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SOMATIC TAO is the home of BEN – Babyhood Emotional Neglect – and a developing therapeutic framework for understanding how insufficient emotional attunement and co-regulation during babyhood can shape the developing nervous system and affect emotional, psychological and physical health throughout life.
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At the centre of Somatic Tao is the proposition that emotional neglect is not sim

ply the absence of good parenting. During babyhood, when the nervous system depends upon caregiver co-regulation, insufficient emotional attunement can result in internally mobilising emotion becoming organised as threat within the developing nervous system.
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Somatic Tao explores how this early adaptation may influence our later capacity to remain embodied with emotion, regulate autonomic state, experience aliveness, maintain relationships and respond flexibly to the demands of life.
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Central to the framework are:

• BEN – Babyhood Emotional Neglect: the developmental problem
• Emotology: understanding emotion as embodied energy and information
• Emoturity: the nervous system's capacity to remain embodied with emotion while maintaining coherence, flexibility and flow
• BEA – Babyhood Emotional Attunement: the relational conditions through which emotional capacity can develop
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Somatic Tao integrates contemporary understanding of developmental trauma, attachment, affective neuroscience and nervous-system regulation with the embodied understanding of emotion and health found within classical Taoist medicine.
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The framework is informed by, amongst others, the work of John Bowlby, Peter Levine and Stephen Porges, alongside emerging research into early development, emotional neglect, trauma and nervous-system organisation.
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This page exists primarily to EDUCATE, EXPLORE and DEVELOP understanding of BEN and its potential lifelong consequences, and to provide information about the developing Somatic Tao framework for adults seeking to understand the impact of their earliest emotional environment.
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Somatic Tao content is provided for educational and informational purposes. It is not intended to provide individual medical, psychological or therapeutic advice, diagnosis or treatment, nor should it replace appropriate professional healthcare.

06/09/2026

SOOTHING SUNDAY – Step by Step ...

Taking things
Step by step
Noticing detail
And symmetry
And fragility
As life invites you on.

04/09/2026

A HIDDEN COST OF SHAME’S PROTECTION

Brené Brown has written extensively about the relationship between shame, vulnerability and belonging.

In "Daring Greatly", she writes:

“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”

But what does it actually mean to accept oneself?

Self-acceptance is usually understood psychologically: accepting who we are, including our imperfections, vulnerabilities and perceived inadequacies.

Somatic Tao proposes that something more fundamental sits underneath this. Before we can psychologically accept ourselves, our nervous system must be sufficiently able to accept our own internal experience. That includes remaining embodied with the full range and intensity of our emotion energy whilst maintaining sufficient coherence, flexibility and flow. Somatic Tao calls this capacity emoturity.

Without sufficient emoturity, internally mobilising emotion may be experienced as threatening. The nervous system consequently inhibits aspects of our emotional experience in the interests of biological protection. But when the nervous system inhibits our emotional experience, it is also inhibiting part of our experience of self.

Our felt-sense experience provides information about our relationship with ourselves, other people and our environment. If that information must be inhibited, contained, or disconnected from because experiencing it feels unsafe, then our capacity to present our “authentic, imperfect selves to the world” is necessarily constrained.

This takes us back to shame. As explored in THE TAO OF SHAME – INHIBITION OF SELF, Somatic Tao proposes that shame is not fundamentally an emotion. It is an inhibitory nervous-system state protecting biological integrity when aspects of self-experience are predicted as threatening. Shame therefore does more than influence how we think about ourselves. It interferes with our capacity to experience ourselves. Perhaps, then, Brown's relationship between self-acceptance and belonging goes deeper than psychology:

True belonging requires self-acceptance.

Self-acceptance requires sufficient capacity to remain embodied with ourselves.

That capacity is emoturity.

And that is why shame can interfere so profoundly with belonging.

