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18/09/2026

Who I am and how I help. I am running my introductory offer of Medical Intuitive Technique for £50 per session. Please DM me.

15/09/2026

AS I HEAL… 🌿
The Drama Triangle — Part 1: The Perpetrator
I’ve been exploring the Drama Triangle — the Persecutor, the Victim and the Rescuer — and I’m beginning to see how these roles can live inside us too.
Today I want to talk about the Perpetrator.
When I think about this part, I see someone who has learned that the world is a dangerous place.
So they have to become the tough guy.
Or the mean bitch.
They have to be strong, critical, controlling or blaming because somewhere along the way they learned that this is how you survive.
And what I’m discovering is that this doesn’t always look like attacking another person.
Sometimes the perpetrator turns inward.
I saw this so clearly in my own life.
Growing up, I remember Dad criticising Mum for the meal she had made.
And although the criticism wasn't directed at me, I learned something from witnessing it.
I learned that criticism meant something was wrong.
And somehow, I needed to do better.
Yesterday at work I caught myself saying:
“Kick myself.”
I had mistaken ivory for green.
Such a tiny mistake.
But immediately there was that familiar inner criticism.
That voice that says:
You should have known better.
How could you get that wrong?
You need to do better.
And then I caught it.
Cancel. Clear. Delete.
And instead, I brought in a more loving way of speaking to myself.
Not pretending I hadn't made a mistake.
Not bypassing what had happened.
Just choosing not to attack myself for being human
As I connected today with my seven-year-old self, something deeper came through.
She believed that criticism — or attracting criticism — was there to make her do better.
What a revelation.
The little girl inside me wasn't thinking:
“People are being unkind.”
She was thinking:
“This criticism must be helping me become better.”
And I could feel how much shame, blame and hurt had become tangled into that story.
I heard:
“You're not talking about it.”
And then…
“I don't know what to do.”
A freeze.
So I stayed with her.
I didn't try to fix her.
I didn't tell her she was wrong.
I listened.
I saw myself lifting up the skirting board in my healing room, and as I did, the light was able to get through.
And I heard:
“The story is an area of illusion.”
That really landed.
Because the criticism was never the truth of who I was.
The story that I needed criticism in order to become better wasn't the truth either.
There was a huge amount of shame, blame and hurt there — and today I could acknowledge it rather than continue carrying it unconsciously.
I was also shown a roll of material on the counter.
Some of the fine material had been rolled out…
but there was still so much more on the roll.
Then cardboard was placed over the top.
It felt connected to my work.
I saw staff in their uniforms walking past.
Then I saw my own legs walking towards me at work.
And suddenly I understood something else.
I often stay quiet when the women around me are letting off steam in the staff room at lunchtime.
But I'm beginning to see that my silence isn't necessarily because I'm being a victim.
And I don't need to become the rescuer and fix anyone or show them another way.
I'm not there to fix them.
But I also realised…
I'm not always being fully me either.
Because I'm afraid of criticism.
And that means there are parts of me I still hold back.
So perhaps healing the perpetrator isn't simply about stopping ourselves from being critical.
Perhaps it's also about discovering the part of us that learned:
“If I don't want to be criticised, I need to hide.”
And I'm ready to gently question that too.
This morning I went to my boxercise class.
My energy is returning.
I'm getting stronger.
And perhaps that's part of this healing too.
Not becoming tougher so that nobody can hurt me…
but becoming strong enough to be myself without abandoning myself when criticism appears.
That feels very different.
And perhaps that's where the triangle begins to lose its power.
Tomorrow I'll share what I'm discovering about the Victim.
🌿
As I heal, I am learning that I don't need to criticise myself into becoming better. I can grow through love, awareness and compassion.
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10/09/2026

