24/10/2026
Sitting with a couple, it’s easy to find yourself pulled in. You side with one partner without quite meaning to. You feel the same frustration they feel with each other. Or you notice you’re avoiding a subject, often s*x, because it’s uncomfortable for you as well as for them.
Couples tend to re-enact their dynamics with the therapist. And we bring our own scripts, our own relational history, and assumptions we may not know we hold, about what a relationship should look like, who wants what, and what counts as normal.
The Relational Crucible is a two-day in-person course with Lohani Noor, founding director of the Institute for Relational and Sexual Therapies (ThIRST). Drawing on Transactional Analysis, Gestalt and psychos*xual therapy, it looks at how two partners’ scripts lock together, how to track contact as it moves between them, and how relational patterns show up in a couple’s s*xual life. Alongside that runs a thread of reflection on your own script and how it shapes your work with couples, within a group contract that keeps the experiential work contained.
You don’t need a TA or Gestalt background. The course suits students and qualified therapists who work with couples, or would like to.
Saturday 9 and Sunday 10 January 2027, in person at Drumsheugh Gardens, Edinburgh. £220, 14 hours CPD.
Full details and booking in the first comment.