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 SHAME IS WIDELY MISUNDERSTOOD
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1aVMjy1d1f/

📌 THE TAO OF SHAME (2022)
https://www.facebook.com/somatictao/posts/pfbid0NQpd42fN337AmWtpj1wQ1XTyZ11Gwz1eGiNiDs8yos4iTfKuqBGYWgf9pRZ4uq7Jl

📌 THE TAO OF SHAME: INHIBITION OF SELF
https://facebook.com/share/p/1LwiDFr7M6/

📌 EMOTIONAL NEGLECT AS PSYCHOLOGICAL THREAT
https://facebook.com/share/p/1Hb1Bz4RZ5/

📌 THE PRIMITIVE AGONIES OF BEN
https://facebook.com/share/p/19PUkViLFy/

📌 WHAT IS THE EXISTENTIAL THREAT IN EMOTIONAL NEGLECT?
https://facebook.com/share/p/197SQz922U/

📌 THE EMOTOLOGY OF EXISTENTIAL THREAT
https://facebook.com/share/p/1N3Tf9AKxz/

📌 THE ISSUE IS NOT EMOTION ITSELF
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DC6LBRo7F/

📌 THE MISSING IN EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1LVG1zYHBx/

📌 BEHAVIOUR IS EMOTOLOGY
https://www.facebook.com/share/1P39SDPgjp/

📌 EMOTURITY – NERVOUS SYSTEM EMOTIONAL MATURITY:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16Hh4tXebz/

📌 BEN CHANGES WIRING OF THE BRAIN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1A2TFYgTt6/

02/09/2026

THE TAO OF SHAME: INHIBITION OF SELF

Psychology commonly understands shame as a self-conscious emotion involving negative evaluation of the self: I am bad, flawed, inferior or unworthy. This assumes capacities for self-reflection, social comparison and evaluation. Indeed, children are generally considered to experience shame only once sufficient cognitive and social capacities have developed [1].

But what if the developmental roots of shame begin before cognition can make such judgements?

Somatic Tao proposes that shame does not begin as a judgement about the self.

Shame begins as nervous system INHIBITION OF SELF.

Previous posts propose that BEN, Babyhood Emotional Neglect, can lead to the developing nervous system predicting internally mobilising emotion energy as threat. At its extreme, terror and disgust may culminate in horror as the nervous system responds to an internal threat of annihilatory magnitude.

A baby cannot cognitively understand this, but its nervous system can adapt to protect biological integrity. If emotion mobilisation is predicted as threatening, one powerful protection is inhibition:

• Do not mobilise.
• Do not expand.
• Do not express.
• Do not become more alive.
• Do not permit internal Yang.

The nervous system may therefore inhibit not only anger, protest or distress, but also joy, pleasure, agency, desire and aliveness – not because these states are inherently threatening, but because their Yang mobilisation has become predicted as threat. Somatic Tao describes this nervous-system organisation as Yang Phobia.

From this perspective, shame does not require the thought “there is something wrong with me” to develop or exist. While that meaning may emerge later, cognition may simply be interpreting a nervous system organisation that is already present. Rather, according to the framework of Somatic Tao, shame is proposed to develop thus:

Emotion mobilisation is predicted as threat
→ the nervous system inhibits
→ the inhibitory state amounts to shame
→ cognition later interprets that state through beliefs such as “I am bad.”

This may also explain why shame can remain largely unconscious. When established before conscious cognition, secondary adaptations may develop around the inhibition:

• people pleasing
• perfectionism
• shyness
• overachievement
• compensatory mobilisation through intensity/adrenalisation

The presenting behaviour may therefore not be the shame. It may be the adaptation that allows the person to function despite it.

Somatic Tao proposes that shame may represent one of the deepest developmental defences against the energetic threat of annihilation: inhibition of emotional mobilisation itself.

