Liberation Therapies & Coaching

Liberation Therapies & Coaching Hypnotherapist and Mental Welfare Coach. Supporting you through every stage of your life. Hypnotherapy for Menopause and Oncology as well as general issues.

I mentor successful 40+ women to navigate the menopause and feel inspired to unleash an AMAZING life. Hillary is available to speak at conferences, dinners and groups.

There are people in this world who will never make the headlines.They won’t have thousands of followers or stand on stag...
28/07/2026

There are people in this world who will never make the headlines.

They won’t have thousands of followers or stand on stages collecting awards. Most people will never know the quiet difference they have made because they have never needed an audience to validate their kindness.

They are the ones who check in on the neighbour whose curtains haven’t opened. They remember birthdays everyone else has forgotten. They sit beside hospital beds, make endless cups of tea, drive friends to appointments, walk the dog when someone is struggling, and somehow always know when another human being simply needs someone to listen.

They rarely see the ripple effect of what they do.

Like the bee that visits flower after flower without ever seeing the finished jar of honey, these people simply keep showing up. They don’t count the lives they’ve touched because that was never the point. They trust that small acts matter, even when nobody notices.

The truth is, most of us can trace our lives back to someone like this.

A teacher who believed in us before we believed in ourselves. A stranger whose unexpected kindness arrived on the very day we were ready to give up. A friend who stayed when everyone else became uncomfortable. Someone whose words, encouragement or quiet presence changed the direction of our lives without them ever knowing.

We often underestimate the power of ordinary goodness because it doesn’t shout. It whispers. It doesn’t demand recognition. It simply keeps turning up, day after day, person after person.

Perhaps that is how humanity has always survived.

Not because of the loudest voices or the biggest achievements, but because millions of ordinary people choose, every single day, to leave the world a little softer than they found it.

If you’re one of those people who quietly keeps going, who gives more than anyone realises, who wonders whether your small acts make any difference at all…

Please know this.

Somewhere, someone is carrying a little more hope because of you.

And like the bee, you may never see the sweetness your life has helped create. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t there. It means the world is richer because you were in it.

I see you.

Art ~ Amy Robert’s
Pollen Duster

Today it rained in beautiful Northumberland.  I stood outside in my pj’s and let the wonderful, healing raindrops hit my...
27/07/2026

Today it rained in beautiful Northumberland. I stood outside in my pj’s and let the wonderful, healing raindrops hit my body.

It brought back so many memories…

Remember her? The girl who danced in the rain because she didn’t care if she got soaked. The one who asked questions without worrying if they sounded silly. The one who laughed so hard her stomach hurt, believed impossible things were possible, and thought tomorrow was another adventure waiting to happen.

She didn’t wake up wondering if she was enough.

She wasn’t measuring herself against strangers on a screen, counting wrinkles, hiding parts of herself, or apologising for taking up space. She wasn’t waiting for permission to speak, to dream, to create or to simply be.

Life happened.

There were disappointments, responsibilities, heartbreaks, losses and people whose words left scars that lasted far longer than they should have. Somewhere along the way she learned to be sensible instead of curious, careful instead of courageous, and acceptable instead of authentic.

But she never disappeared.

She’s still there, beneath the expectations, beneath the fear of getting it wrong, beneath every version of yourself you’ve created just to survive. She has been patiently waiting while you built a life, raised children, cared for everyone else, carried burdens you never imagined you would have to carry.

Perhaps she doesn’t need rescuing.

Perhaps she simply needs remembering.

Maybe today is the day you laugh a little louder, get caught in the rain without rushing for cover, start the project you’ve talked yourself out of a dozen times, or say what you really think instead of what keeps everyone else comfortable.

The child you once were knew something the adult you became sometimes forgets.

Joy isn’t earned and wonder doesn’t have an age limit.

Your soul doesn’t grow old.

And no matter how many years have passed, that wild, curious, wholehearted part of you is still there… waiting for you to stop looking outside yourself and come home.

