20/08/2026
Hey everyone,
I wanted to check back in on my “Hey, I need to call in a favour” post.
Firstly, a huge thank you to the 12 people out of 1.7k followers who interacted. Truly, thank you.
And to everyone else — thank you too, because somewhere in the mix, that post gave me information I wasn’t actually looking for.
Let me tell you about a girl who wanted to be a hairdresser.
She loved hair, but mostly she loved making people feel better.
So she gave.
“That’s too expensive.” — No worries, I’ll discount it.
“Can I pay next week?” — Of course.
“I can only do a ridiculous time.” — Sure, I don’t need rest.
She donated, discounted, rearranged and made herself everything everyone else needed while continually short-changing herself.
Did people take advantage sometimes? Absolutely.
But did she teach people they could?
SHE COMPLETELY DID.
She was wounded, people-pleasing, insecure, looking outside herself for validation and abandoning herself in the hope of being valued.
She was an absolute fu***ng doormat.
She was me.
Eventually I burned out, broke down and lost everything.
Since 2023, I haven’t just rebuilt my business. I’ve rebuilt myself.
And I learned something the hard way:
Being a good person and being nice are not the same thing.
Which brings me back to the favour.
I didn’t actually need 1.7k people to respond. But the response gave me information.
Old me would have looked at it and wondered what I needed to change about myself. Offer a discount? Give more away? Make myself easier to choose?
Current me went:
Interesting.
Energy Speaks is changing because I have changed.
There won’t be discounts designed to convince people to choose me. There won’t be endless giving to prove I’m a good person. I won’t build a business around being everything to everybody.
Will I still give? Absolutely. Help? Always. Do things simply because I fu***ng want to? Of course.
But it will come from choice, not from needing to be chosen.
Because healers give. Caring people give.
But giving without boundaries isn’t generosity. It’s martyrdom.
And that is no longer me.