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 UNDERSTANDING COMPLEX PTSD, (CPTSD)
https://facebook.com/share/p/1Db2cEH3mK/

📌 MEET BEN – BABYHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1UoSjqTnxJ/

📌 THE THREAT IN BEN
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1BR3rEVGsE/

📌 BEN's LACK OF ALIVENESS
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/14de7ptomD3/

📌 SHAME IS WIDELY MISUNDERSTOOD
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1aVMjy1d1f/

📌 THE TAO OF SHAME (2022)
https://www.facebook.com/somatictao/posts/pfbid0NQpd42fN337AmWtpj1wQ1XTyZ11Gwz1eGiNiDs8yos4iTfKuqBGYWgf9pRZ4uq7Jl

📌 EMOTIONAL NEGLECT AS PSYCHOLOGICAL THREAT
https://facebook.com/share/p/1Hb1Bz4RZ5/

📌 THE PRIMITIVE AGONIES OF BEN
https://facebook.com/share/p/19PUkViLFy/

📌 WHAT IS THE EXISTENTIAL THREAT IN EMOTIONAL NEGLECT?
https://facebook.com/share/p/197SQz922U/

📌 THE EMOTOLOGY OF EXISTENTIAL THREAT
https://facebook.com/share/p/1N3Tf9AKxz/

📌 THE ISSUE IS NOT EMOTION ITSELF
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DC6LBRo7F/

📌 THE MISSING IN EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1LVG1zYHBx/

📌 BEHAVIOUR IS EMOTOLOGY
https://www.facebook.com/share/1P39SDPgjp/

📌 EMOTURITY – NERVOUS SYSTEM EMOTIONAL MATURITY:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16Hh4tXebz/

📌 BEN CHANGES WIRING OF THE BRAIN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1A2TFYgTt6/

RESEARCH:

[1] Budiarto Y, Helmi AF. Shame and Self-Esteem: A Meta-Analysis. Eur J Psychol. 2021 May 31;17(2):131-145. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8768475/

31/08/2026

THE TAO OF SENSE OF ANNIHILATION

In recent posts, Somatic Tao has been exploring the connection between BEN, Babyhood Emotional Neglect, CPTSD, existential threat and sense of horror.

Historically, horror has been classified in relation to both fear and disgust [1], although this does not establish horror as a combination of the two. More recently Dr Karl Albrecht, author of Social Intelligence, has argued that horror is underpinned by fear of annihilation – a primary existential anxiety involving bodily destruction, predation or absolute death [2]. This implies that BEN might somehow involve fear of annihilation. Yet with BEN there is no obvious destruction of the body, predation or cause of possible death.

In the previous post Somatic Tao proposed that the horror may involve opposing emoto-somatic movements: the Yin downward contraction of terror and the Yang upward expulsion of disgust, driving Yin and Yang away from one another. From a Taoist perspective, this proposal has other implications regarding sense of annihilation.

According to the Classical Chinese text of The Inner Canon of the Yellow Emperor, the Huang Nei Jing, specifically the third chapter of the Suwen (素问 - Basic Questions):

“Only when Yin remains calm and harmonious will the yang qi be contained and not overly expansive, the spirit normal, and the mind clear.

If the yin and the yang separate, the jing/essence and the shen/spirit will also leave each other” [3].

This passage describes the interplay of Yin and Yang as fundamental to health. Life depends upon Yin and Yang remaining dynamically interrelated, whilst their separation corresponds ultimately to death.

Somatic Tao is not proposing that BEN causes the infant’s Yin and Yang to literally separate as in physical death. Rather, the proposal concerns the felt sense of a powerful, internal movement of pulling apart. If horror involves the Yin movement of terror powerfully pulling away from the Yang movement of disgust, might this movement towards separation carry an embodied sense of impending dissolution of self?

Could horror feel annihilatory because its emotology reproduces the directional signature of dying?

Somatic Tao proposes that, without adequate co-regulation, mobilisation of emotion energy may escalate towards the opposing emoto-somatic movements of terror and disgust – an internal pulling apart experienced as the existential dread of horror and sense of impending death.

Perhaps Taoism offers an explanation for how the body's own defensive movements could generate experiences of sufficient magnitude to approach Winnicott's “primitive agonies”.

