20/05/2026
β A little parenting reflection β
Being a parent is hard! Raising children is hard!
My son, M, goes swimming with school. He stopped private swimming lessons a few years ago because it was getting a bit too tough, and we felt confident that he could swim well enough. This year however, they have been every week and he hasn't once complained about it, until this week.
This week he told us, they were told they each had to swim 24 lengths to help raise money for the pool. (We'd had a letter about something to do with this, but couldn't find it...typical!) Anyway, the day came and he was saying he didn't want to go swimming, but myself and my husband had agreed that we wanted to encourage him to just give it a go. Every ounce of me wanted to say, 'that's fine, don't worry, you don't need to do it', but I knew that if he gave it a go, he would be so proud of himself. So we continued to encourage, but his uniform wasn't feeling right, his socks were uncomfortable and by 8.30am it was time to leave the house, he suddenly became completely distressed. He was scared and nervous and you could feel the adrenaline rushing through him from how he was moving!
It was at this point that I felt I had to make the decision to let him not go swimming. Not because I 'gave in', but because his fight/flight response kicked in and he'd run back to the house from the car. I knew deep down that once he got to school he would be fine, but sometimes, truly listening to our children and letting them know that we are there for them is the most important part of parenting! I could have carried on pushing him, and yes, he'd probably have gone swimming, but a little piece of our trust and connection could have gone and I'm not up for that! So maybe I am a push over, or not hard enough on my kids, but I know, that he knows, I will always encourage, but always, without a doubt, listen to what he knows he needs!! Trusting our children and listening to their needs is SO important!
Anyway, a little vulnerable story about parenting, but if he helps you in any way to reflect on a time you've found hard, trust your instincts! π§‘