When did you last dance in the rain?

I see you.

Art ~ Evgenia Smirnova
Dancing in the rain

26/07/2026

A positive step for online safety.
Meta has introduced a new safety feature for parents using Instagram's Supervision tools. If a teen discusses su***de or self-harm with Meta AI, supervising parents can now receive an alert, helping them recognise when extra support may be needed. (Supervision must be set up for this feature to work.)
We welcome any step that helps parents and trusted adults start important conversations and support young people when they need it most.

Read more in Meta's announcement below: https://about.fb.com/news/2026/07/keeping-parents-informed-teens-distress-conversations-meta-ai/

There are moments in life when nothing around us changes, yet somehow everything feels different. Not because our circum...
26/07/2026

There are moments in life when nothing around us changes, yet somehow everything feels different. Not because our circumstances have altered, but because our perspective has. Sometimes the greatest transformation begins with the smallest change, replacing two simple words.

Instead of saying, “I have to…”, we quietly remind ourselves, “I get to…”

At first, it sounds almost too simple. Yet those words carry us in completely different directions. “I get to go to work.” “I get to prepare a meal.” “I get to care for someone.” “I get to tidy my home.” “I get to move this body that has carried me through every chapter of my life.” The task itself is exactly the same, but something within us begins to soften.

Our minds are extraordinary storytellers. They listen carefully to the language we use and then search for evidence to support it.
Tell yourself life is made up of endless obligations and your mind will faithfully gather every burden it can find.
Speak instead from a place of appreciation and it begins uncovering quiet blessings that were there all along, simply waiting to be noticed. Awareness changes everything because so much of our suffering comes not from life itself, but from the meaning we attach to it.
The soul is rarely asking us to do more; more often, it is inviting us to see differently.

Age has taught me something I wish I had understood much sooner.

Many of the things we complain about today become the very things we would give almost anything to experience just one more time.
One more family meal with those who are no longer here.
One more untidy kitchen after laughter filled the house.
One more interrupted conversation. One more opportunity to care for someone who once depended on us. The ordinary moments we rush through often become the extraordinary memories we long for.

Gratitude isn’t pretending life is easy, nor is it denying grief, exhaustion or struggle. It is recognising that even in the midst of life’s challenges, there are gifts woven into the fabric of our days.

Every experience seems to offer us two doors. One is labelled obligation. The other is labelled privilege. We walk through whichever one our thinking chooses.

Perhaps that is the quiet invitation life places before us each morning. Not to change the world around us, but to change the eyes through which we see it.

When awareness expands, gratitude naturally follows. And when gratitude leads the way, even the most ordinary moments become sacred, reminding us that so much of what we once thought we had to do was, in truth, something we were deeply fortunate to get to do.

I see you.

Art ~ Liu Helong
Going home after work

For Bernadette. It is so easy to convince ourselves that somewhere, somehow, there is an easier life waiting for us. We ...
22/07/2026

For Bernadette.

It is so easy to convince ourselves that somewhere, somehow, there is an easier life waiting for us. We imagine that if only we had made a different choice, taken another opportunity, said yes instead of no, or no instead of yes, everything would have unfolded more perfectly.

Yet perhaps there are no easy paths. There are simply different ones.

Every choice we make gently closes one door while quietly opening another.
Sliding-doors. Do I turn left or right?

One life may have led us to marriage, another to travelling the world alone. One might have seen us raising children, another building a career we once dreamed of. Perhaps we would have lived beside the sea, climbed mountains, become an artist, a scientist, a nurse or a teacher. We might have accepted the invitation for coffee that changed everything, or said no and found ourselves somewhere entirely different years later.

It is fascinating to think how a single decision can alter the direction of a life. Every conversation, every chance meeting, every risk we take - or choose not to take - creates a new chapter. We are continually becoming. With every passing moment, life unfolds in ways we could never fully predict.

