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Amanda Tooms Therapy and Wellbeing

MBACP, NCPS Accredited Trauma informed Psychotherapist & Clinical Supervisor. Hypnotherapist and Mentor.

Anxiety|Trauma|ED|BPD|LGBTQ+ & ND affirming.
🌱Helping you on your journey to a better place🌱
Career in performing arts, education & leadership

03/08/2026

Can’t switch your mind off at bedtime?

Cognitive shuffling is a simple technique that may help calm racing thoughts and make it easier to drift off to sleep. In this reel, I use the word seaside to show you how it works.

Give it a try tonight, then let me know how you get on. Save this reel so it’s there when you need it. 💙

30/07/2026

Why am I so passionate about supporting women through menopause?

Because every woman will experience menopause in some way, and it matters.

Some women move through menopause with relatively few symptoms. For others, it can feel as though they’ve lost hold of who they are.
Anxiety,
Poor sleep,
Brain fog,
Loss of confidence and
Emotional overwhelm can affect every part of life.

I’ve experienced menopause myself. I’ve watched close friends struggle, and I’ve supported many clients as they’ve navigated this significant life transition.

When I became a psychotherapist, I made a commitment to continually develop my knowledge so I could offer the very best support to the people who trust me with their stories.

Supporting women through menopause has become an important part of that work.

I’ve created Walk Through Menopause, a six-week, one-to-one hypnotherapy programme designed to help women feel calmer, sleep better, rebuild confidence and reconnect with themselves.

But I also know that hypnotherapy isn’t the right approach for everyone.

As a qualified psychotherapist, hypnotherapist and mentor, we’ll work together to find the support that feels right for you. Whether that’s hypnotherapy, talking therapy or a combination of approaches, my focus is always on you, not the technique.

✨ The September Intake is now open.

Daytime appointments are available on Tuesdays and Thursdays.

Places are limited and will be allocated on a first come, first served basis, with a priority waiting list once the programme is full.

🤍 If this post has resonated with you, or you’ve recognised someone you care about in these words, I’d be so grateful if you would like, comment, save or share it.
Together, we can help more women discover that support through menopause is available and that they don’t have to navigate this journey alone.

20/07/2026

Walk Through Menopause

The September Intake

A six-week, one-to-one hypnotherapy programme helping women feel calmer, sleep better and reconnect with themselves.

A programme designed to support women through menopause.

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19/07/2026

Sometimes, we need to step away from our everyday lives to truly see how far we’ve come.

Whilst on holiday, I found myself doing something I encourage many of my clients to do: slowing down, creating space and reflecting.

Being at one, with my own thoughts, I realised how profoundly life’s experiences shape us.

Losing my beautiful dad to motor neurone disease was one of the greatest heartbreaks of my life. Years later, the end of my 30 year marriage challenged my identity, my future and many of the assumptions I held about certainty.

I don’t share this for sympathy.

I share it because those experiences didn’t just change my life. They changed my relationship with life.

In my work as a therapist, I often have conversations about resilience, healing and post traumatic growth. These aren’t just psychological concepts. They are lived experiences that can reshape our priorities, our relationships and the way we choose to spend our time.

As I approach another imminent birthday, I feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude.

Not because life has been easy.

But because it has taught me what really matters.

The people who love us.
The moments that make us laugh.
The courage to begin again.
The freedom to choose joy, even after loss.

Perhaps one of the greatest lessons I’ve learnt, both personally and professionally, is that none of us knows how much time we have.

That isn’t a reason to live in fear.

It’s an invitation to live intentionally.

To stop waiting for the “right” time.
To nurture the relationships that matter.
To make memories.
To prioritise our mental wellbeing as much as our physical health.
To give ourselves permission to experience joy without guilt.

We can’t always choose what happens to us.

But we can choose how we respond.

If there’s one thing I hope people take from my work, and from this reflection, it’s this:

Don’t postpone your life.

