20/08/2026
What if revisiting the past doesn’t mean you’re stuck there?
I’ve noticed something coming up again and again in conversations with clients lately…
Past relationships.
Old situations.
Work experiences.
Family dynamics.
Moments we thought we had already moved beyond.
And with them can come this fear:
Why am I feeling this again?
Why haven’t I detached?
Why can’t I just move on?
But perhaps there is another way of seeing it.
What if the emotion returning isn’t pulling you backwards at all?
What if it’s offering you a panoramic perception of your life— a wider view from where you stand now, allowing you to see something you simply couldn’t see when you were standing inside it?
We can so easily attach a frequency of “negative” to sadness, grief, anger, longing or nostalgia.
Like tuning a radio to a sad song and deciding the sadness itself means something has gone wrong.
But perhaps no emotion is inherently negative.
Perhaps sometimes an old feeling returns not to tell us we haven’t moved on, but to reveal just how much has changed.
The person experiencing that memory today is not necessarily the person who lived it then.
And from here, the view may look entirely different.
Maybe that is one of the extraordinary things about being human.
We don’t have to erase our past to evolve beyond it.
Sometimes looking back gives us the panoramic view that allows us to recognise just how far we’ve travelled.
Honour your past. Embody your truth.
This sits at the very heart of my book You Are Your Own Guru— available through the link in my bio.
