Therapy with Ezzy

27/07/2026

25/07/2026

What if your exhaustion is the result of being too good at meeting everyone else’s needs?

I’ve been thinking a lot about how easy it is to overwork.

Sometimes because we’re good at it.

Sometimes because there is always something else that needs doing.

Sometimes because keeping busy helps us avoid sitting with things we don’t want to feel.

Sometimes because we’re trying to prove something.

And sometimes because we have learned, over time, to meet everyone else’s needs before our own.

Many of us have been shaped in this way.

We may have learned that being needed feels safer than having needs.

That being useful is more comfortable than resting.

That we should keep going, keep giving, keep showing up.

That other people’s needs are urgent, while ours can wait.

And so we become very good at putting ourselves last.

I realised this week that I haven’t really had proper time off for a very long time.

So this week, I intentionally put work down.

And honestly, I didn’t realise how much I needed it until I did.

I went for a walk close to home and had yet to visit since moving. It was beautiful. I felt calmer. More present. More like myself.

Yesterday, I also made time to speak to a friend.

Both of these things are things I value.

Both are things I often encourage my clients to make space for.

And yet, I can still overlook them in my own life.

I may be a therapist but I also like to keep it real.

I think there can be a strange gap between knowing something and actually allowing ourselves to experience it.

I know that rest is important.

I know that connection matters.

I know that getting outside can help.

I know that we need time away from work.

But knowing those things doesn’t always mean I give myself permission to do them.

Because sometimes looking after ourselves feels uncomfortable.

It can feel unfamiliar.

We might feel guilty.

Selfish.

Restless.

We might notice the urge to get up and do something for someone else.

And perhaps that discomfort is not a sign that we are doing something wrong.

Perhaps it is a sign that we are doing something unfamiliar.

If we have spent years prioritising everyone else, then beginning to consider our own needs may not immediately feel natural.

And the things that feel uncomfortable often require practice.

We can learn to sit with the discomfort of resting.

We can learn to tolerate not immediately meeting every need around us.

We can learn that someone else being disappointed doesn’t necessarily mean we have done something wrong.

We can learn that our needs matter too.

This week reminded me that I don’t need to wait until I am completely exhausted before I take time off.

I don’t need to earn rest by reaching breaking point.

And I don’t need to justify doing things that simply make me feel good.

Perhaps this is a reminder for me as much as anyone else:

You are allowed to pause before you are completely depleted.

You are allowed to step away from work.

You are allowed to go for the walk.

You are allowed to call the friend.

You are allowed to do something that fills you up.

And sometimes, the things we encourage others to do are the very things we need to gently offer ourselves too.

Even when it feels uncomfortable.

Especially then.

If this sounds familiar, get in touch.

Much love,

Ezzy 🌸

16/07/2026

Self-sabotage doesn’t always look like giving up on your goals.

Sometimes, it can look like doom-scrolling for hours, struggling to get out of bed, having no routine or structure, avoiding messages from friends, or masking how you’re really feeling.

It might look like eating foods that don’t make you feel your best, constantly waiting for someone else to tell you what to do, or putting off the things you know might help you feel more like yourself.

But this is important: this isn’t about shame or blaming yourself.

There are times when rest is exactly what you need. There are times when ordering food is the kindest and most practical option. There are times when you don’t have the energy to socialise, follow a routine, or do everything you usually would — and that’s ok.

The difference is often in noticing when something has become a pattern that is keeping you stuck, rather than supporting you.

Self-sabotage can sometimes be about avoiding discomfort in the short term, even when it leaves us feeling worse in the long term. Recognising these patterns isn’t about judging yourself — it’s about becoming curious about what’s happening and finding small, manageable ways to move forward.

You don’t have to change everything overnight. Small steps count.

If you recognise some of these patterns and would like support to understand them and create healthier routines that work for you, please get in touch. You don’t have to figure it all out alone.

Much love, Ezzy 🌸

16/07/2026

Self-sabotage doesn’t always look obvious.

Sometimes, it can look like procrastination, negative self-talk, perfectionism, fear of success, people-pleasing, avoiding healthy relationships, giving up just before you reach your goal or saying what you’re going to do but not showing up consistently.

These patterns often develop as ways of coping, but over time, they can leave you feeling stuck and impact your mental health, recovery, self-esteem, and personal growth.

The good news is that these patterns can be understood, recognised, and changed. With awareness, support, and practical strategies, it’s possible to start breaking the cycle, build healthier habits, and move towards the life you deserve.

If you recognise yourself in any of this and would like support, please get in touch with me. You don’t have to work through it alone.

Learning practical strategies to break the cycle is how you show up for yourself.

Much love,

Ezzy 🌸

14/07/2026

If this sounds like you, take a breath.

You’re not “too much,” and you’re not asking for too much. Often, these patterns develop because you’ve learned that keeping a relationship means working harder, asking for less, or putting other people’s needs before your own.

The good news is that patterns can change. Therapy can help you understand where these habits came from, why they keep showing up, and how to build relationships that feel more secure, balanced, and mutual.

If you’re ready to stop carrying relationships on your own, I’d love to help. Feel free to get in touch to find out more about working together.

Much love,

Ezzy

08/07/2026

WHO AM I?

Anxiety and depression are often seen as symptoms to get rid of, but what if they’re also messages from parts of ourselves that have been carrying pain for a long time?

In therapy, we don’t just focus on reducing symptoms—we get curious about what lies beneath them.

✨ Shadow work invites us to explore the parts of ourselves we’ve learned to hide, reject, or judge. These parts often hold emotions, beliefs, and experiences that have been pushed out of awareness but continue to influence how we feel and respond to life.

✨ Parts work helps us understand that we all have different inner parts. The anxious part may be trying to keep you safe. The depressed part may be protecting you from overwhelm or emotional pain. Rather than fighting these parts, we can learn to understand them with compassion.

✨ Inner child work reconnects us with the younger versions of ourselves whose needs may not have been fully met. When we acknowledge and nurture these younger parts, healing becomes possible, and old patterns can begin to shift.

If any of this resonates or you feel curious, then get in touch for a free 30 minute consultation.

Ezzy
www.therapywithezzy.co.uk

02/07/2026

Don’t Sit At The Table If You’re Not Being Fed

In therapy, this speaks to something simple but often difficult to accept because reciprocity matters. Your energy, care, and presence aren’t meant to be poured into spaces that consistently leave you depleted.

Being “fed” doesn’t mean everything has to be perfect. It can look like mutual effort, respect, emotional presence, and a general sense that what you give is also being returned in some way. When that’s missing over time, it’s worth paying attention to how it impacts you.

Boundaries are often the first step. That might mean communicating your needs more clearly, adjusting how much access others have to you, or no longer overextending yourself in environments that feel one sided. Sometimes that alone creates change, and sometimes it simply gives you clarity.

And sometimes, that clarity becomes hard to ignore: when nothing shifts, or when you notice you’ve been diminishing yourself just to stay included. In those moments, it may be healthiest to step away and this is not from a place of resentment, but from self-respect.

The point isn’t to rush the decision.
It’s to stop mistaking endurance for connection, and to trust that you’re allowed to choose relationships and environments where you are genuinely nourished.

If you want to explore boundaries further, get in touch.

Much love,

Ezzy