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23/10/2026

🚨 COME AND GET AN STD WITH ME.

Yes. I called it an STD.
No. I'm not changing it. 💁🏻‍♀️

She Thinks Different: Workshop Series 1 — Understand Your Brain is officially open for booking.

And if you've spent years asking yourself...

Why can't I just DO the thing?
Why do I burn out when everyone else seems to cope?
Why does rejection feel like I've been punched in the chest?
Why can I organise an entire crisis but not answer an email?
Why do routines work beautifully for three days and then mysteriously die?
Why am I this bloody exhausted from simply existing?
..you might want to stick around.

Because we're spending 12 weeks figuring out what the flip is actually going on.

🧠 Executive dysfunction
🔥 Burnout & overwhelm
💜 Rejection sensitivity
⏰ Time blindness, routines & organisation
🎭 Masking & perfectionism
❤️ Relationships
🩸 Hormones & the neurodivergent brain
🪞 Late diagnosis & identity
🚧 People pleasing & boundaries
💸 ADHD money chaos
👩‍👧 Neurodivergent motherhood
✨ And how to build a life that actually works with your brain

This isn't another webinar where you sit silently while somebody talks at you for two hours.

It's an interactive, supportive community of neurodivergent women learning, talking, laughing, asking questions and finally understanding themselves without having to pretend they've got their s**t together.

No fixing you.
No becoming more “normal”.
No buying another bloody planner!!!!

Just plain and simple psychology and a much better understanding of the brain you've been living with all along.

REAL LIFE. REAL TOOLS. NO FLUFF.

💜 SERIES 1 STARTS JANUARY 2027

🌙 Monday evenings
11 January — 29 March
6:30–8:30pm UK time

☀️ Saturday mornings
16 January — 3 April
9:30–11:30am UK time

💻 Live on Microsoft Teams
📚 12 × two-hour workshops
📖 Workbook that grows with you each week
💜 Private She Thinks Different community

🌍 You can join from anywhere
💷 £120 for the full 12 weeks
or 3 monthly payments of £40

And yes...

By the end you'll have built your own Personal Neurodivergent Operating Manual — because after years of trying to follow everybody else's instructions, it's probably about bloody time you wrote your own.

Same brain. Better understanding. Better tools. Much less chuffin' shame.

👇 Come and get an STD with me.

🔗 Book your place:
www.shethinksdifferent.co.uk

And if you know another neurospicy woman who needs this?

This is the kind of STD you want to share!!!! 👀💜

20/10/2026

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17/10/2026

She can hold a conversation and still rehearse every sentence beforehand.

She can look organised while struggling to eat, shower or answer a message.

She can smile through sensory overload, then go home with a migraine and no energy left.

The hardest part is that when they finally feel safe enough to unmask, some people don’t take her seriously and some people pull away…

Some autistic women spend years having their distress misunderstood while their support needs go unnoticed.

Please don’t use how well she hides her struggles as evidence that she doesn’t need help.

If this describes you, share it with someone you wish understood.
🫶🏼

Keep being awesome

30/09/2026

Slightly off topic for our usual content, but I couldn't not post this!

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Every woman knows a woman.

That sentence should make people deeply uncomfortable.

Because women grow up learning how to protect themselves from sexual violence. We share locations. We text when we get home. We watch each other's drinks. We change routes. We pretend to be on the phone. We hold keys between our fingers. We develop whole bloody systems designed around one question:
How do I get home safely?

And then, when horrific cases like the Cornell one emerges, somehow the conversation still manages to drift towards the woman.

How much had she drunk?
Why was she there?
Why did she go with them?
Why didn't she leave?
Why didn't she fight harder?
Why didn't she report it differently?

I am so unbelievably tired of this.
A woman should not need to be sober, cautious, perfectly behaved, perfectly articulate and traumatised in exactly the “right” way before people decide she deserved not to be violated.

Consent is not something you hunt for in technicalities.

It is not the absence of screaming.

It is not the absence of physical resistance.

It is certainly not an opportunity created because somebody is too intoxicated, frightened or incapacitated to protect themselves.

And this is the part I wish more men would sit with:

Every woman seems to know someone who has been sexually assaulted, yet remarkably few men believe they know someone capable of doing it.

Those two realities cannot comfortably coexist.

Because men who sexually assault women do not walk around wearing signs.

They have friends.
They have jobs.
They play sport.
They go to parties.
They have girlfriends.
They are somebody's son, somebody's mate, somebody everyone describes as “a really good guy.”

So perhaps instead of only teaching women how to avoid dangerous men, we need far more conversations about the environments that allow dangerous behaviour to be laughed off, minimised, excused or protected.

The joke that isn't funny.

The photo that should never have been shared.

The story about the girl who was “absolutely wasted."

The mate who keeps pushing after she's clearly uncomfortable.

The behaviour everyone notices but nobody wants to challenge because “that's just what he's like.”

Challenge it.
Call it out.
Make the group chat uncomfortable.
Lose the mate if you have to.

