Autistic & ADHD That's Me

27/04/2026

Recently, I've been experiencing a flare-up that has me concerned something deeper might be happening, possibly even neurological. With a family history of Multiple Sclerosis, these worries are hard to ignore.

This morning, I found myself reflecting on how best to communicate my needs to my partner. It's important to me that he understands support doesn't mean taking over everything for me. When he does, it leaves me feeling frustrated and angry at myself, which only worsens my mental health.

To help clarify my thoughts, I turned to AI for assistance in expressing what I truly need from him. (What ever your thoughts are on A.I when are brains are glitching and breaking down, for whatever reason, it can help)

🌟 Understanding Real Support 🌟
Ever wondered what true support looks like for those with chronic conditions like MS, autism, or burnout? It's all about empowering independence, not taking over tasks. Here’s how you can be a supportive partner without overwhelming yourself or your loved one:

✨ Support vs. Care-taking:

* Care-taking: “I’ll do it for you” removes independence and isn’t feasible long-term.

* Support: “I’ll make it easier for you to do” preserves autonomy and respects your partner’s capabilities.

🔍 Simple Ways to Offer Support:

1. Admin Tasks: Instead of handling it all, prep necessary info so they can tackle it themselves.

2. Morning Routines: Set up essentials the night before to ease their morning struggle.

3. Medical Calls: Help draft scripts for doctor calls to combat brain fog.

4. Household Chores: Break tasks into manageable steps and handle the more physically demanding ones.

5. Emotional Support: Offer to take a small task off their plate to prevent burnout.

6. Planning Ahead: Collaborate on weekly plans to avoid cognitive overload.

💡 The Spoon Theory:

Think of energy as “spoons” you can spend. Support should help your loved one manage their spoons wisely, not deplete them.
Remember, it’s about being a teammate. Your help should be about removing barriers, not being the savior. Together, you can navigate the challenges with understanding and practical support.

🗣️ Open Communication:

“Hey, I’m learning how to better support you. Let’s try removing steps so you can do things more independently. Can we test this out this week?”

💪 Let's make invisible struggles visible and support each other in the marathon of life. Your partnership can be a powerful source of strength and resilience. 💙

14/04/2026

Currently, sat in autistic paralysis, I often get like this before bed, I am so burned out. I get stuck scrolling as it sooths my racing adhd brain, but before I know it, I am too far gone and autistic paralysis sets in. When the other half is in the room I have to ask for help, but he has already gone to bed. 😭

Its an effort to type this, but, I wanted to share as I am not sure its talked about enough. My whippets won't leave me, at least I have them for company.

Oh the joys of being neurodivergent.

13/04/2026

Following on from what I posted the other day about Fibromyalgia and Autism, i came accross this which suggests a link with ADHD.

If you have fibromyalgia, you might want to be examined by your doctor for attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) as well.

That is the message from a study presented at the annual meeting of the American Academy of Pain Management in April 2018. Moreover, it found a startling high rate of… See Comment ⬇

09/04/2026

Flat pack furniture needs to be more autistic friendly. Ryan always gets so overwelmed with it, and frustrated. I struggle at times too. My son just said to me it would be so much easier if it were colour-coded steps. Got me thinking wouldn't it help promote companies like ikea if they made autistic friendly flat pack furniture.

09/04/2026

So, my eldest son Ryan who is now 16 has complained of pains and fatigue since he was 9 or 10.

I have wondered the last couple of years if we have the same condition as we are so similar in many ways. I have an autoimmune condition Psoriatic Arthritis, Raynaulds and fibromyalgia has also been mentioned.

My sister has been concerned about Lupus in me, especially recently as she has this among other things and it can lay dormant and be sparked off by a stressful event, aka moving over 500 miles, (which is far for people in the Uk) and a car collision, all in the space of 1 month!

Anyway, my point of this post, is i came accross this link today, about childhood Fibromyalgia, I have definitely had signs since a child, but it also made me think of my son and I started to wonder is this something else which is connected to being autistic.

When they talk about the sensory sensitivities it got me thinking, which is difficult at the month amongst a flare. So, I would love for your input, and if anyone has gone down a rabbit hole and hyperfixated into this subject and found a connection with Neurodiversities, in particular autism, ADHD or even those of us who are AuDHD and lucky enough to have both.

Anyway, for those who were able to focus untip the end of my ramble. Thank you.

You may have had fibromyalgia symptoms since childhood without realizing it. Learn the early signs and why early diagnosis matters.

03/04/2026

So, I moved from Surrey in England to Aberdeenshire in Scotland, which is about 575 miles, in February.

It's been more difficult than I first thought it would, I really struggle with choas.

To make matters worse, on my eldest sons 16th birthday which was the 19th of March, I broke down on a duel carriage way, with noway of moving my car I had to put the hazards on and get my youngest son, who is also AuDHD and myself to safety, then called rhe police.

Unfortunately, someone went into the back of it as they were distracted whilst driving.

My autism is flaring, already struggling with the choas. I signed of for some trauma chat thing on the phone and the lady said something to me, its going to be hard enough if your home doesnt yet feel home as you are still unpacking, with the collision you are going to crave safety even more.

She recommended, I focus on making my house a home to help distract me, and hopefully in time feel more safe.

However, with each box I get out its so overwelming, especially whe. I cant find things.

There really should be more understanding of Neurodiversities and how moving can really knock us for six!

30/01/2026

💙 Understanding and Supporting Autistic Loved Ones 💙

When an autistic person hears difficult news about a loved one, such as illness or loss, their reaction might differ from what you expect. They may express themselves bluntly or in an unconventional way—not because they don't care, but because they're overwhelmed. It's crucial to think about how and when you share such news.

For those who are "high functioning autistic," day-to-day communication may seem typical, but challenging news can hinder their ability to communicate and may amplify autistic traits as they struggle to process the information. It's easy for people to forget that a high functioning autistic is still autistic, which can leave the autistic person not only having to process the difficult news and come to terms with their emotions but also navigating the trials that come from being misunderstood and assumed the worst of.

Consider avoiding early mornings or abrupt times; instead, find a calm moment when they’re more settled. Provide clear and simple information, allowing them time to process at their own pace. Check in with them afterwards, offering reassurance and a chance to ask questions or share feelings.

Everyone processes emotions differently. For someone with autism, this might mean expressing their feelings uniquely. Extra time and understanding go a long way. Offer them a safe space to express themselves and remember that empathy and patience are key. 🌟

29/01/2026

A friend of mine sent me this, its another one from the lady is posted earlier. Again she hits the nail on the head. I love the way she articulates herself and explains this in a way which is like a light bulb going off because it makes total sense. 👌👏

29/01/2026

How true is this! If anyone has this person on Facebook or if they have a page, feel free to take them.

29/01/2026