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 UNDERSTANDING COMPLEX PTSD, (CPTSD)
https://facebook.com/share/p/1Db2cEH3mK/

📌 MEET BEN – BABYHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1UoSjqTnxJ/

📌 THE THREAT IN BEN
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1BR3rEVGsE/

📌 EMOTIONAL NEGLECT AS PSYCHOLOGICAL THREAT
https://facebook.com/share/p/1Hb1Bz4RZ5/

📌 THE PRIMITIVE AGONIES OF BEN
https://facebook.com/share/p/19PUkViLFy/

📌 WHAT IS THE EXISTENTIAL THREAT IN EMOTIONAL NEGLECT?
https://facebook.com/share/p/197SQz922U/

📌 THE EMOTOLOGY OF EXISTENTIAL THREAT
https://facebook.com/share/p/1N3Tf9AKxz/

📌 THE ISSUE IS NOT EMOTION ITSELF
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DC6LBRo7F/

📌 THE MISSING IN EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1LVG1zYHBx/

📌 BEHAVIOUR IS EMOTOLOGY
https://www.facebook.com/share/1P39SDPgjp/

📌 EMOTURITY – NERVOUS SYSTEM EMOTIONAL MATURITY:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16Hh4tXebz/

📌 EMOTURITY AFFECTS HEALTH & LIFE:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/152MdeR72ew/

📌 EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IS NOT EMOTURITY:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/15HmjdyGMc/

📌 BEN CHANGES WIRING OF THE BRAIN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1A2TFYgTt6/

RESEARCH:

[1] Cowen, A. S., & Keltner, D. Self-report captures 27 distinct categories
of emotion bridged by continuous gradients. Proceedings of the
National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America, 114, 2017
E7900–E7909. https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.1702247114

[2] Albrecht, K., The (Only) 5 Fears We All Share - When we know where they really come from, we can start to control them, Psychology Today, 2012, https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/brainsnacks/201203/the-only-5-fears-we-all-share [2026 08 26]

[3] Ni, Maoshing, The Yellow Emperor's Classic of Medicine: A New Translation of the Neijing Suwen with Commentary, p.11, Shambhala Publications, 1995

30/08/2026

SOOTHING SUNDAY - Meditating with Ancients ...

Come and meditate with
Some ancient Beings.
Yew trees aged
500 to 900 years old.
Symbols of regeneration
With a red heart.

28/08/2026

WHEN NOTHING IS THE THREAT

Emotional neglect is sometimes understood as simply the absence of something good. Kathrin Stauffer captures why it can be far more consequential than that.

For a baby, indifference is not neutral. When distress, fear or other internally mobilising emotion meets with nothing, there is no caregiver response to help the developing nervous system remain embodied with what has arisen.

This is the territory of Babyhood Emotional Neglect (BEN): not only what happens to the baby, but what happens WITHIN the baby when nobody responds.

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 MEET BEN – BABYHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1UoSjqTnxJ/

📌 THE THREAT IN BEN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1BHBRhLTpY/

📌 EMOTIONAL NEGLECT AS PSYCHOLOGICAL THREAT
https://facebook.com/share/p/1Hb1Bz4RZ5/

📌 WHAT IS THE EXISTENTIAL THREAT IN EMOTIONAL NEGLECT?
https://facebook.com/share/p/197SQz922U/

📌 THE ISSUE IS NOT EMOTION ITSELF
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DC6LBRo7F/

📌 EMOTION WIRES THE NERVOUS SYSTEM:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1BbHRZub7o/

📌 BEHAVIOUR IS EMOTOLOGY:
https://www.facebook.com/share/1P39SDPgjp/

📌 EMOTURITY – NERVOUS SYSTEM EMOTIONAL MATURITY:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/17xwXG7Fip/

📌 THE MISSING IN EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1LVG1zYHBx/
📌 EVIDENCE BEN IS INTERGENERATIONAL:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19qoVjjsmq/

📌 Situations of Risk of BEN 1 – 6:
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/15kqeh5FPz/

📌 Situations of Risk of BEN 7 – 12:
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/162dvUJZTu/

📌 Situations of Risk of BEN 13 – 18:
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1FMbewz9EA/

📌 BEN & CAREGIVER PARENTING STYLE – USE OF “CALM DOWN”:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1fS3NDTsDs/

