want, where we are and where we want to go forward to.

As we gain more emotional clarity we reduce reactivity and gain a greater sense of control, hope and meaning to our lives.

We got to where we are now through repetition and it is repetition that will move us forward towards health and emotional wealth.

So wear your thinking cap and work smarter not harder.

20/10/2026

GETTING TO KNOW OUR RESPONSES - Stuck in the freeze response the body doesn’t just freeze at times of obvious trauma or moments of life-threatening danger. It affects our everyday situations and functioning.

The body doesn’t allow for much movement even for things which are pleasurable like dancing, walking, exercising, its to busy using the energy on constant survival alert.

Stuck in freeze the body is scanning continually for threats and danger, so an argument or confrontation may seem simple to some, but a person stuck in freeze is likely to shutdown or emotionally distance themselves.

The freeze response is often accompanied by shame, and shame is one of the most powerful triggers for freezing, feeling exposed, judged or criticised can also shutdown feeling paralyzed where most people would feel uncomfortable or brush things off.

The nervous system has been over sensitized to triggers within its environment constantly scanning the environment every second leave the person with constant fatigue and little energy to carry out daily activities.

The brain has learnt to immobilize because it feels safest not moving, healing is very possible and by retraining our nervous system to feel safe more of the time.

Counselling can help us to retrain our nervous system so we can live a life without continual fear and dread.

19/10/2026

I saw a news report of a lady on life support machine float down my FB feed as I turn it on this morning and it got me reflecting upon dignity and respect. How we treat each other in society and across the world.

Dignity and respect are core ethical principles and each and every one of us deserves to be treated with dignity and respect in life, in death and in the inbetween.

These two principle are at the foundations of counselling, human rights, professional codes and emphasis the value of us as individual human beings.

Respect means we treat each other as autonomous self-directing people with personal values, goals, beliefs and unique life paths.

Dignity mean we all have intrinsic unconditional value; we are all unique have unique identities and preferred lifestyles, whilst protecting privacy.

These principles also mean to value each other as equals, value cultural diversity no one human life is below or above another’s.

Respect and dignity safeguard humanity and make us think about moral reasonability.

They are easier said than done, yes, but if we all work towards a fuller understand of what they mean in society the world would be a better place.

Whilst these concepts may seem easy to understand they are often difficult to put into practice at times.

They are more than lips service and need to be put into action if they are going to be effective to our human condition.

What are your thoughts on this do you think society is lacking in dignity and respect?

How will you show others and yourself dignity and respect today?

18/10/2026

Today as I got out of bed I thought "stop the world I want to get off" - I didn't want to get out of my warm bed. But then I remember why I was getting out of bed so early on a Sunday. I have relatives coming over soon and they are sorting out my garage that over the years has just got fuller and fuller with 'stuff' I no longer need lol.

I thought about how kind it is of them to give up their time for me without a thought for themselves only that this job needs doing and its to big for me to do.

Kindness goes a long long way to support how we feel inside. By giving we also gain and by gaining we also give to others.

Wishing you all a thoughtful day.

17/10/2026

Good morning everyone wishing you a day of fun, relaxation, rest productivity or creativeness whatever you wish for this day for yourself and your loved ones I wish it for you too.

16/10/2026

TODAY'S AFFIRMATIONS - I AM ENOUGH - Today I practice Self-compassion by practicing the concepts below towards my self.

The more self-compassion I achieve the more compassion can go out from me and I make the world a better place.

Treat yourself like you would a friend and be kind and engaging towards yourself. Try not to judge yourself and learn by any mistakes because this is how we grow and develop.

Self-compassion lowers anxieties and stress, it offers the feel good factors and motivates and builds resilience.

Give it try and pop these concepts into your everyday living.

15/10/2026

It seems to me what this world, our world is lacking is compassion, Self-compassion and compassion for the plight of others.

We also need understanding of Mental Health and to stop fearing what we don't understand.

Compassion however start with ourselves once we have compassion for our own being we can extend it outwards to others.

We can learn to be more compassionate by reflecting upon what do I need here and now? If this was my friend how would I respond to them in this situation? Respond to yourself in the same way, notice how that feels inside

We need more good will towards ourself and towards others.

