04/11/2026
To women AND men...Also...butterflies to me is your nervous system warning you...not the "excitement" some of us were taught it was... "To Every Hooman Who’s Still Choosing"
To all the people out there..
Choose wisely.
Not just the one who gives you butterflies,
But the one who gives you peace.
Choose the one who shows up not only with love,
But with consistency, maturity, and a provider mindset
The kind of person who doesn’t just talk about a future,
But quietly builds one with you in mind.
Choose the one who understands that providing
Is more than just paying bills
It’s about making you feel emotionally safe,
Seen, and supported.
It’s about them being present,
So you’re not carrying the weight of the relationship on your back
While they sit comfortably in silence,
Oblivious to your exhaustion.
Pick the one who listens.
The one who doesn't dismiss your feelings
Or make you feel dramatic for expressing your needs.
Pick the one who is emotionally intelligent
Who owns their mistakes,
Who knows how to communicate without blaming,
Who fights with you, not against you.
Love shouldn’t feel like a war you’re fighting alone.
It shouldn’t leave you second-guessing your worth
Or wondering why you’re always the one trying harder.
If love keeps you anxious,
If it drains more than it fills,
That’s not love. That’s survival.
And you were not made to settle for survival.
Choose the one who brings peace to your mind
And steadiness to your heart.
A love that doesn’t make you question yourself
Will save you years of silent suffering.
I promise,
The right love feels safe.
It feels like home.
So don’t fall for the bare minimum dressed up as romance.
Don’t let chemistry blind you to chaos.
Choose the one who brings calm,
The one who matches your effort,
The one who wants to grow with you,
Not just benefit from what you already are.
Because you deserve love that holds you,
Not love that leaves you holding everything alone.