If this resonates with you, I’d love to know…

What has life taught you that you wish you’d understood sooner?

🤍

17/07/2026

Sometimes we need to step away to hear ourselves again.

This holiday has given me far more than rest.

It has reminded me that I don’t have to fill every hour with productivity. That working longer doesn’t always mean working better. That there is value in slowing down, breathing more deeply and leaving space for life to unfold.

I’ve realised there are things I’m ready to leave behind:
The pressure to cram too much into a working day.
The belief that I always have to be doing.
The things that, in the grand scheme of life, simply don’t matter.

And I’ve found things I want to take home with me.

Self kindness.
Gentleness.
Perspective.

Quite unexpectedly, I also found something else…walking.

Every morning, before the alarm even sounded, I found myself outside. What started as a gentle stroll became over three miles each morning. Not because I had to, but because I wanted to. It became less about exercise and more about making space for my thoughts, noticing the world around me and reconnecting with myself.

As a therapist, I’m often encouraging people to listen to what they need rather than what they think they should be doing.

Perhaps I needed the reminder too.

You don’t need a holiday abroad to begin making changes. Sometimes it starts with ten quiet minutes before everyone else wakes up.
A walk.
A cup of tea in the garden.
Saying no to one more task.
Choosing yourself, just for a little while.

I’m returning home rested, but more importantly, I’m returning with a different perspective. My challenge now is to protect the space I’ve created here, because my wellbeing deserves a place in my everyday life too.

What is one thing you could leave behind this week, and one thing you could make space for instead?

🤍 Amanda

02/07/2026

I’m taking a little time to step away from the therapy room and spend some much-needed time by the sea.

As therapists, we often talk about the importance of rest, boundaries and self-care. Not because they’re nice ideas, but because they’re essential. We can’t keep pouring from an empty cup, and the best care I can offer my clients comes from looking after myself too.

I’ll be swapping my counselling chair for sandy feet, sea air, good books, family time and moments where I don’t need to be anywhere other than exactly where I am.

If you’ve contacted me while I’m away, thank you for your patience. I’ll reply as soon as I return.

Until then, I hope you can find a little space in the coming weeks to do something that restores you, whatever that looks like.

See you soon,

Amanda 🤍

✨Rest isn’t something we earn. It’s something we need.

The sea has always been one of the places that fills my cup. For the next two weeks, that’s exactly what I’ll be doing. 🌊🤍

01/07/2026

June has been one of those months that reminds me why I do this work.

I’ve had the privilege of sitting alongside people navigating anxiety, eating disorders, grief, low self-worth, separation, trauma, ADHD, autism, people pleasing, anger, alcohol withdrawal, personality disorders, insecurity, suicidal thoughts, childhood experiences that continue to echo into adulthood, and the often painful journey of reconnecting with themselves.

And that’s only a snapshot.

Behind every “presentation” is a person.

Someone trying to make sense of their story.
Someone carrying more than anyone realises.
Someone showing extraordinary courage simply by walking into the therapy room.

Alongside my client work, I’ve been supporting supervisees as they develop their own therapeutic practice, attending business networking events, strengthening professional connections, spending time with friends, and making memories at concerts that reminded me how important joy and belonging are for our wellbeing.

As we reach the halfway point of the year, I’m reminded that healing isn’t measured by dramatic transformations. More often, it’s found in the quieter moments: setting a boundary, speaking with self-compassion, recognising a pattern, allowing emotions to exist, asking for help, or simply choosing to keep going.

It’s a privilege to witness those moments every day.

If the first half of this year has felt heavy for you, I hope the second half offers moments of gentleness, hope, and the reminder that you don’t have to carry everything alone.

Here’s to the next chapter.

🍃As we move into the second half of the year, what’s one thing you’d like to leave behind, and one thing you’d like to carry forward?

28/06/2026

There was a moment at Wembley this weekend that caught me completely by surprise.

Standing in a stadium filled with thousands of people, I looked around and realised something that had very little to do with the music.