Give it a try.

How will you be compassionate today? Notice, question, refelct and offer kindness starting with yourself.

Be the change you want to see in the world - Gandi.

Self-compassion is a practice of goodwill, not good feelings … With self-compassion we mindfully accept that the moment is painful, and embrace ourselves with kindness and care in response, remembering that imperfection is part of the shared human experience. (Neff, 2019) What do you think of the ...

14/10/2026

The death of a Child is the most devestating and excruciatingly painful experience any parent can experience.

Be there, be kind and be supportive and ask the person what they need, they may just need you to sit with them nothing more.

https://www.pendulumofpeace.com/post/death-of-a-child?fbclid=IwdGRjcAU8KwFjbGNrBTwq-GV4dG4DYWVtAjExAHBkb2YBc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMzUwNjg1NTMxNzI4AAEenRBhZJ6aQnxoMqE5BP-TApl02VQ7U5vQxaVLCqtZskj5O_ykCAxHytE7kbc_aem_V5XjafcdFp2FyLr0KelsOQ

We are all doing the best we can with the understanding, knowledge, awareness and skills we have.When we lose someone special and unique we also lose the unique relationship we shared with him or her. As a Father you will have shared a ‘different’ relationship with your Child then if you are a M...

14/10/2026

The loss of a Child is the worst loss a parent can experience. We’ve all heard and seen the horrific videos circulating on line of the tragic death of a young adult at the Yorkshire Wildlife Park here in Doncaster over the weekend.

The media has been reporting all over the world and people have been very cruel in their assumptions, labelling, comments and even making stories up, a lot of the information released has been wrong.

What we do know is a young person lost their life, no one has any idea of why he entered the tiger enclosure. He did and the fact remains a family have been plunged into traumatic loss of their Child; it doesn’t matter how old the Child was he is still someone’s son.

It sounds like this young man suffered with Mental Health distress. This is not funny or something to mock, make jokes about or make assumptions about. It's very real for many people to the point some lose their life because of their mental states.

I was taught if you can’t say anything helpful don’t say anything and I am left wondering where the worlds compassion has gone.

Death of your Child is devastating, and these parents will be in excruciating pain. Just be KIND.

Read my blog on death of a Child.

https://www.pendulumofpeace.com/post/death-of-a-child

13/10/2026

When we talk about self-care what do we think about?

Self-care has dimensions to it and each dimension needs to have focus upon it at differing time of our daily or weekly routines, to bring about and maintain what we call homeostatic.

That is a stable, balanced self, a self who is interdependent, self-regulating whilst at the same time recognises we need others to keep us balanced and for survival.

Things I might think about and reflect upon in each dimension:

Personal: Am I taking care of myself? If not, what’s stopping me? What are my gifts? Am I taking time out from work to read, take a walk in nature, breathing space?

Physical: Is my physical health good or in need of attention? Do I rest when I have a virus or pain? Do I exercise and get regular sleep? How’s my diet doing is it healthy?

Emotional: Do I give myself time to meditate, be mindful or take a yoga class? Have I what is considered emotional intelligence, or do I need to do some work on regulating my emotional world? Can I cope on a daily basic with life challenges?

Psychological: Do I take time for self-refection or creative pastimes? Do I consider counselling or therapy for difficulties that feel overwhelming or do I just struggle on?

Professional: Are my boundaries firm but flexible? Do I use my voice? Do I take breaks throughout my day to keep my balance or am I just ploughing through regardless?

Spiritual: do I want to be a member of a spiritual community or am I ok with my own practises? Do I even know what my spiritual dimension is all about? Do I need to reflect more on this area? Can I sing and dance as if no one is watching?

Social: Am I connecting with others regularly? Do I have hobbies I enjoy? What about joining a club to relax and enjoy others company?

Practical: Am I coping with daily challenges? Do I feel balanced most of the time or am I off centre most of the time? If so, what do I need to remain on balance or to regain balance? Are my finances manageable? Do I enjoy my lifestyle or does it need changing?

The more we self-reflect and self-question the more we become self-aware and are able to change things as they become unhelpful.

Be who you want to be – be the real authentic you but remember it is a process that takes time and always take good care of yourself.