📌 BEN & VERBAL ABUSE AT HOME:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1Ck6ueHUmR/

26/08/2026

THE EMOTOLOGY OF EXISTENTIAL THREAT

Over sixty years ago paediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Woods Winnicott proposed that failure of the infant's emotionally “holding” environment could give rise to unthinkable agonies associated with physical and psychological annihilation [1]. More recently, new research has proposed that experiences of emotional neglect may fall within domains of existential and relational threat [2]. Yet, what might be happening within the baby’s nervous system for emotional neglect to create experiences of such magnitude?

Exploration of “existential threat” leads to characteristics of existential dread, helplessness, anticipatory grief, chronic anxiety and “objectless fear”. “Objectless” because, unlike fear directed towards an identifiable predator, there is said to be no specific target [3]. Instead, existential dread is said to be abstract, or associated with vast, intangible threats such as climate collapse or nuclear winter [4]. But is that actually so? Perhaps existential threat is not objectless at all. Perhaps, in BEN, the “object” of threat has moved inside.

From a Somatic Tao perspective, BEN leads to the nervous system organising around the body’s emotions as an internal threat. A threat that is energetic rather than material and so possible to categorise as abstract or invisible. A threat that cannot simply be escaped and, more importantly, one that may become excessive and intolerable within.

Viewed through the lens of Emotology, when something is experienced as contaminating or noxious, the nervous system mobilises disgust to reject and expel. Might the same Yang expulsive movement be mobilised against emotion energy that has become excessive and intolerable to remain embodied with? But what if the body is simultaneously contracted through the Yin mobilisation of terror? Somatic Tao proposes that the result may be an internal conflict: intense mobilisation alongside profound inhibition. All can culminate in rootedness, restricted breath, immobility, a frozen or screaming face, a sinking feeling in the stomach and rising nausea. Together, these begin to describe the felt-sense experience of horror.

Historically, horror has indeed been classified in relation to both fear and disgust [5], although more recent research suggests that horror is experientially distinguishable from both, and particularly associated with severe or abnormal harm [6]. This does not establish horror as a combination of fear and disgust. Somatic Tao proposes something different: that the distinctive felt experience of horror may involve conflict between the opposing emoto-somatic movements of terror and disgust:

• Unmet needs within BEN lead to internally mobilising emotion energy;

• continued unmet need and absence of sufficient co-regulation escalate the mobilisation towards terror;

• terror contracts in response to the internal threat, whilst disgust attempts to expel what has become intolerable within;

• simultaneous mobilisation of these opposing defensive movements may create an emoto-somatic conflict experienced as the existential dread of horror – a response to something experienced as already happening or having happened.

All reveals how BEN can lead to simultaneous incompatible defensive directions: the infant cannot escape a threat experienced within the body, yet neither can it expel what is part of the body or energetic in nature. The catastrophic internal state isn’t merely anticipated. It is actually happening: the complex, heavy emotional state of existential dread associated with possible annihilation – the territory Winnicott described through the “primitive agonies.”

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 UNDERSTANDING COMPLEX PTSD, (CPTSD)
https://facebook.com/share/p/1Db2cEH3mK/

📌 MEET BEN – BABYHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1UoSjqTnxJ/

📌 THE THREAT IN BEN
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1BR3rEVGsE/

📌 EMOTIONAL NEGLECT AS PSYCHOLOGICAL THREAT
https://facebook.com/share/p/1Hb1Bz4RZ5/

📌 THE PRIMITIVE AGONIES OF BEN
https://facebook.com/share/p/19PUkViLFy/

📌 WHAT IS THE EXISTENTIAL THREAT IN EMOTIONAL NEGLECT?
https://facebook.com/share/p/197SQz922U/

📌 THE ISSUE IS NOT EMOTION ITSELF
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DC6LBRo7F/

📌 THE MISSING IN EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1LVG1zYHBx/