It was the feeling.

Joy.
Acceptance.
Freedom.
Connection.

People arrived as themselves. Glitter, cowboy hats, sequins, pride flags, tears, laughter, quiet moments, loud moments… and somehow it all belonged. Nobody needed permission to be who they were.

The tour is called Together, and that’s exactly what it felt like.

It made me emotional because I know not everyone experiences that kind of acceptance in everyday life.

Some people spend years wondering if they’re too much.
Too quiet.
Too sensitive.
Too different.
Too anxious.
Too broken.
Not enough.

But here’s what I want you to know this Sunday evening…

You don’t have to earn your place in this world.

You don’t have to become someone else to deserve acceptance.

You already belong.

Perhaps that’s one of the reasons I love being a therapist. My therapy room isn’t about changing who you are. It’s about creating a space where you can safely discover, understand and accept who you already are.

A place where you’re met with compassion instead of judgement.

A place where it’s simply okay to be you.

As we head into a new week, if you’re questioning your identity, your worth, your voice or where you fit, I hope you’ll carry this with you:

You matter.
You are enough.
And there is a place for you exactly as you are. 🤍

If you do nothing else today, know this: you are worth everything, and you have a place in this world, exactly as you are. 🤍

25/06/2026

Yes, I can help you.

Life isn’t always easy, and sometimes carrying everything on your own can become exhausting.

I work with adults experiencing anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, eating disorders, relationship and divorce challenges, low self-esteem, emotional overwhelm, personality disorders, and self-discovery. I also support neurodivergent clients, helping them navigate the unique strengths and challenges that can come with ADHD, autism, and other forms of neurodivergence.

My approach is warm, compassionate, and tailored to you. Therapy isn’t about being “fixed” it’s about feeling understood, making sense of your experiences, and finding a way forward that feels right for you.

I’m also passionate about supporting local businesses and organisations because when people feel mentally well, everyone benefits from individuals and families to workplaces and communities.

✨ If something in this carousel resonates with you, you don’t have to face it alone.

💙 Save this post for when you need it.
💙 Share it with someone who may benefit.
💙 If you’re ready to take the first step, send me a message or get in touch using the contact details on the final slide. I’d be honoured to support you.

24/06/2026

When anxiety, overthinking, racing thoughts, or emotional overwhelm take hold, one of the simplest techniques I often recommend is putting pen to paper.

Today I had some official documents to sign and chose to do it in person rather than electronically. The person witnessing the documents commented on how unusual that is these days.

My immediate response was, “I’m just old school.”

But the more I’ve reflected on it, the more I realise it’s about something deeper than that.

Writing things down gives me clarity.

As a counsellor, I often encourage clients struggling with anxiety, stress, rumination, or persistent overthinking to try a simple mind dump. Not because it magically solves the problem, but because it helps organise thoughts that have become tangled and overwhelming.

When worries stay inside our minds, they can go round and round in circles. They grow louder, take up more space, and leave us feeling stuck.

Putting pen to paper creates distance from those thoughts.

It allows us to observe them, make sense of them, and understand how they’re affecting us emotionally.

Writing can be a powerful coping strategy for anxiety because it helps reduce mental clutter, improve self-awareness, and create a sense of clarity when everything feels overwhelming.

You don’t need a beautiful journal or perfectly written sentences.

A notebook, a scrap of paper, or even the back of an envelope will do.

Although, if you’re anything like me and have a soft spot for stationery, finding a notebook that you genuinely enjoy using can be part of the process too.

Sometimes the goal isn’t to find the answer.

Sometimes the goal is simply to get the thoughts out of your head and onto the page.

And often, that’s where clarity begins.

✨Do you process things best by thinking, talking, or writing? I’d love to hear in the comments.

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Monday	9am - 7pm
Tuesday	9am - 7pm
Wednesday	9am - 3pm
Thursday	9am - 8pm
Friday	9am - 5pm

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+447837432968

Website

http://www.attandw.co.uk/

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