31/07/2026
Your weight might be doing a job
If you have tried every diet going and the weight always comes back, I want to offer you a different explanation. Not lack of willpower. Not laziness. None of the stories you have been telling yourself at midnight.
Your weight might be employed.
In my work I have seen weight doing all sorts of jobs for all sorts of women:
Protection, after attention that was unwanted or unsafe. The body's logic is stark: being noticed was dangerous, so we will make sure we are not noticed that way again.
A boundary, for the woman who has never been allowed to say no. If the no cannot be spoken, the body builds it instead.
An archive of everything swallowed. We even use the language: swallowing anger, stuffing feelings down, biting your tongue. The weight keeps the record of every word unsaid.
Comfort, learned in childhood, when food was the one reliable kindness in the house. She is not greedy. She is returning to the only thing that never let her down.
Loyalty, when weight runs through the women of a family like a surname, and losing it would feel like betrayal or leaving someone behind.
An anchor, for the woman who never felt safe in her own body and needed ballast just to stay in it.
Here is the thing about the subconscious: it never gives up a job it believes is keeping you safe. Ever. Which is why the diet works until it doesn't, and why this cannot always be shifted alone. The work is not eating less. The work is finding what job the weight was hired to do, when it was hired, and giving that part of you a better way to keep you safe.
That is root work, and it is exactly what I do.
I have just added a guided hypnosis recording for exactly this inside The Healing Pathway, sitting in the new Space to Release, ready whenever my members are. And if this post has landed somewhere deep, my free Body Signals guide is your starting point. Link here: https://dub.sh/4okmcb6
Does any of this sound like your weight? You can tell me below or message me privately. x
