21/08/2026
I spent a LOT of my first postpartum second guessing myself.
Was she feeding enough?
Was I doing enough?
Should I be doing this differently?
Why did everyone else seem to know what they were doing? I could go on and on with the questions tbh!
And (because apparently I didn’t have enough to worry about) I was also trying to figure out how the hell I was supposed to look after myself in amongst it all.
The internet gave me approximately 1m more things to question 😂
I’ve slow come to understand that more info isn’t the answer. But learning to trust myself and what I was going through was matrescence. And that my recovery and needs mattered too. It’s not selfish to want to look after yourself.
I could love my baby completely while also feeling lost, exhausted and unlike myself.
That’s a huge part of why I do what I do now.
Because nobody teaches women how to care for the version of themselves that motherhood creates.
We’re given endless information about the baby. But so very little about the woman who just became their mum.
And so my lovely if you’re somewhere in that messy middle of “I adore my baby but who the bloody hell am I now?” be reassured that you’re not doing it wrong.
You deserve to learn how to care for the woman you are now.
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Kimberley xo
