Havening Techniques with Gudrun Wiedemann

23/07/2026

Yes, when we grow up in chaos, it is common to get addicted to the neurotransmitters of drama, and as we recalibrating our nervous system to peace and calm, life can can feel dull and boring..... and contentment follows once we have adjusted.
Havening can help to break the cycle.

16/07/2026

Nervous system resilience can be eroded by unintegrated trauma.
Havening techniques has a lot to offer in both aspects.
A few sessions can make a marked difference and reduce or eliminate repeated triggering. Regular self-havening has been shown to build nervous system resxilience.
In combination havening sessions and self-havening gives clients learn a powerful tool to help themselves when feeling triggered and to reverse the negative downwards spiral into a positive upwards spiral to help regain nervous system resilience and agency.
If you like to find out more, do get in touch. I offer a 20-minute free discovery call.

10/07/2026

This is so very true -
and if you find that your nervous system gets stuck – either in chronic activation (hypervigilance, anxiety, adrenaline) or chronic collapse (shutdown, numbness, exhaustion), often swinging between the two without the middle ground" all indications of a dysregulated nervous system Havening Techniques has a lot to offer. .
Regular self-havening has been shown to build nervous system resilience and build nervous system resilience.
Targeting specific reactions, scenarios or traumas in 1:1 sessions can be life changing, as Havening targets the part of the brain that sounds the alarm even there is no danger in the present.
If you like to find out more about Havening sessions, please book your free 20 minute discovery call with me.
Sessions are available in Person at Surrey Holistic, Godalming (GU7) or online on ZOOM

Being regulated doesn’t mean:

– Never having a bad day
– Never crying, getting angry, or feeling overwhelmed
– Never shutting down or needing to withdraw
– Being calm and steady all the time
– Feeling “positive” or grateful constantly
– Bypassing hard emotions

What regulation actually means is having the capacity to move through activation and back to baseline. Not the absence of activation itself.

A well-regulated nervous system still:

– Feels fear when there’s danger
– Feels grief when there’s loss
– Gets angry when something isn’t right
– Shuts down when it’s genuinely overwhelmed
– Has big, uncomfortable, messy emotions

The difference is in the recovery. A regulated system can move through a big feeling, a hard day, or a shutdown, and gradually return to a settled state. A dysregulated system gets stuck – either in chronic activation (hypervigilance, anxiety, adrenaline) or chronic collapse (shutdown, numbness, exhaustion), often swinging between the two without the middle ground.

Meltdowns and shutdowns are the nervous system doing its job – protecting you when capacity has been exceeded. Regulation helps widen the window of what you can hold before you reach that point, and helps you recover more smoothly after.

There’s also a real risk in the wellness space of turning “being regulated” into another kind of self-monitoring or perfectionism, where any big feeling gets treated as a failure. That itself is dysregulating.

Being human means feeling. Regulation just gives the body somewhere safe to come back to.

💬 Save this for the days you need the reminder.

06/07/2026

What is holding you back in your life?
The memory
- of an accident?
- challenging relationships where closure seems impossible?- a traumatic experience?
Havening is designed to help the part of the brain that keeps those long gone events alive to stand down, so you can live life without carrying this ongoing burden.
To find out more, please give me a call, or book a free 20-minute discovery call 07948 735 475
In person sessions are at the Surrey Holistic, Godalming (UK, GU7) or via ZOOM.

12/06/2026

Honouring ones nature is important
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Scientists discovered that around 1 in 5 people are born with a nervous system that processes the world more deeply than everyone else. Not more emotional. More wired. They notice the flicker of a light. The shift in someone's tone. The scratch of a tag on their neck. This is not a personality flaw. It is a biological trait.

Here is what happens inside their brain. Their insula, the part that processes internal and external sensory information, is more active. Their mirror neurons fire stronger. They feel what others feel. They see what others miss. Loud spaces exhaust them. Conflict drains them. Beauty moves them to tears. The volume is turned up on everything.