Because protecting someone from the consequences of predatory behaviour does not make you loyal!!!!!!!!!!

It makes the environment safer for the predator.

The details surrounding the Cornell case are horrifying, and as far as I am concerned there were 57 perpetrators!!!!!

But regardless of what happens legally, the wider conversation cannot keep disappearing into the same tired victim-blaming script.

Women have spent generations changing our behaviour to try to stay safe.

Maybe it is long past time the culture around men changed too.

18/09/2026

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15/09/2026

🧠 YOU DIDN'T REPLY. NOW IT'S BEEN FIVE DAYS. WHY DOES IT FEEL IMPOSSIBLE TO REPLY NOW?

Here's an ADHD cycle I see all the time:

📱 Message arrives.
You read it.
You genuinely intend to reply.
You think:
“I'll answer properly when I've got a minute.”
Then you move onto something else.

The message is no longer visible.
And your brain effectively goes:
Lovely. That has ceased to exist.

Two days later you remember.
Now there's a NEW problem.
Because the task isn't simply:
Reply to Sarah.
It's become:
Reply to Sarah + acknowledge the delay + explain yourself + manage the guilt + worry that Sarah thinks you're an ar****le.

Congratulations.

We have taken a 45-second task and added an entire emotional admin department.

This is why telling somebody with ADHD to:
“Just reply when you see the message!”
can completely miss what's actually happening.

ADHD can affect several executive processes involved in communication:

Working memory — holding an intention in mind when the original cue has disappeared.

Prospective memory — remembering that you intended to do something later.

Task initiation — particularly when the reply requires thought or emotional effort.

Attention switching — moving away from whatever currently has your attention to respond.

And then something else can enter the cycle:
SHAME.

“I've left it too long.”
“They'll think I'm rude.”
“I should have replied.”
“Now I need to explain why.”

And avoidance temporarily reduces that discomfort.

So the brain learns:
Not opening WhatsApp feels better right now.

Unfortunately, tomorrow's brain then inherits today's WhatsApp debt.

🧠 SO WHAT ACTUALLY HELPS?

Make communication smaller, not morally loaded.

Try:
✓ Send an acknowledgement rather than waiting to formulate the perfect response:
“I've seen this — I want to reply properly when I've got some brain space 💜.”
✓ Keep important messages unread until you've dealt with them.
✓ Pin conversations that genuinely need action.
✓ Use voice notes if writing creates unnecessary friction.
✓ If you remember you haven't replied… reply then.

You don't need a three-paragraph apology explaining the neurological events of the previous Thursday.

Try:
“Sorry — my brain filed this under ‘reply later’ and apparently later meant Tuesday.”

Then continue the conversation.

Most importantly:
Separate behaviour from identity.

“I forgot to reply” is information about something that happened.

“I'm a terrible friend” is a judgement.

We can take responsibility for how our ADHD affects other people without turning every executive-function slip into evidence that we're fundamentally s**t humans.

Accountability is useful.
Shame usually isn't.

And sometimes the most therapeutic thing we can do is stop spending three days punishing ourselves for not sending a message…
…and just send a message. 💜

15/09/2026

#6 THINGS I STOPPED FEELING GUILTY FOR AFTER MY ADHD DIAGNOSIS…

Not replying to messages straight away.
And THIS one took me ages to stop feeling guilty about. 😬

Because I am absolutely capable of reading your message.

Thinking:
“I'll give that a proper reply in a minute.”

Putting my phone down.

Living approximately three additional lifetimes.

And then suddenly realising six days later that I never replied.

The worst ones are messages from people I actually CARE about.

Because if it's important, I don't want to send some s**tty little:
“haha yeah 😂 xx”

I want to sit down.
Read it properly.
Think.
Give you the response you deserve.

So my brain categorises it as:
IMPORTANT — DO PROPERLY.

Which unfortunately means it has now been promoted from message to TASK.

And we all know what happens when an ADHD brain discovers a task. 👀

“I'll do it later.”
Then I see the message again.
“Oh s**t. I still haven't replied.”
But now it's been two days, so I feel guilty.

Which means replying feels slightly more uncomfortable.

So I avoid it again.
Now it's four days.
Now I need to apologise.
Now the reply feels EVEN BIGGER.
Congratulations.

A perfectly ordinary WhatsApp message has become an outstanding emotional debt.

Before diagnosis, I genuinely thought this meant I was rude, flaky or a s**t friend.

Now I understand that ADHD can affect things like working memory, task initiation, attention switching and our ability to hold intentions in mind once the cue disappears.

That doesn't mean I never take responsibility for communication.
If I've forgotten something important, I'll own it.

But I no longer turn:
“I forgot to reply”
into:
“I am fundamentally a terrible person.”

And I've stopped believing that owning a smartphone means everybody automatically gets 24-hour access to me.

Being reachable is a feature of my PHONE.
It is not a contractual obligation of ME.

So now?
If I've got the capacity, I reply.

If I don't, sometimes I'll send:
“Seen this. Proper reply coming when my brain is available”

And if I forget?
I reply when I remember instead of spending another week being embarrassed that I forgot.

