21/08/2026
Last week, my beautiful friend of over 20 years lost her fight with cancer. 💔
It reminded me how little we really talk about grief and loss.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve.
Grief is deeply personal.
It isn’t linear; it has no timescale, and it doesn’t only come from death.
We can grieve any loss.
For a child, that might be the loss of a friendship, moving away from their old school or home, changes within their family, or simply the loss of how life used to be.
As adults, we might grieve the breakdown of a relationship or friendship, losing a job, not getting the opportunity we desperately hoped for, changes to our health, or a future we thought we were going to have.
And we don’t simply “get over” grief.
Our grief becomes part of us, and slowly, our life grows around it.
I often describe it as having a love heart and a loss heart, sitting side by side. ❤️💔
Some days we feel the love more strongly. Other days, the loss feels enormous. A song, a photograph, a place, an anniversary, or the smallest unexpected reminder can suddenly make that loss heart feel very heavy again.
And that’s okay.
Because missing someone is sadness wrapped around the blessing of having known them, having loved them, and having a heart full of treasured memories you were lucky enough to make together.
Grief exists because love existed first. ❤️
So perhaps we need to talk about grief a little more, with adults and with children. Not as something that needs to be fixed, rushed or overcome, but as something we sometimes need others to sit beside us with and help us carry. 💛