The science is clear. This trait exists across species. High sensitive animals pause before entering new spaces. They check for threats. They notice details. They survive longer in stable environments. In chaotic environments, they struggle. In calm, predictable environments, they thrive.

If you are a sensitive person, stop calling yourself weak. You are not broken. You are finely tuned. Protect your environment. Limit noise. Avoid chaos. Rest often. Your nervous system is a gift. Treat it like one.

10/06/2026

This is so powerful.
In the context of trauma recovery, joy and happiness can be difficult states/ emotions for people to be in. They are often unfamiliar, they are often linked to hiding our light, to make others feel better about themselves.
This writing addresses how counter productive those okd outlived strategies are... and as we all know, insight is only one step to transform trauma imprints. Havening can help to reprocess on the underlying encoding, and supports us to embrace joy and happiness more fully.
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02/06/2026

So very true.
Learning to ask questions, challenge authority, and speaking up for oneself are important skills that keep kids, teens and yes adults safe.

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Trigger Warning

Training your child to be obedient makes them easier prey for predators. But no one wants to talk about that. We just want obedience because it’s convenient. Because it’s what the school, childcare, swim teacher and the soccer coach all expect. It makes everyone’s job easier… well you know who else’s job it makes easier? Predators. Obedience… at what cost? That’s what I think about… at what cost? There are other ways to parent that don’t focus on obedience as the main goal. One of these methods is Responsive Parenting.

22/05/2026

Recovery from trauma has many challenges.
One not so often spoken about is stepping into Joy.
Our brain is drawn to what feels familiar, and learning to allow and enjoy joy (without the expectation that the other shoe will drop) can be an unexpected piece of work
I love this clip where Brené Brown speaks to this.
Havening can be a very useful tool to help clients to step more into Joy.

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17/05/2026

I think this is an interesting paper.
It is based on the latest neuroscience and questions some of very well known works.
Whist I think the article is very much in line with what Havening has to offer and targets, I would not want to throw out the baby with the bathwater.
Maybe in neuroscience terms the article is correct, and I think from the lived experience of people affected by trauma, and (C)PTSD the symptoms that appear in the body are very real.
From my own experience trauma is complex and often different approaches are helpful at different times to clients on their journey of recovery. This is especially true for clients who are affected by early childhood and developmental trauma where incomplete developmental steps and relational dynamics are areas that need to be tended to. .. and I think most client benefit greatly from Havening, simply because when the triggering is eliminated or greatly reduced, all the other aspects are much easier worked with. Havening also gives clients a simple yet highly effective tool to support themselves when feeling activated or stressed.
One thing that makes Havening stand out, is that it targets the part of the brain that raises the alarm and makes the past appear in the present, as trauma memory is not encoded in the part of the brain that keeps track of how we perceive time (e.g past, present future seem to collapse into one place, which often leads to an out of proportion response/reaction to what has happened in the present) When triggering occurs, our survival brain takes over and other brain regions will be shut down, including our prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for logical thinking and social engagement system (relationships) This repeated "triggering" becomes a reinforcing negative downwards spiral, that in itself creates stress because of fears of re-experiencing the helplessness/hopelessness from unprocessed trauma. Havening can break this negative downwards spiral and turn it around into a reinforcing positive upwards spiral supporting clients to regain nervous system resilience and agency.
If you would like to find out more about Havening, please have a look at my website, or give me a call to have a chat.
www.gudrunwiedemann.co.uk

https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/systems-neuroscience/articles/10.3389/fnsys.2026.1812957/full?fbclid=IwY2xjawR3CvRleHRuA2FlbQIxMABicmlkETFYY0RxSEZLeEE5aXRReW1Gc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQQMjIyMDM5MTc4ODIwMDg5MgABHj6seQtCcMgTIXZIpimFphdphOx-u8C4xXmyofQdsnj5NScUtg-QM4tCsoVt_aem_rEdd7Sg3y4Y551CuihxIwg

The Body Does Not Keep the Score: Trauma, Predictive Coding, and the Restoration of Metastability By Steven Kotler, Michael Mannino, Glenn Fox, Karl Friston ...