08/06/2026
YOU DON’T NEED TO BE CALM ALL THE TIME.
In fact, being regulated doesn’t mean feeling calm all the time.
One of the questions I was asked during a recent podcast interview was:
“What does being in control of your own body actually look like?”
My answer...
It’s not about being calm.
Before a presentation, a sporting event, an exam or any challenge that matters to us, we often need that surge of adrenaline and energy to perform.
A racing heart.
Butterflies in your stomach.
Sweaty palms.
These aren’t signs that something is wrong.
There are signs that you’re human.
The problem comes when we don’t understand what’s happening in our body.
When we understand our nervous system, we learn to recognise when we need to SWITCH ON and when we need to SWITCH OFF.
Too much time spent switching on?
Stress, overwhelm and eventually burnout.
Too much time switched off?
Disengagement, low motivation and low mood.
The goal isn’t to stay calm all the time.
The goal is learning how to move between states and having the tools to influence your state when you need to.
This understanding is at the heart of the work I do in schools with both teachers and students.
If you’d like to learn more, have a watch of this podcast clip.
🎧 Full podcast and links to my school programmes are in the first comments.
I’d love to know...
Have you ever mistaken a normal stress response for something being “wrong” with you?
👇 Let me know below. (Link to full podcast in profile)