Elephants are scared of bees

08/08/2026

3 WEEKS SOBER..

🐘🐝 THE DRINK WASN’T ALWAYS ABOUT THE DRINK…
Sometimes that drink at the end of the day wasn’t really about wanting alcohol.
It was about wanting relief.
Relief from being switched on.
Relief from overthinking.
Relief from masking.
Relief from constantly trying to be who everyone else needed you to be.
For some neurodivergent adults, especially those who have spent years learning how to hide their differences, alcohol can feel like permission to finally stop performing.
🐝 THE MASKING NEVER STOPS
All day you might be monitoring your voice.
Your facial expressions.
Your body language.
Whether you’re talking too much.
Whether you’re talking too little.
Whether you’re making enough eye contact.
Whether you're being "too sensitive."
Whether you're reacting the "right" way.
You hold it all together.
Then you get home…
And suddenly that first drink feels like someone has finally turned the volume down.
For a moment, you don't have to try so hard.
You can breathe.
You can switch off.
You can stop being the version of yourself you've created to survive.
And that relief is real.
🐘 BUT THIS IS WHERE WE NEED TO BE CAREFUL
Understanding why alcohol feels comforting doesn't mean the alcohol isn't becoming a problem.
Sometimes the thing that helped us survive eventually becomes the thing that starts hurting us.
When alcohol becomes the only way you know how to decompress, regulate, sleep, socialise, quiet your thoughts or feel like yourself…
your brain can begin to learn:
"This is how we feel safe."
And that's when the pattern can become very difficult to break.
💛 LOOK UNDERNEATH THE DRINK
Maybe the question isn't only:
"Why am I drinking?"
Maybe we also need to ask:
"What am I trying so desperately to escape from?"
The exhaustion.
The overwhelm.
The sensory overload.
The people-pleasing.
The trauma.
The loneliness.
The pressure to perform.
The feeling that you can finally be yourself only when nobody needs anything from you.
These things deserve attention too.
Because you shouldn't have to numb yourself to finally feel like you.
🐘🐝 AT ELEPHANTS ARE SCARED OF BEES…
We talk about the things underneath the behaviour.
Not to excuse them.
Not to minimise them.
But to understand them.
Because sometimes healing begins when we stop asking,
"What's wrong with me?"
…and start asking,
"What happened to me, and what has my nervous system been trying to cope with?"
You deserve spaces where you don't have to mask.
You deserve people who don't require you to perform.
You deserve ways to regulate that don't leave you hurting afterwards.
And most importantly…
You deserve to feel safe enough to be completely, unapologetically YOU. 🐘🐝

08/08/2026

08/08/2026

8/8 PORTAL
✨ PAINT ME A PICTURE OF YOUR LIFE… ✨
How often do we rush through life without really noticing the little moments?
The breath before the next chapter.
The anticipation of something beautiful unfolding.
The quiet moments where nobody else can see the work happening within us.
Sometimes healing is in the details.
It’s in slowing down enough to feel.
To breathe.
To notice the colours around you.
To pay attention to the thoughts you keep painting into your own mind.
Your life is a canvas — and you get to choose what you put on it.
Not every stroke will be perfect.
Some will be messy.
Some will hurt.
Some will completely change the picture.
But keep creating.
Keep dreaming.
Keep believing.
Keep aiming for more.
Because the picture you are creating today may become the life you once only imagined. 🌿✨
Jodie.O 🐘🐝

08/08/2026

TODAY IS THE 8\8 PORTAL
ARE YOU READY TO MOVE HIGHER TIMELINES?? RELEASE EMOTIONAL HEAVINESS...COME BACK TO SELF... COME HOME TO YOUR ANCESTORS....JODIE.O

Where are we going Mother
And how will we get there Sister
By staying connected Woman
And allowing for difference

There’s a storm brewing
You can feel it on the wind
As the veil thins and the old ones gather
Concern on their faces and tears in their eyes
For they know this storm only too well
Lived through it lifetime after lifetime
Since the dawning of time
And the advent of humans

One by one they came from different places
With different stories and yet the
Same tales of abuse and heartache,
Betrayal and Death
Each one different and yet still the same

We fly with the raven and screech
With the banshee,
Dance naked with the Fairies
And keen with the old ones
We throw bones and read palms
Scry with mirrors black
While sacred knowings swirl about

We are the future and we will not
Go blindly into your patriarchal world
In fact, we declare it over as we hear
Her coming in all her glorious irreverence and
Everything you think a woman should NOT be

We declare your way dead and fling open the
Doors of new tomorrows and new ways of
Celebrating our juicy femaleness in ALL the
Ways women appear... in ALL the ways women
Act and in ALL the ways they live and breathe

Where are we going Mother
And how will we get there Sister
By staying connected Woman
And allowing for difference

So let the Serpent coil around you
As you hear the crunch of the Apple
And feel the smiles of the new occupants
As the doors to Eden are flung open wide
embracing the All of the All of the All

The Women Have Arrived

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The Women Have Arrived, ©Arlene Bailey
Art, Gathering Ancient Knowledge, Debbie Hanna,
Deborah Hanna Art

07/08/2026

It take courage to be authentic to be open to be heard...JODIE.O

07/08/2026

🧡 How AuDHD Shows Up Physically 🐝
Living with AuDHD isn't "just in your head." Your nervous system carries the weight too. From overwhelming fatigue and sensory overload to muscle tension, digestive issues, sleep struggles and burnout, these experiences are real and deserve compassion—not judgment.
You are not lazy. You are not broken. You are not "too sensitive."
Your body is communicating that it needs understanding, rest and support.
At Elephants Are Scared of Bees, we create safe spaces where neurodivergent women can feel seen, heard and accepted—without masking who they are.
💛 You are enough. 🐘 You are never alone.
📧 [email protected]

07/08/2026

Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart.

Louise Erdrich
Artwork by Catrin Welz-Stein

06/08/2026

The Little Girl I Had to Become
Looking at this little girl, you would never know the battles she would face.
From a young age, trauma shaped the way I saw the world. I learned to survive instead of simply being a child. As I grew older, the pain followed me into adulthood, affecting my mental health and leading me down the path of addiction. For years, I searched for something to numb the hurt I didn't yet know how to heal.
But this is not a story about staying broken.
It's a story about courage.
I chose to face the parts of myself I'd hidden for so long. I began to understand that my behaviours were survival responses, not my identity. Healing hasn't been easy. It's been messy, painful, and full of setbacks. But every step has taught me that recovery isn't about becoming someone new—it's about finding the person trauma tried to silence.
Today, I stand in my truth. Sober. Healing. Learning. Growing. Using my voice to help others know they are not alone.
Elephants Are Scared of Bees was born from my journey. A reminder that even the biggest wounds can begin to heal when we feel seen, heard, and safe.
If your inner child is still carrying pain, I want you to know this:
You are not too much. You were carrying too much.
Healing is possible. Your past may explain you, but it does not define you. And no matter where you are in your journey, there is always hope.
Keep going. The little child inside you deserves the life you've been fighting for. ❤️JODIE.O