Rebecca Hughes Counselling Service

29/07/2026

Every experience has shaped who I am and we are today. I am choosing growth over resentment and gratitude over regret. A change of perspective takes practice and is achievable with time and compassion towards ourselves. Onward and upward 🙏

27/07/2026

Applications closing shortly. Email now for an application form.

💜Interested in becoming a counsellor?

Our Adlerian Counselling Certificate offers 150 hours of teaching, personal development, and hands-on skills practice.

Start date: September 2026.

The Certificate is Year 1 of our accredited 3-year Certificate & Diploma pathway.

Email [email protected] for more information & an application form.

26/06/2026

I often encourage clients to use “I” statements as a gentle way of expressing their thoughts, feelings and needs without blame or criticism. Using phrases such as “I feel…”, “I need…”, “I want…”, and “I think…”, helps create open, honest communication, reduces defensiveness, and encourages greater understanding in relationships. Learning to communicate in this way can build confidence, strengthen connections, and support healthier conversations both with others and with ourselves. 💜

25/06/2026

There are moments when life feels overwhelming, when the weight of the world seems a little too heavy to carry. If today is one of those days for you, I hope you know this…

You are enough. You are valued. You are not alone.

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09/06/2026

Things Can Be Different

The way we were parented often influences how we parent our own children. Negative patterns can be passed from one generation to the next and may affect relationships as children grow into teenagers and adults.

Changing from negative language to positive encouragement is not easy. It takes awareness, practice, and patience. However, even small changes in the words we use can have a powerful impact.

Positive parenting can help to:

* Build stronger communication
* Increase confidence and self-esteem
* Strengthen family relationships
* Create a more positive home environment

Remember: Small changes in the way we speak can make a big difference in how our children feel, think, and respond.

Here are some simple examples of positive encouragement that can make a lasting impact.

09/06/2026

Sometimes therapy is not about climbing the ladder fast or first. It is about creating a ladder that is ‘good enough’ making it functional and not perfect. 😅🙃🙂

When clients first arrive, they often see the struggle, the effort, and how far they still have to go. Through gentle encouragement, we help them notice something different:

* That they already have the materials to build a functional ladder
* Every piece is strong enough
* Every small step is movement
* Every imperfect action is action
* Every wobble along the way is progress.

Success is not reserved for those who do it perfectly. It is achieved by those who are courageous enough to have a go, to keep moving one rung at a time. If the rungs are too far apart and can not be climbed, then build smaller rungs in between. Even ask for a ladder building buddy, a therapist, a friend, colleague or partner. 🌟 🏆👏👏

01/06/2026

01/06/2026

Relationship skills aren't just for couples. They're also critical for shaping your entire life.

The way you handle conflict at work. The way you hold a limit with your teenager with loving firmness. The way you talk to others, and often more importantly, the way you talk to yourself.

Every one of those moments runs on the same set of skills. And when you build them in one area of your life, they start showing up everywhere else.

Would you add anything to the list? Drop it below.

29/04/2026

People often imagine therapy as quiet nodding, soft voices, and a lot of listening. I would agree that yes, that’s part of it, but it’s only a small piece of what’s really happening.

As an Adlerian therapist, I’m not just listening to words. I’m paying attention to how a person’s story has been shaped over time, the beliefs they’ve formed, the patterns they’ve developed, and the meaning they’ve made of their experiences. I’m listening for tone, noticing shifts, observing body language, and gently exploring what’s being said and what isn’t.

At the same time, I’m holding a deep curiosity about their unique way of moving through the world. Adlerian therapy is about understanding a person’s private logic, their internal rules about themselves, others, and life. I’m wondering: how does this make sense? What purpose might this pattern serve? How has it helped them survive, belong, or feel safe?

While I’m doing this, I’m also aware of my own internal responses, grounded by my own therapy and supervision, thinking carefully about how to respond. Do I speak, or do I allow silence? Do we stay with a feeling, or do we gently shift toward grounding and regulation? Do I offer encouragement, challenge a belief, or invite a new perspective?

I get to sit with people in their most vulnerable moments, their lowest lows, their uncertainties, their pain. But I also get to witness something incredibly powerful, their courage, their growth, their capacity for change. Adlerian work is deeply hopeful. It’s about helping people reconnect with their sense of belonging, purpose, and possibility.

I celebrate with clients too, the small wins, the quiet shifts, the big breakthroughs. I feel genuinely grateful to walk alongside them as they begin to see themselves differently and move toward the lives they want.

At the same time, I’m holding the bigger picture. How much time we have today. Where we are in the overall process. What matters most to them right now. I’m thinking about pacing, ensuring the work feels manageable, respectful, and meaningful.

From the outside, it might look still.

On the inside, it’s thoughtful, intentional, and constantly alive.

And then there’s everything beyond the therapy room, note taking, reflection, ongoing learning, reading, creating content, connecting with others, and building a practice. There’s so much that goes unseen.

But now you know a little more about what it’s really like to be an Adlerian therapist.

And honestly, I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

12/04/2026

Therapy is courageous, I see this with every client I work with, as the expression goes “choose your hard”. ☺️