Stimmung Therapy Services

Stimmung Therapy Services Specialist in Psychotherapy & Skills Coaching for Creatives; Existential, DBT & RO DBT; ADHD, ADD, PD Walking-And-Talking Therapy also offered.

Responding to the energy of my clients who have recently discovered as adults in their 50s that they were born intersex,...
15/08/2026

Responding to the energy of my clients who have recently discovered as adults in their 50s that they were born intersex, this is another Intersex Awareness post.

Fancy that? Such clients not knowing who they are, and experiencing a great deal of discombobulation, including when relating.

I’m not getting much traction with this theme, mind. Is that because I’m late to the table? Or is it an uncomfortable topic? Or maybe it’s not interesting anyone? Too much of a minority issue?

Comments welcome🙃

When clients say they want to “move on”, therapy entails first looking at what it is they wish to move on from: that mea...
10/08/2026

When clients say they want to “move on”, therapy entails first looking at what it is they wish to move on from: that means entering the mess, the darkness, the unsafeness to know what the “it” is from which you want to move. This can be thoroughly painful.

Some clients, though, experience an initial relief by being able to go back into the tunnel whilst putting their trust in therapy.

So you will go backwards into the fray and it’s a necessary part of true healing.

Here’s the thing: it’s always step in the right direction.

Therapy can also feel cathartic and healing one week, and the next you’re unearthing once deeply hidden realisations of dark truths about yourself, other people, or the world, which feels just horrible, possibly unbearable. It can feel too as if you aren’t moving at all.

Psychotherapy, when it “works”, is a linear process consisting of going forward, going backwards and sometimes staying where you are. If you put your trust in a decent psychotherapist she will ensure that the therapy is linear, with all its up-and-down-and-stasis-ness.

Intersex is not as simplistic as the caption implies, of course. The pervading fallout of my “fixed”, intersex, adult cl...
06/08/2026

Intersex is not as simplistic as the caption implies, of course. The pervading fallout of my “fixed”, intersex, adult clients is complex. Themes of identity and intimacy are the foundation of their unhappiness, confusion, disturbance. They knew something was “wrong”. As they piece together the jigsaw of their apparently shameful beginnings, it’s deeply saddening to sit side by side them.

As Intersex Awareness approaches towards the end of October, I’ll be trying to engage other professionals in discussion. I’d welcome other therapists and medics’ thoughts and experiences on the subject of intersex. Let’s not buy into the legacy of secrecy.

My existing is about wanting to still romp at 60 whilst needing a walking aid from time to time.Reaching the end of my s...
31/07/2026

My existing is about wanting to still romp at 60 whilst needing a walking aid from time to time.

Reaching the end of my sixth decade and starting my seventh means mostly not dressing “appropriately” for my age (in truth, I’ve rarely dressed appropriately in my life); it means a good time to get a tattoo so that it still looks great at 80; it means not drinking again till I’m 70, and then reassessing; it means continuing to work; it means wearing flat shoes, but not necessarily sensible ones; it means learning new ways to be fit and healthy when swimming is off the cards and running was never on; it means beginning to live; it means embracing my grandmotherhood when I wasn’t even ever a mother; it means being less excessive and bringing a modicum of moderation in from time to time; it means being more serene and less brash😬

Today’s my last day at Dove Suite where I’ve psychotherapised, consulted, assessed, coached, supervised, psychologically therapised in private practice for the last decade of a nigh on 30-year second career. Skype Saturdays, FaceTime Fridays and Whattsap Wednesdays started for me just one month before the England locked down in 2020. I then embraced Zoom and that’s always been a platform for my work alongside being physically co-located with my clients.

Since having to operate online again due to compromised mobility, I’d just started back at the room about 3 weeks ago, but rent is astronomical, such is the greed of the Catholic Church that owns a good selection of property in the west end (as a nostalgic, not-very-good Catholic daughter of a strict Catholic dad with a papal knighthood, I’m allowing such judgment😉) and so the room became unaffordable. So I’ve moved my practice upstairs a floor to share with colleagues🥰, and am still at Golden Square giving golden therapy nuggets🙃

Endings are also beginnings. Here’s to a new decade. This one is mine!✨

Existential Courage has meant being back on my pins for walking and standing, and back on my bottom for client work! Exi...
30/07/2026

Existential Courage has meant being back on my pins for walking and standing, and back on my bottom for client work!

Existential Courage also means being able to accept uncertainty. So excited for what my seventh decade has in store. Who knows what may come✨

As I enter my seventh decade, I’m feeling courageous, curious and excited.This weekend is an opportunity to connect agai...
24/07/2026

As I enter my seventh decade, I’m feeling courageous, curious and excited.

This weekend is an opportunity to connect again with disparate friends from choirs, travelling and home moored boating communities, neighbours, family, colleagues who’ve become friends, longstanding family friends, newer connections; and to celebrate the past and future.

Into the unknown, I go… This is my decade.

Make if this what you will. Soft doesn’t necessarily mean weak, or flaccid, or giving in. It might just mean being less ...
23/07/2026

Make if this what you will. Soft doesn’t necessarily mean weak, or flaccid, or giving in. It might just mean being less abrasive, less harsh less spiky.

Do you need to be softer?

The ultimate cure for depression, sedimentation, malaise, feeling stuck, desperation, whatever you call it, is curiosity...
17/07/2026

The ultimate cure for depression, sedimentation, malaise, feeling stuck, desperation, whatever you call it, is curiosity.

Be curious, as a baby is curious about her world, her environment.

Read a dictionary. Sit in sand. Stand at riversides. Walk on beaches. Taste new food. Look at fields. Stroll in urban settings. Take a day return to a town you’ve never been. And be curious using all your senses.

That’s the cure.


It’s indisputable: everyone has a shadow, those things we know about ourselves of which we dare not reveal or speak to o...
16/07/2026

It’s indisputable: everyone has a shadow, those things we know about ourselves of which we dare not reveal or speak to others, let alone ourselves most of the time.

You may not act on your prejudices, but you have them.

If you think you’re non-judgmental, you’re wrong. It’s part of our human condition. You may take a non-judgmental stance, but before that you would have judged something or someone positively or negatively.

And that goes for therapists too.

Best thing is to own it. It’s what you do with it that matters. And if you don’t accept the “it”, you may inadvertently partake in arseholery of the highest order without even knowing.

Your identity is your identity. But don’t get fixated on what others call you or how they see you. Your integrity is you...
03/07/2026

Your identity is your identity. But don’t get fixated on what others call you or how they see you. Your integrity is your own. Others’ refusal to see you as you see you is their limitation.

Existential courage is what you need to withstand the limitations of Others’ capacity to see you.

You will find your collective, and it won’t include everyone. To think that it does is arrogance on your part.

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