14/09/2026
You can keep giving it power, or let it show you the way through.
See that thing you keep avoiding… It’s costing you more energy than you realise.
That conversation you’re not having is an energy leak. So is the decision you keep putting off and the truth you keep swallowing.
What you avoid doesn’t disappear. Your body carries it while your mind works overtime finding reasons not to act. Meanwhile, your energy goes into managing everyone else’s comfort and the avoidance takes up so much space that you feel drained, without realising why.
As a recovering people pleaser who works with women whose worth became tied to keeping everyone else happy, here’s what I hear all the time,
“I know what I need to do. I just don’t know how I can do it.”
So before I’d work on the boundary itself, here’s what I’d do:
1. PREDICTION: Find the part of you that believes speaking your truth is unsafe.
2. PROTECTION: What is staying quiet protecting you from having to feel?
3. BELIEF: Find the belief underneath that story
4. CHARGE: Notice the charge it creates in your body, and stay with it instead of turning away from it.
5. PATTERN: See where else have you’ve swallowed your truth to keep someone else comfortable.
6. SHIFT: Take the action fear has been stopping you from taking, one layer at a time.
The pathway to freedom from people pleasing starts by facing the discomfort instead of running from it.
Those moments that challenge you reveal what still has you trapped in the pattern. When you face the discomfort, you realise that the charge in your body has been showing you where the exit is.
Self-trust is built every time you stay with that discomfort without abandoning yourself to keep someone else comfortable.
This is how you become the woman who trusts herself to speak her truth. Because every time you bite your tongue to avoid letting someone else down, you end up letting yourself down instead.
And that charge you just felt reading that, that’s the energy leak talking.
If you want to find where your energy leak is and shift what’s underneath it?
DM me ENERGY