Could guilt be running your life without you even realising it?
I’ve been exploring the Guilt Wound, and it has made me look very differently at some of the patterns so many women experience.
Especially mums.
The mum who feels guilty because she works.
Guilty because she doesn't work.
Guilty because she missed the school assembly.
Guilty because she took time for herself.
Guilty because she said no.
Guilty because dinner wasn't homemade.
Guilty because she was tired.
Guilty because she wants more for herself.
And somehow…
nothing ever feels like enough.
The Guilt Wound can carry the deep belief:
“Everything is my fault.”
And underneath that can be another belief:
“I deserve to be punished.”
So how might this show up?
You might find yourself saying sorry constantly — even when you haven't actually done anything wrong.
You might automatically take responsibility for everyone else's feelings.
You might replay conversations over and over:
He said this…
She said that…
Maybe I shouldn't have said that…
Maybe it was my fault…
You go into your head trying to work everything out…
when what you're really longing for is to come back into your heart.
You stay stuck in the he said, she said.
You analyse.
You justify.
You explain.
You defend.
YAnd meanwhile, your own feelings, needs and inner knowing can get lost.
Guilt can also keep us repeating patterns that leave us feeling punished, choosing relationships or situations that reinforce the belief that something is wrong with us.
You may even find yourself thinking:
“Why does this always happen to me?”
The same relationship patterns.
The same conflicts.
The same self-sabotage.
The same feeling that somehow you are the one who has to pay the price.
In the work I’ve been studying, there is a phrase that really landed for me:
“Guilt seeks punishment.”
Not because we consciously want to suffer.
But because an unconscious part of us may believe:
You try to work out who was right and who was wrong .“I did something wrong, so something bad must happen to me.”
And perhaps you've carried this for so long that you don't even recognise it as guilt anymore.
It just feels like who you are.
But what if it isn't?
What if there is a wounded part of you underneath all that guilt that simply wants to be seen?
What if you could begin to ask:
What did I decide about myself?
When did I decide it?
What have I been carrying that was never mine to carry?
And perhaps the biggest question:
What would happen if I stopped punishing myself?
This is the deeper level of work I explore through MIT — Medical Intuitive Technique.
My introductory sessions are currently £50 while I build my practice and become established.
This isn't about me telling you what's wrong with you.
It's a guided spiritual and emotional exploration of the patterns, beliefs and wounded parts that may be asking for your attention.
If you're a woman who is constantly saying sorry…
feeling responsible for everyone…
living in your head…
struggling with guilt…
or wondering why you keep repeating the same patterns…
perhaps it's time to explore what is underneath it.
🌹 £50 Introductory MIT Session
If you'd like to book an introductory session, send me a private message with “MIT” and I'll send you the details.
You don't have to keep carrying everything alone.
You can begin to come home to yourself. 🤍
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🥤 AS I HEAL… SOMETIMES WE OUTGROW WHAT ONCE FELT NORMAL 🍷There are so many things I do differently now that I simply wou...
08/09/2026

🥤 AS I HEAL… SOMETIMES WE OUTGROW WHAT ONCE FELT NORMAL 🍷
There are so many things I do differently now that I simply wouldn't have thought twice about years ago.
I used to drink tinned fizzy juice every single day.
It was just part of my routine.
Over the years, I decided to stop, and for me it has been a really positive change. I noticed that my digestion felt better, and I simply didn't want that daily habit anymore.
I'm not saying that everyone should stop drinking fizzy drinks from tins.
I'm sharing my own experience and my own choices.
I still occasionally enjoy a gin and diet Coke—but I keep it to a minimum, usually one or two on a Saturday evening.
And something else has changed as I've got older.
I simply can't drink the amount of alcohol I used to when I was younger.
But the interesting thing is…
I don't want to.
I think sometimes we reach a point in life where we realise that certain things we once considered completely normal or socially acceptable just don't fit who we are anymore.
And that's okay.
We don't have to keep doing something simply because we've always done it.
We don't have to justify changing.
We don't have to judge the people who still enjoy those things.
We can simply say:
“That was me then.
This is me now.”
For me, healing has involved making lots of little choices over the years.
Changing the way I respond to stress.
Changing my relationship with food.
Changing what I drink.
Learning to listen to my body.
And becoming much more conscious about what I actually want to put into my life.
It's not about being perfect.
It's not about never having cake.
It's not about never having a drink.
It's about choice rather than habit.
And perhaps that's one of the gifts of getting older.
We become clearer about what feels good for us—and what we've simply outgrown.
Some things that once seemed completely normal no longer feel normal to me.
And I'm okay with that.
🌸 As I heal, I don't need to be who I used to be.
I can choose who I am becoming. 🌸

Jane McGirk Mary Fleming Maureen Needham Ann Calderwood Mandy Goodall Mandy Whiteford Kreisha Szaranek Diane Cunningham BA Hons Helen Taylor Macfarlane Eileen McCrossan

It’s Over. I Am Free. 🌹🕊️ Childhood Trauma complete.This morning something beautiful happened.I saw him.The man connecte...
01/09/2026