The trouble begins when we start comparing the life we are living with the lives we imagine we could have had. We polish those imaginary versions until they sparkle, forgetting that we have conveniently edited out the struggles. We picture happiness without heartbreak, success without sacrifice, love without loss, and peace without uncertainty.

But no life is free from challenge.

Every path carries moments of joy and moments of grief. Every person, no matter how fortunate they may appear, carries burdens that cannot always be seen. Behind every smile is a story. Behind every achievement is a collection of setbacks, disappointments and quiet acts of courage that the world never witnessed.

Perhaps the secret is not to mourn the roads we never travelled, but to become fully present on the one beneath our feet now. To notice the beauty that exists here instead of chasing the illusion that it only exists somewhere else.

Our lives do not have to be perfect to be meaningful. They simply have to be lived with intention, gratitude and an open heart. When we stop comparing our journey with imagined alternatives, we often discover that the life we have been longing for has quietly been growing around us all along.

I see you.

Photo ~ Sunrise from my home in Northumberland.

One of the greatest lessons I have learned is that when we judge another person, we rarely reveal anything about them. W...
20/07/2026

One of the greatest lessons I have learned is that when we judge another person, we rarely reveal anything about them. We reveal ourselves.

Our opinions are shaped by our own experiences, our hurts, our disappointments, the people who have broken our trust, and the stories we have carried for years. Before someone has even spoken a sentence, we can unconsciously decide who they are, what they meant, and why they behaved the way they did. We believe we are seeing them clearly, when in reality we are looking through the lens of our own life.

Judgement closes doors before they have had the chance to open. It replaces curiosity with certainty and understanding with assumption. Once we have placed someone into a neat little box, we stop looking for the richness and complexity that exists within every human being.

The truth is, none of us can know another person’s whole story. We do not see the battles they have fought in silence, the grief they carry, the fears they wake with, or the courage it took simply to get out of bed that morning. We only ever see a tiny chapter of a life that has taken decades to write.

Empathy asks something very different of us. It invites us to pause before we form an opinion. It encourages us to listen more than we speak, to ask rather than assume, and to leave room for someone to surprise us. It reminds us that every person we meet is far more than the label we might be tempted to give them.

When we make space for people to be who they truly are, something remarkable happens. We begin to discover that beneath our different backgrounds, beliefs and experiences, we are far more alike than we first imagined. We all long to be seen, we all carry wounds and all hope to be accepted for who we are rather than who others think we should be.

The more I learn about people, the more convinced I become that the human soul cannot be understood through judgement. It can only be understood through compassion. And every time we choose understanding over assumption, we don’t just change the way we see someone else - we quietly expand our own heart, our own awareness, and our own humanity.

I see you.

Art ~ Misako Chida
Reaching out with compassion

There is a saying by Sydney Banks that has stayed with me for years:“The best preventative medicine in the world is know...
18/07/2026

There is a saying by Sydney Banks that has stayed with me for years:

“The best preventative medicine in the world is knowing yourself.”

The older I get, the more truth I find in those words.

We spend so much of our lives believing that peace lies somewhere outside of us. We search for the perfect job, the perfect relationship, the perfect routine, the perfect set of coping strategies. We learn breathing exercises, mindfulness techniques, positive affirmations and countless ways to manage our feelings. Many of these things are helpful, and they certainly have their place.

But sometimes they are like continually mopping up water from the kitchen floor without ever noticing that the tap is still running.

For years, many of us innocently believe that our feelings are created by our circumstances. We think our stress comes from work, our anxiety comes from tomorrow, our hurt comes from another person’s words, or our happiness depends upon everything going according to plan.

When we see life that way, we spend an exhausting amount of energy trying to control the uncontrollable.

Then something truly beautiful can happen.

We begin to realise that our experience of life is always being created from the inside out. Every feeling we have is experienced through the thoughts passing through our minds in that moment. Thoughts are not permanent and they are not facts. They are simply the mind doing what minds do. They arrive, they stay for a while and, if we stop wrestling with them, they move on.