📌 BEHAVIOUR IS EMOTOLOGY
https://www.facebook.com/share/1P39SDPgjp/

📌 EMOTURITY – NERVOUS SYSTEM EMOTIONAL MATURITY:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16Hh4tXebz/

📌 EMOTURITY AFFECTS HEALTH & LIFE:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/152MdeR72ew/

📌 EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IS NOT EMOTURITY:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/15HmjdyGMc/

📌 BEN CHANGES WIRING OF THE BRAIN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1A2TFYgTt6/

📌 BEN's NEUROINFLAMMATION:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1Foy23rEjq/

📌 DSM LABELS of BEN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/17NRmtgiyo/

RESEARCH:

[1] Winnicott, D. W. (1974). Fear of Breakdown. International Review of Psycho-Analysis, 1, 103-107. https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/1745-8315.12148

[2] D. Draczyńska, A. Nowakowska, M. Anczewska, Is emotional neglect the first psychological threat? Differentiating ICD-11 PTSD and complex PTSD with comorbid anxiety and depression, Journal of Psychiatric Research, Volume 191, 2025, Pages 138-147, ISSN 0022-3956, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jpsychires.2025.09.017

[3] Mowat, S.M. How do we understand anxiety? A Heideggerian
approach to modern psychiatry. The University of Edinburgh. 2009. https://era.ed.ac.uk/server/api/core/bitstreams/e5951196-e0cf-4535-be33-1172275f5ce8/content [2026 08 16]

[4] Lyon, H.Z., How to Cope With Existential Dread: Evidence-Based Strategies That Actually Help. therapistsinbaltimore.com. 2026. https://www.therapistsinbaltimore.com/therapy-insights-blog/2026/7/2/how-to-cope-with-existential-dread-evidence-based-strategies-that-actually-help [2026 08 16]

[5] Cowen, A. S., & Keltner, D. Self-report captures 27 distinct categories
of emotion bridged by continuous gradients. Proceedings of the
National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America, 114, 2017
E7900–E7909. https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.1702247114

[6] Taylor PM, Uchida Y. Horror, fear, and moral disgust are differentially elicited by different types of harm. Emotion. 2022 Mar;22(2):346-361. https://psycnet.apa.org/doi/10.1037/emo0001061

24/08/2026

THE PRIMITIVE AGONIES OF BEN

Recent research has proposed that experiences of emotional neglect may fall within the domains of existential and relational threats that shape individual vulnerability [1].

Such a proposal should not be viewed as revelatory. Over 50 years ago, English paediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Woods Winnicott described the catastrophic consequences of failure in the child's emotionally “holding” environment [2]. Such experiences can be understood as a structural trauma felt as literal, physical, and psychological annihilation.

Emotional holding is particularly critical in the period of “absolute dependence” if ego integration and a stable continuity of being are to develop [3-4]. Winnicott proposed that failure of such holding could give rise to “primitive agonies” with corresponding psychic defences – interpreted here as follows:

• A return to an unintegrated state – the terrifying sensation of physically and fundamentally falling apart, shattering or scattering into pieces. DEFENCE – pre-emptive disintegration.

• Falling forever – an unresolvable, bottomless dread of having no support; a literal feeling of cosmic, endless dropping. DEFENCE – self-holding.

• Loss of psychosomatic collusion – failure of indwelling (interpretable as somatic dissociation). DEFENCE – depersonalisation.

• Loss of the sense of real – feeling like a ghost moving through a hollow world. DEFENCE – exploitation of primary narcissism.

• Loss of the capacity to relate to objects – the utter destruction of the ability to form a meaningful connection. DEFENCE – states relating only to self-phenomena.

N.B. Winnicott stated the above was not an all-encompassing list.

Crucially, Winnicott did not regard these defences as the breakdown itself. They protected against an underlying primitive agony that was, in his words, “unthinkable”. His striking proposition was that the later fear of breakdown is fear of a breakdown that has, in some sense, already occurred – but at a stage when the immature ego could not integrate the experience.

