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Mind Positive Trauma Informed Practitioner, Coach & Educator. Helping people get clear, break free, and get back to who they are.

19/06/2026

Right, I’m off. ☀️

I’ve not stopped this year and we’re somehow at the end of June already. How did that happen!??🤪

This year has been full on. I’ve had a house move, family life, ongoing health stuff, supporting clients, running the business, and everything else that life likes to throw at us. 😳

No social media from me for a wee bit, although there may well be the odd holiday photo in my stories… 😉🍹

Thank you to everyone who continues to support my work. Honestly, you keep me going, more than you know…❤️

I’ll see you on the other side!

Lorna 💛

18/06/2026

Sometimes the people everyone admires have the most influence.

People have trust in them, so they find themselves sharing their private information.

They end up confiding in them, and they give them a front row seat into their lives.

Before long, that person knows everybody’s business and nobody thinks twice about it because they’re seen as caring.

That’s where the influence comes from.

The access. The information they have, and the care they provide.

And because everybody loves them, nobody questions them.

Until you do.

And that’s usually when the mask slips.

17/06/2026

If they haven’t taken responsibility, apologised, repaired the damage, or changed, what exactly are you going back to?

Maybe you’re hoping that this time they’ll be different.

But if nothing has changed, why would the outcome?

People can be very quick to tell you to forgive, move on, let it go, or give someone another chance.What they don’t see ...
16/06/2026

People can be very quick to tell you to forgive, move on, let it go, or give someone another chance.

What they don’t see is what it has already cost you to give them the benefit of the doubt.

The sleepless nights. The anxiety. The damage to your health. The impact on your nervous system. The relationships that were lost or changed forever, and the years spent trying to make sense of something that never should have happened in the first place.

It’s easy to have an opinion when you’re standing outside the situation. It’s way harder when you’re the one who had to live through it.

At some point, you have to stop listening to what other people think you should do and start listening to yourself.

Trust what you’ve learned. Trust what you’ve seen, and for the love of the good Lord above - trust what you already know.💛





14/06/2026

Everyone loves talking about the person who left. Not one of them ever asks what happened.

People are quick to discuss the person who stepped away, went no contact, spoke up, or finally had enough.

What they rarely talk about are the years of lies, the manipulation, the conversations that went nowhere, and the things they were expected to tolerate….

Its important to consider that most people that do leave, they’ve usually spent years trying not to.

So - before you join in with the gossip and judging the person who left, maybe ask yourself what you’ve not been told. Sometimes walking away is the result of exhausting every other option, and that’s what any healthy person would do.

11/06/2026

Most people don’t grieve the loss of money or things.

They grieve the realisation that it was easier to erase them than to even try to understand them.

You can spend years joining the dots and trying to understand someone’s wounds, childhood, trauma and behaviours.In fair...
09/06/2026

You can spend years joining the dots and trying to understand someone’s wounds, childhood, trauma and behaviours.

In fairness - understanding can bring a huge amount of clarity. It can help you stop blaming yourself, and help you to make sense of things that never made sense before.

But understanding someone doesn’t make them change. It doesn’t make them all of a sudden want to self reflect. And is sure as hell doesn’t give them access to a newfound care for people.

Those things have to come from them.

One of the hardest lessons I learned was that I could understand exactly why they behaved the way they did, and I was still left with the harsh reality - that they had no intention or want to change...

08/06/2026

Not every family member who gets close to a child has good intentions.

Some aren’t acting out of love. They’re acting out of their own need to feel important, needed or chosen.

A child should never be used as a pawn in an adult’s need for attention, influence or loyalty.

Yet it happens in families every single day.

The grandparent who creates a “special bond”.

The aunt, uncle or sibling who encourages secrets.

The family member who slowly positions themselves as the one who understands best.

Children should never feel caught between loyalty to a parent and loyalty to another family member.

Healthy adults support the relationship between a parent and child.

Unhealthy adults compete with it.

And in my view, using a child to undermine, weaken or come between a parent and their child is one of the ugliest forms of family dysfunction there is.

07/06/2026

When the scapegoated sibling finally says, “That’s enough.” Everything changes…

So when they stop apologising for things that weren’t their fault. Stop smoothing things over, and they stop making themselves smaller so everyone else can stay comfortable.

That’s usually when the illusion of the “close family” starts to crumble.

Because what looked like a functioning family was often being held together by one person carrying far more than their fair share.

The moment they stop carrying it, the whole dynamic is exposed…

05/06/2026

I think it’s really painful to realise that they demanded all the care and attention from you, that they were never willing to give back.

They expected support when they were struggling, upset, and would create drama to be sure that everyone was rallying round about them.

But when it was your turn, they were nowhere to be found.





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