The moment we glimpse this for ourselves, something softens. We no longer have to fix every circumstance before we can feel okay. We stop carrying the impossible responsibility of making the whole world behave so that we can finally relax.

Instead, our minds naturally become quieter, and when the noise settles, wisdom has room to speak.

Over the years I have worked with many people who believed they were broken because they had collected countless techniques to manage anxiety, fear or overwhelm. What transformed them wasn’t discovering one more strategy. It was understanding themselves more deeply. Once they saw where their experience was truly coming from, much of what had seemed so frightening simply lost its grip.

That isn’t because life became perfect.
It is because they began to see themselves more clearly.

Perhaps that is what real preventative medicine has always been. Not endlessly trying to repair ourselves, but discovering that beneath all the noise, all the fearful thinking and all the stories we tell ourselves, there is a steadiness that has been there all along.

Sometimes the greatest healing doesn’t come from learning something new.

It comes from seeing something that has quietly been true all your life.

I see you.

Art ~ Larissa Uvarova
Deep Inside

One of the biggest insights I’ve had over the past few years is this.Most of us think we are living our lives, but often...
15/07/2026

One of the biggest insights I’ve had over the past few years is this.

Most of us think we are living our lives, but often we are living inside the story our mind is telling us about our lives. I know I have. Looking back, there were so many times when I wasn’t responding to what was actually happening. I was responding to what I thought was happening.

Something happens. Or sometimes… nothing happens at all.

A text isn’t returned straight away. Someone looks distracted. A friend seems quieter than usual. Your boss says, “Can I have a word?” Your child doesn’t answer the phone. Within seconds, the projector starts whirring into life.

“They’re angry with me.”

“I’ve done something wrong.”

“I’m not good enough.”

“They’re going to leave.”

“I need to fix this.”

By the time reality has even had a chance to unfold, we’ve already written the script, cast the characters and imagined the ending.

The strange thing is that we rarely question the film playing in our minds. We mistake it for reality because it feels so real. Our bodies respond as though the imagined danger is happening right now. Our heart races. Our stomach tightens. We become anxious, defensive or withdrawn.

I’ve spent years working with people who believed their suffering was being caused by what was happening around them. Yet, time and again, I’ve watched lives change when they begin to see that much of their distress isn’t coming from the outside world at all. It’s coming from the meaning their mind is innocently creating in the moment.

Yet most of the time, life outside our heads is far less dramatic.

People are busy carrying their own worries. They are thinking about their own children, their own bills, their own health and their own relationships. The meaning we attach to events is often created from old experiences rather than what is actually happening in this moment.

We don’t see the world as it is. We see it through the lens of everything that came before. Yesterday’s experiences become today’s expectations, and before we know it, we’re reacting to memories rather than reality.

The good news is that awareness changes everything. The moment you notice, “Ah… this is my old film playing again,” you stop being completely absorbed in it. You create a little space between you and your thoughts. You remember that thoughts are not facts. Feelings are not predictions. Old conditioning is not your future.

That doesn’t mean life suddenly becomes perfect. It doesn’t mean difficult things stop happening. It simply means we stop adding an imaginary second layer of suffering to the reality we’re already facing.

From that quieter place, something extraordinary happens. You begin to experience life instead of simply reacting to it. You become curious instead of certain. Present instead of fearful. Open instead of defended.

The outside world may not have changed at all, but your experience of it has.

Perhaps the greatest freedom any of us can discover is this. We are not the film playing in our minds. We are the awareness quietly watching it. From that place, we can stop replaying yesterday’s story and finally begin to live today’s life.

I’ve come to see that life isn’t asking us to become better at predicting every possible outcome. It’s inviting us to wake up from the stories we’ve innocently believed for so long. When we do, we discover something that has always been there beneath the noise of our thinking.

Peace was never hiding in a different set of circumstances.