It’s Over. I Am Free. 🌹🕊️ Childhood Trauma complete.
This morning something beautiful happened.
I saw him.
The man connected to one of the most terrifying experiences of my childhood.
I was nearly 12 years old when it happened.
My 14-year-old brother and his friend had hitched a lift home after berry picking. The man who picked us up turned out to be a very dangerous person. He kidnapped us, and my brother and his friend eventually jumped from the window of the speeding car to escape.
Skylar helped me understand that my brother may have saved my life that day, because this man could have killed us.
For so many years, I had forgotten what he looked like.
But this morning, I saw him.
He was standing beside his car.
And something was completely different.
I wasn't afraid.
There was no terror.
No panic.
No little girl desperately trying to escape.
Just a quiet knowing.
It’s over.
I am approaching my 63rd year, and I look back at that 12-year-old girl with such tenderness.
She has carried this for so many years.
But through my inner work, I have been able to meet her, hear her, see her and bring her home.
To give her the truth she needed:
You are safe now.
You are powerful now.
You survived.
It was never your fault.
He does not hold your power.
You are free.
And perhaps this vision was my soul showing me something I was finally ready to see.
I don't need to know exactly what it was.
I only know what I felt.
Peace.
And for me, that feels like completion.
Forgiveness doesn't mean what happened was okay. It doesn't erase the truth, and it doesn't give the person who hurt me any place in my life.
It means I no longer need to carry him.
I can leave the past where it belongs.
And bring my little girl home to me.
Today I honour the 12-year-old me.
I honour her courage.
I honour the part of her that survived.
And I honour the woman she became.
61 years later, I can finally say:
The trauma is no longer my identity.
The past is no longer my prison.
The fear is no longer in charge.
It's over.
I am free. 🕊️❤️
And perhaps this is what another inner message I received meant “have a party” was always about…
Not celebrating what happened.
But celebrating her.
Celebrating the little girl who survived.
Celebrating the woman she became.
Celebrating the power she reclaimed.
Celebrating the fact that she is finally, truly…
FREE. 🎉🥂✨
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31/08/2026

As I Heal, I’m Learning…Part 2 – Carrying other people’s energy
I’m learning that taking on someone else’s stuff doesn’t always look dramatic.
Sometimes it looks like becoming quiet when someone is angry.
Apologising when I haven’t actually done anything wrong.
Trying to make someone feel better.
Changing my behaviour so they won’t be upset.
Feeling guilty because someone else is disappointed.
Or becoming hyper-alert to someone’s mood and unconsciously asking:
“Are they okay?”
“Are they angry?”
“Have I done something?”
“What do I need to do to make this safe?”
So how do you know if you’re carrying someone else’s stuff?
Let’s make this really concrete.
Imagine someone you’re close to is angry.
They are angry.
But if you take on their anger, your system might suddenly tell you:
“I’ve done something wrong.”
Because your own history may associate anger with danger, criticism, rejection or being unprotected.
So instead of asking:
“What is actually happening between us?”
you might automatically:
• become quiet
• apologise when you haven’t actually done anything wrong
• try to make them feel better
• change your behaviour to prevent further anger
• feel guilty
• withdraw
• become hyper-alert to their mood.
You’re responding to their present emotion through your past experience of anger.
That’s the difference between their stuff and your stuff.
Someone is disappointed in you.
Suppose someone says:
“I’m disappointed you didn’t do that for me.”
If you take their disappointment on, your unconscious response might become:
“I’ve let them down. I’m not good enough. I need to fix this.”
And if you learned to make other people more important than yourself, you might immediately abandon your own needs to make them happy.
But perhaps the reality is simply:
“They’re disappointed. They’re allowed to be disappointed. I can listen to them without making their disappointment a verdict on my worth.”
That is a completely different response.
Someone is anxious.
Someone comes to you frightened about something.
If you absorb it, you may suddenly become frightened too.
Then you might think:
“I need to fix this for them.”
And now you’re carrying their fear and taking responsibility for resolving it.
But what if you could remain connected without taking it on?
“I can see that you’re frightened. I’m here with you. What do you need from me?”
You haven’t become cold.
You’ve stayed in relationship without becoming responsible for their internal state.
And I think this is where something very profound happens as we heal.
We begin to realise:
I can love people without carrying them.
I can care without rescuing.
I can listen without absorbing.
I can support without losing myself.
And here’s where it gets really interesting…
If you learned that protection was outside of you, someone else’s emotional state can start to feel like your responsibility.
Someone is upset…
So you monitor them.
Are they okay?
Are they angry?
Have I done something?
What do I need to do?
How can I keep this safe?
Your attention leaves you and goes into managing the emotional environment around you.
And that can become a way of giving your power away.
Not because you are weak.
Not because you are doing anything wrong.
But because somewhere along the way, your system learned:
“If I can keep everyone else okay, then I will be okay.”
As I heal, I’m learning something different.
Someone can be angry without their anger meaning I have done something wrong.
Someone can be disappointed without their disappointment becoming a verdict on my worth.
Someone can be anxious without me needing to become anxious too.
Someone can be struggling without me being responsible for fixing their internal world.
I can allow people to have their feelings.
And I can have mine.
I can ask:
What am I feeling?
What do I need?
What is actually mine?
What belongs to them?
What is my responsibility—and what isn’t?
I can let someone have their disappointment.
I can let someone have their anger.
I can let someone have their fear.
I can be compassionate without carrying it.
Because love doesn’t require me to become responsible for another person’s internal state.
And boundaries don’t mean I stop caring.
Sometimes boundaries are simply the moment I say:
“I love you, and I’m still here—but I’m not leaving myself to carry this for you.”
As I heal, I’m learning to keep my attention where it belongs.
With me.
My feelings.
My needs.
My truth.
My body.
My relationship with God.
My own inner safety.
And perhaps this is what it really means to stop giving my power away.
Not becoming cold.
Not becoming selfish.
Not withdrawing from love.
But learning how to remain in relationship without abandoning myself.
I can love people without carrying them.
I can care without rescuing.
I can listen without absorbing.
I can support without losing myself.
And I can finally begin to trust that:
I am allowed to stay with me.
Jane McGirkMary FlemingAnn Calderwood Maureen Needham Sheila Galloway Kellie Sharp Mich

