Della Cain - Counselling and Psychotherapy

02/05/2026

A seasoned captain sailing familiar waters spots storm clouds but refuses the first mate’s warning to change course, insisting he’s navigated worse. The ship wrecks, and even as it sinks, he claims the storm came out of nowhere. Pride doesn’t just blind us to flaws — it rewrites reality so we never have to change.

30/04/2026

22/05/2025

14/01/2025

11/01/2025

We have to protect democracy. Politicians don’t get to pick and choose when they stand for election. Cancelling elections with such short notice is harmful to democracy. The Essex County Council elections were due to take place in May 2025 and therefore should take place. There is no guarantee whe...

04/01/2025

This time of year is difficult for many people. Please remember there is always a way forward. Reach out to others, ask for help. If you do not have a go to person, please consider talking to a therapist.
Feeling isolated and lonely is a time to take notice of what needs to change in your life. Feelings are your friends, they feel brutal, but are more honest than any words that can be said by someone that is not you. They do not judge, they have your best interest at heart.
Once you learn to listen to your feelings and understand what they are trying to communicate to you, a solution will arise for the better. Sometimes it is difficult to know what that change needs to be. A therapist can look at your situation objectively and without judgment, helping you to navigate your future in a safe way that works for you...
If you can't afford therapy, remember there are lots of things you can start to do for yourself. Go online and learn to breathe into your tummy, this reduces anxiety. I recommend to all my clients to listen to 528htz (free on YouTube), this regulates the nervous system. There are lots of self-help techniques you can use that are free online to reduce stress and anxiety.
Depression arises from the past, anxiety arises for the future. Remember to stay in the moment of now, look around you, take walks, look at nature. When your mind starts wandering, bring it back to the now...
Best wishes
Della

04/01/2025

This time of year is difficult for many people. Please remember there is always a way forward. Reach out to others, ask for help. If you do not have a go to person, please consider talking to a therapist.
Feeling isolated and lonely is a time to take notice of what needs to change in your life. Feelings are your friends, they feel brutal, but are more honest than any words that can be said by someone that is not you. They do not judge, they have your best interest at heart.
Once you learn to listen to your feelings and understand what they are trying to communicate to you, a solution will arise for the better. Sometimes it is difficult to know what that change needs to be. A therapist can look at your situation objectively and without judgment, helping you to navigate your future in a safe way that works for you...
If you can't afford therapy, remember there are lots of things you can start to do for yourself. Go online and learn to breathe into your tummy, this reduces anxiety. I recommend to all my clients to listen to 528htz (free on YouTube), this regulates the nervous system. There are lots of self-help techniques you can use that are free online to reduce stress and anxiety.
Depression arises from the past, anxiety arises for the future. Remember to stay in the moment of now, look around you, take walks, look at nature. When your mind starts wandering, bring it back to the now...
Best wishes
Della

21/12/2023

My lovely foster daughter offered to take some pictures of me for my account 💕💕. Feel free to DM with any queries about anything at all, the first step to recovery and healing is reaching out by simply sending a quick little message, my dms are open 9-7pm ✨.