RESET Grief Counselling

RESET Grief Counselling Helping people to pause, evaluate and reset their lives. Focusing on bereavement and unresolved grief

10/09/2026

If life feels hard right now, there are people you haven’t met yet who care about you and want you to have a future…

Today is World Su***de Prevention Day.

Thinking of everyone who has lost someone to su***de, everyone struggling and everyone supporting someone they love ❤️

For ANDYSMANCLUB and so many others helping people find hope is why we do what we do every day.

Yesterday our co-founder Luke was at Number 10 alongside our friends from Samaritans, Mind, Men’s Sheds and many others, coming together to help more people find a way through.

Pictured with Luke and Minister Richards is Ben West, creator of Reasons to Stay.

An amazing movement sharing anonymous letters of hope from people who care to people who need it.

Sometimes a stranger’s words can remind us we’re not as alone as we feel.

Ten years ago ANDYSMANCLUB started with nine men in one room.

This Monday over 7,000 men walked through our doors.

Thousands of conversations, connections and opportunities to see that things can get better.

Now we’re taking that community into some of the biggest conversations about su***de prevention, alongside people who share that same determination to help.

By learning from each other and working together, we can give more people somewhere to turn.

If you’re struggling, you don’t need to have the right words or everything worked out to reach out. There is a place for you and people ready to listen.

Please share this.

Let someone scrolling today know there are people out here who want to meet them, hear them and help them see a future. ❤️

***dePreventionDay

09/09/2026

One of the most misunderstood parts of grief is what happens when someone becomes good at carrying it.

In the early days, grief may be visible. It can interrupt conversations, alter routines, change someone’s ability to work, socialise, sleep, think or simply get through the day.

But human beings adapt.

Over time, many grieving people learn how to function alongside what has happened. They learn which questions they can answer without crying. They learn how to walk into rooms where nobody knows. They return to work, remember birthdays, laugh at jokes, make plans, care for other people and say, “I’m fine,” because explaining the whole truth can sometimes feel exhausting.

None of this means their grief has disappeared.

It simply means they have become more skilled at carrying something that remains deeply significant.

This distinction matters, because functioning is not the same as forgetting. Smiling is not the same as being healed. A good day does not cancel a difficult one, and someone’s ability to participate in life should never become evidence that their loss no longer affects them.

If you are grieving, please don’t measure the legitimacy of your grief by how visible it is to other people. You are allowed to laugh and still miss them. You are allowed to build a beautiful life and still have moments when their absence catches you completely off guard. You do not have to perform your pain for it to be real.

And if you love someone who is grieving, remember this:

Don’t stop asking simply because they stopped showing.

Months or years later, say their person’s name. Remember significant dates. Ask, “How is this for you now?” rather than assuming you already know the answer. Make room for whatever comes next, even if that answer changes from one day to another.

Sometimes the greatest kindness is recognising the weight someone carries long after they have learned how not to show you how heavy it is.

If you need more than words on a screen, my books are practical companions for grief, trauma, and loss, and for those supporting someone they love.

31/08/2026

Tears for the One Who Had to Go

Sometimes my tears are not for me,
nor for the grief
that lives within my heart.
They are for the one who had to go,
for the soul that left too soon.

I do not cry
because I was left behind,
I cry
because you had to leave.

And sometimes I cry
for the weight you carried in silence,
for the battles
no one ever saw,
for the nights you smiled through the pain
so the world would never know
how weary your soul had become.

I cry for the dreams
that will remain unfulfilled,
for the places you will never see,
for the hands you will never hold again,
and for all the little things
you thought you still had time for.

My tears are for the moments
you will never get to live.

They are for every unfinished sentence,
every unspoken word,
every "I love you"
that lingered in the silence
because we believed
there would always be
another day.

So the tears spill from my eyes,
not asking to be understood,
not asking to be comforted,
because some goodbyes
are too deep for words.

My tears are not for me,
or even for my own broken heart.

They are for the one who had to go,
for the journey you never chose,
for the goodbye
you never deserved,

and for the part of you
that will forever remain
here,

in the hearts
of those who loved you,
who remember you,
and who were never ready
to let you go.

~ 'Tears for the One Who Had to Go' by Spirit of a Hippie

✍️ Mary Anne Byrne

~ Art by Lena Chernyshykh

23/08/2026

It’s all an ebb and flow

14/08/2026

Its ok to ask for help.

Today I received this lovely message from one of my client’s. Yesterday was our last session together, always a bittersw...
06/08/2026

Today I received this lovely message from one of my client’s. Yesterday was our last session together, always a bittersweet moment for me as I don’t like Goodbye’s, but take comfort in knowing my client’s are ready to let me go.
As this lady said she knows I will be here if she needs me in the future. This happens frequently, when a client comes back for a one off session or would like to see me again for a few weeks. It doesn’t mean they have taken a step backwards, it just means they need to talk. And that is what I always say, on our first session and our last session, that I will always be here. I won’t cast you adrift. I won’t tell you that you can only have 6 sessions. I won’t tell you I don’t work evenings or weekends. We will do this together, until the time you tell me you are ready to take the next step 🕊️

Fantastic presentation and Q&A session with Mell today at the Cancer support Group. Mell’s wealth of knowledge was amazi...
03/08/2026

Fantastic presentation and Q&A session with Mell today at the Cancer support Group. Mell’s wealth of knowledge was amazing, particularly around insurance and making sure you are adequately covered when travelling with illness, or pre existing conditions.

23/07/2026

💜 Bereavement Group- Wednesday 29th July 💜

Losing someone to cancer can feel incredibly isolating, but you don’t have to face it alone.

Our Bereavement Group offers a warm, welcoming space where you can share your thoughts and feelings (if you wish), connect with others who understand, and find support in a safe and understanding environment.

📅 Wednesday 29th July
🕦 11:30am-1:00pm
📍 Unit 1, Navigation House, Belmont Bridge, Skipton, BD23 1RL

The group is facilitated by Jo Onions from RESET Grief Counselling and meets on the last Wednesday of every month.

If you or someone you know has been bereaved following a cancer diagnosis, you’re very welcome to join us. No one should have to navigate grief alone. 💜

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