27/08/2026

# # As I Heal… Carrying Other People’s Energy
For a long time, I thought carrying other people’s energy was simply part of being sensitive.
I’ve often been told I’m “too sensitive.”
But as I heal, I’m beginning to understand the difference between **being sensitive to someone** and **carrying something for them**.
One of the ways this shows itself for me intuitively is through what I call my **red bags**.
I regularly see red bags moving down and to the left or right.
When Skylar read this for me, the message that came through was **a lack of safety** — connected to my father’s lineage, where there had been generations of abuse.
I have already done a great deal of healing around that lineage, so for me this isn't about going back into the trauma.
It is about recognising what I may still be carrying.
Because sometimes carrying another person's energy doesn't look like anything negative.
Sometimes it looks like LOVE.
You don't want someone you love to suffer.
You don't want them to become ill.
You don't want them to hurt.
You don't want something terrible to happen to them.
So the rescuer part of you quietly says:
**“I'll carry it for you.”**
And because it comes from love, it can be incredibly difficult to recognise.
You might notice it when you:
• walk into a room and suddenly feel completely different
• leave a conversation feeling exhausted, heavy or emotionally overwhelmed
• feel responsible for another person's emotions
• find yourself worrying constantly about someone's wellbeing
• feel guilty when you say no
• automatically try to fix, soothe, rescue or protect
• know what everyone else needs, but struggle to know what *you* need
• feel someone else's pain as though it belongs to you
• have been repeatedly told that you're “too sensitive”
• believe that if you don't hold everything together, something bad might happen
And perhaps one of the biggest clues is this:
**You feel responsible for an outcome that actually belongs to another person.**
This is where my healing has become much deeper.
Because I can love someone without carrying them.
I can care without rescuing.
I can support without taking responsibility for their journey.
I can pray without believing I have to control the outcome.
And I can remind the wounded parts of myself:
**I am not God.**
I am not here to control whether another person lives or dies.
I am not here to determine whether someone suffers or heals.
I am not here to override another person's free will.
They have their own journey.
They have their own choices.
They have their own relationship with God.
And so do I.
The MIT work describes this movement as shifting from the rescuer pattern into **Free Will, Divine Will and Trust** — remembering that everyone has their own divine curriculum and that **God is in control**.
For me, this doesn't make my love smaller.
It makes my love cleaner.
I don't have to carry your pain to prove that I love you.
I don't have to become exhausted to prove that I care.
I don't have to sacrifice myself to keep another person safe.
I can stand beside you.
I can love you.
I can pray for you.
I can hold space for you.
And I can give your energy back to you with love.
**As I heal, I am learning that compassion does not require carrying.**
Sometimes the deepest act of love is allowing another person to have their own journey — while trusting God with what I cannot control. ❤️
Jane McGirkSheila Galloway Mary Fleming Mandy Whiteford Mandy Goodall Ann Calderwood Kreisha Szaranek Kellie Sharp Kirsty J Mcl Vicki Diamond Michelle Wright Diane Cunningham BA Hons Natalie Thomson Stacey Mullen Vanessa Charlton See less