Because shame has never once opened WhatsApp and answered the bloody message for me.

Anyone else currently have a message sitting there that you've thought about replying to approximately 37 times but somehow still haven't actually replied to?

Consider this your sign. 👇🏼

15/09/2026

#6 THINGS I THOUGHT WERE PERSONALITY TRAITS BEFORE I REALISED I WAS AuDHD…

Being capable of making MASSIVE life decisions in approximately 14 seconds…
…but needing a full flipping board meeting to choose a sandwich.

Honestly.

Move house?
Yeah, sounds good.

Start a business?
Absolutely. Let's buy a domain before we've even finished the conversation.

Book a holiday?
Flights purchased. See you at the airport. ✈️

But then somebody hands me a menu with 47 options and suddenly I am incapable of independent living.

“Do I want the chicken?”
Maybe.

“But the burger looks nice.”
True.

“What if I order the chicken and then wish I'd ordered the burger?”

Excellent point.

“What are YOU having?”

Because apparently your dinner is now crucial evidence in my investigation.

And it isn't just food.

What should I wear?
Which shampoo should I buy?
What should I watch?
Which task should I start first?
Should I reply now or later?
Do I want Thursday at 2pm or Friday at 11am?

WHY ARE YOU ASKING ME SO MANY QUESTIONS, SUSAN?!

I genuinely used to think I was just ridiculously indecisive.

But my AuDHD brain isn't necessarily bad at making decisions.

It's often bad at making decisions when there are lots of competing pieces of information with no obvious winner.

My ADHD brain sees ALL THE OPTIONS.

My autistic brain would quite like to select the CORRECT option.

And now we've accidentally convened an internal committee meeting over chuffin’ conditioner.

Big decisions can sometimes actually feel easier because they're interesting, urgent, emotional or exciting enough for my brain to properly engage.

Tiny everyday decisions?

Sometimes there simply isn't enough difference between the options to make one stand out.

And that's when my brain goes:

✨ Fab - We shall analyse them all. ✨

These days I try to reduce completely unnecessary decisions wherever I can.

Same breakfast.
Favourite products reordered.
Outfits I already know work.
Shortlists instead of endless options.

And sometimes:
“Gemma. It genuinely does not bloody matter. Pick one.” 😂

Because not every decision deserves the entire processing capacity of my nervous system.

Please tell me I'm not the only woman who could potentially relocate COUNTRY faster than she can choose something on Netflix. 👀🤣💜

14/09/2026

🧠 ADHD GUILT ISN’T ALWAYS ABOUT WHAT YOU DID

There is a particular kind of guilt I see again and again in ADHD women.

Not:
“I did something terrible.”
More:
“I should be able to do this like everybody else.”

And THAT distinction matters.

Because after years of struggling with things that appear ridiculously simple from the outside, many women don’t arrive at diagnosis thinking:
“My executive functioning works differently.”

They arrive thinking:
“There must be something wrong with my character.”

Late-diagnosed women often have decades of evidence stored away.

The washing you forgot.
The message you meant to answer.
The appointment you nearly missed.
The hobby you became obsessed with and abandoned six weeks later.
The form that sat beside you for eleven days despite taking approximately four minutes to complete.
The day you achieved seventeen things followed by the day you could barely start one.

And because nobody explained the neurology?

You supplied your own explanation.

Lazy.
Disorganised.
Inconsistent.
Too much.
Not trying hard enough.

Except ADHD affects executive functions involved in things like task initiation, working memory, inhibition, attention regulation, prioritisation and shifting between tasks.

That does NOT mean ADHD makes somebody incapable or removes personal responsibility.

It means knowing what to do and reliably activating the brain to do it are not always the same process.

And women can hide that beautifully.

You compensate.
Overprepare.
People-please.
Stay up ridiculously late finishing something you couldn’t start earlier.
Use anxiety as an emergency generator.
Become a perfectionist because mistakes feel dangerous.

Then everybody sees the finished result and says:
“See? You CAN do it when you try.”

Meanwhile your nervous system is lying face-down in a metaphorical car park. 😂

Diagnosis can therefore bring something much bigger than a label.

It gives you a more accurate explanation.

And once we stop asking:
“Why can't I just be more disciplined?”

we can ask:
“What does my brain need to make this easier to start?”

That question is infinitely more useful.

Try:
💜 making the first step embarrassingly small
💜 putting reminders where the task actually happens
💜 using visible cues instead of relying on memory
💜 body-doubling for boring or avoided jobs
💜 adding novelty, movement or immediate reward
💜 reducing the number of decisions required to begin
💜 externalising information onto lists, calendars and visual systems

And when something repeatedly isn't working?

Don't immediately increase the shame.

Change the system.

Because shame is a spectacularly unreliable executive-function strategy.

Understanding ADHD isn't about giving yourself an excuse for everything.

It's about finally stopping the character assassination long enough to solve the actual problem.

And THAT is where change gets interesting. 💜

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