More than sixty years before contemporary developmental neuroscience could offer the mechanistic explanations available today, Winnicott was describing the catastrophic subjective consequences of failure in the infant's facilitating environment. Viewed through the lens of BEN, his primitive agonies offer a striking phenomenological account of what profound failure of emotional holding during babyhood may mean to a nervous system in absolute dependence. This raises the possibility that BEN may provide a contemporary emoto-neurobiological hypothesis for why the “primitive agonies” inferred by Winnicott could arise in the first place.

Yet, what is happening within the baby’s nervous system that makes failures of emotional holding capable of producing experiences of such existential magnitude?

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 UNDERSTANDING COMPLEX PTSD, (CPTSD)
https://facebook.com/share/p/1Db2cEH3mK/

📌 MEET BEN – BABYHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1UoSjqTnxJ/

📌 THE THREAT IN BEN
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1BR3rEVGsE/

📌 EMOTIONAL NEGLECT AS PSYCHOLOGICAL THREAT
https://facebook.com/share/p/1Hb1Bz4RZ5/

📌 WHAT IS THE EXISTENTIAL THREAT IN EMOTIONAL NEGLECT?
https://facebook.com/share/p/197SQz922U/

📌 THE ISSUE IS NOT EMOTION ITSELF
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DC6LBRo7F/

📌 THE MISSING IN EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1LVG1zYHBx/

📌 BEHAVIOUR IS EMOTOLOGY
https://www.facebook.com/share/1P39SDPgjp/

📌 EMOTURITY – NERVOUS SYSTEM EMOTIONAL MATURITY:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16Hh4tXebz/

📌 EMOTURITY AFFECTS HEALTH & LIFE:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/152MdeR72ew/

📌 EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IS NOT EMOTURITY:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/15HmjdyGMc/

📌 BEN CHANGES WIRING OF THE BRAIN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1A2TFYgTt6/

📌 BEN's NEUROINFLAMMATION:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1Foy23rEjq/

📌 DSM LABELS of BEN:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/17NRmtgiyo/

📌 BEN’s RISK OF ADHD
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1EAaz3vLjR/

RESEARCH:

[1] D. Draczyńska, A. Nowakowska, M. Anczewska, Is emotional neglect the first psychological threat? Differentiating ICD-11 PTSD and complex PTSD with comorbid anxiety and depression, Journal of Psychiatric Research, Volume 191, 2025, Pages 138-147, ISSN 0022-3956, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jpsychires.2025.09.017

[2] Winnicott, D. W. (1974). Fear of Breakdown. International Review of Psycho-Analysis, 1, 103-107. https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/1745-8315.12148

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23/08/2026

SOOTHING SUNDAY – Sparkles and Threads...

Enjoy following
Some sparkles and threads.

21/08/2026

WHEN PHYSICAL NEEDS COME FIRST

The physical needs of a baby are usually easy to see. Emotional needs can be much easier to miss – particularly when family life becomes difficult and time, energy and attention are stretched.

Meeting a physical need may also change the outward signs of distress: the hungry baby is fed; the crying stops. Yet cessation of distress does not necessarily tell us that emotional co-regulation has occurred, or that the developing nervous system has experienced safety.

Perhaps this is one of the ways emotional neglect can occur without ever being intended.

MORE INFORMATION:

📌 UNDERSTANDING COMPLEX PTSD, (CPTSD)
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📌 MEET BEN – BABYHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
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📌 THE THREAT IN BEN
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📌 EMOTIONAL NEGLECT AS PSYCHOLOGICAL THREAT
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📌 THE ISSUE IS NOT EMOTION ITSELF
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📌 THE MISSING IN EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
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📌 BEHAVIOUR IS EMOTOLOGY
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📌 EMOTURITY – NERVOUS SYSTEM EMOTIONAL MATURITY:
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📌 EMOTURITY AFFECTS HEALTH & LIFE:
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📌 WHERE THERE IS FLOW THERE IS AGENCY
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📌 EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IS NOT EMOTURITY:
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📌 EMOTURITY IS BUILT ON NEUROPLASTICITY
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📌 BEN CHANGES WIRING OF THE BRAIN:
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