As I Heal… I’m Learning to Follow My Divine Guidance ✨Today I received the words:“Black tooth out.”It was so clear.I imm...
26/08/2026

As I Heal… I’m Learning to Follow My Divine Guidance ✨
Today I received the words:
“Black tooth out.”
It was so clear.
I immediately knew what came to mind — the two black amalgam fillings I have had for decades. I honestly can't remember when I had them put in.
I sat with the message rather than dismissing it.
For me, this is part of learning to recognise the difference between simply thinking something and receiving a piece of divine guidance that keeps gently presenting itself.
I brought it to Skylar, and she confirmed that this was, indeed, guidance for me to explore.
So I am going to follow that guidance and make an appointment with my dentist to discuss having the amalgam fillings assessed and, if appropriate, safely removed.
I'm not doing this from fear.
I'm doing it from trust.
Trusting my intuition.
Trusting my body.
Trusting the guidance I receive.
And, importantly, trusting God enough to allow the practical steps to unfold too.
For me, spiritual guidance isn't about ignoring the physical world.
It's about listening deeply and then taking grounded action.
I don't need to know the whole journey.
I just need to listen for the next step.
“Black tooth out.”
Message received. ❤️
As I heal, I am learning that my gifts are not something I need to doubt or push away.
I can listen.
I can discern.
I can ask questions.
I can seek appropriate professional advice.
And I can follow the guidance that feels aligned with God.
I trust what I receive.
I trust my discernment.
I trust my gifts.
And I trust God to guide my next step. ✨
This is my personal spiritual experience and not medical advice. Any dental treatment or removal of amalgam fillings should be discussed with a qualified dentist.

Jane McGirkSheila Galloway Kreisha Szaranek Eileen McCrossan Ann Calderwood Kirsty J Mcl Michelle Wright Mary Fleming Vicki Diamond Diane Cunningham BA Hons Mandy Goodall Mandy Whiteford See less

21/08/2026

AS I HEAL: FATIGUE
As I heal, I am beginning to understand that control and hypervigilance often travel together.
Control says:
I must make the right choice.
I must manage the outcome.
Hypervigilance says:
Stay alert.
What could go wrong?
Who could hurt me?
What am I missing?
And suddenly, I can see how exhausting that is.
I do not believe I learned control because I simply wanted to control everything.
I believe I learned it as protection.
If I manage everything correctly, perhaps I can stay safe.
Perhaps that is what happens when life feels unpredictable.
We become little managers.
We monitor.
We anticipate.
We plan.
We prepare.
Not because we are controlling by nature.
But because some part of us is trying to reduce uncertainty.
And then I began to see something else.
The part of me that was so tired did not want to disappear.
It wanted peace.
Not escape.
Peace.
A release from constantly carrying.
Constantly monitoring.
Constantly anticipating.
Constantly trying to manage the outcome.
If I had to name the wound beneath it all, perhaps it is this:
The burdened child.
The child who learned:
To carry.
To monitor.
To stay alert.
To anticipate.
To manage.
And perhaps healing is allowing that child to learn something new.
I do not have to carry everything.
I do not have to control every outcome.
I do not have to stay on guard in order to be safe.
Perhaps I can loosen my grip.
Perhaps I can let life unfold.
Perhaps I can finally rest.

Jane McGirk Mary Fleming Sheila Galloway Kreisha Szaranek Kirsty J Mcl Vicki Diamond Ann Calderwood Mandy Whiteford Eileen McCrossan Diane Cunningham BA Hons Ladies Blethers - Kirkcaldy Group Michelle Wright Kellie Sharp Kellie Couser See less

20/08/2026

AS I HEAL: FATIGUE
I had an image of a pillow.
And suddenly, something deeper became clear.
The message was not simply:
Rest.
It was:
You no longer need to earn rest.
How many of us learned that rest had to come after everything was done?
After everyone else was okay.
After the work was finished.
After the responsibilities were handled.
After we had given enough.
But what if rest is not a reward?
What if softness is not weakness?
As I heal, I am learning to become more receptive.
To let myself be held.
To stop treating exhaustion as proof that I have worked hard enough to deserve a pause.
I am allowed to rest before I break.
I am allowed to soften without losing my strength.
I am allowed to receive.
Perhaps fatigue is sometimes the body and soul whispering:
You do not have to prove your worth through depletion.
Today, I am practicing something different.
I do not need to earn rest.
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