It was quietly waiting behind the projector all along.

I see you.

Art ~ Ojolo Art
Projection

Lately, I’ve found myself growing weary of the endless stream of bad news. Every headline seems to compete for our atten...
06/07/2026

Lately, I’ve found myself growing weary of the endless stream of bad news. Every headline seems to compete for our attention by showing us another tragedy, another outrage, another reason to believe the world is falling apart. Trauma sells and fear spreads quickly. Before we know it, we begin to look at humanity through a lens that only notices what is broken.

But all around us, something else is happening.

Quietly, without applause or cameras, good people are helping strangers. Neighbours are checking in on elderly friends. Someone is paying for another person’s shopping. Volunteers are giving up their weekends. A nurse is holding a frightened hand. Someone is sitting with a grieving friend, not because they have the right words, but because they care enough to stay. These stories rarely become headlines, yet they are happening every single day.

I wanted to shine a light on some of these quieter truths, because what we pay attention to shapes the world we experience.

We live in a world where humpback whales have been seen lifting vulnerable animals onto their backs to protect them from predators. We live in a world where crows gather around their dead in what looks remarkably like mourning, where elephants return to the bones of family members, and where dolphins recognise one another by unique signature whistles that function much like names.

Beneath our feet, forests are doing something extraordinary. Through vast underground fungal networks, healthy trees share water and nutrients with those struggling to survive. Nature reminds us that survival is not always about standing alone. Often, it is about supporting one another.

Sea otters drift through the night holding hands so they are not separated by the current. Penguins huddle together against the bitter Antarctic cold, taking turns on the freezing outer edge so others can rest in the warmth. Across the natural world, cooperation is woven into the fabric of life.

Perhaps we are not so different.

Human beings are wired for connection too. One calm presence can soothe an anxious mind. One genuine smile can alter the course of someone’s day. Kindness creates ripples we will almost certainly never witness. Even groups of people gathering with the shared intention of peace and compassion have been associated in some studies with positive effects on those around them, reminding us that the state we bring into the world matters.

The world has always contained darkness. It always will. But it also contains extraordinary tenderness, courage and generosity. Both are true. The question is not which exists. The question is which we choose to notice, nurture and multiply.

Perhaps hope is not about denying reality.

Perhaps hope is about seeing reality more completely.

When we begin to notice the countless acts of quiet goodness unfolding around us every day, we realise something profound. Love has never stopped working. It has simply never needed to shout.

I see you.

Liberation Therapies & Coaching

Art ~ Askar Abuov
Where the world rests

Your mother is just a chapter in your book of life.One chapter among many.There will be childhood friends, first loves, ...
27/06/2026

Your mother is just a chapter in your book of life.

One chapter among many.

There will be childhood friends, first loves, careers, adventures, triumphs, heartbreaks, new beginnings, and countless people who walk in and out of your story. As the years unfold, the pages keep turning.

But in your mother’s life…

You are not simply a chapter. You are the whole book.

As I’ve got older and had my own children, I have realised something that never truly occurred to me when I was younger. My mother wasn’t simply raising a child; she was pouring her heart into another human being. Every joy I experienced became hers. Every hurt I carried, she felt too. Her love wasn’t something she switched on and off - it became part of who she was.

From the moment she first knew I existed, the story changed. Every decision, every hope, every fear became somehow connected to me. She measured time not by calendars, but by milestones. My first breath, first steps, first day at school. The day I became an adult. The day I became a parent myself.

Only then did I begin to understand.

Long after I’d forgotten the little things, she remembered them all.

The picture I proudly drew.
The sleepless nights when I was ill.
The words I spoke without thinking.
The phone call that made her smile.
The hug she didn’t know she needed.

As children, we assume our mothers will always be there - always waiting, always forgiving, always putting us first.

It’s only when we become parents ourselves that many of us glimpse the depth of that love. We realise that our children never stop being our children, whether they’re five, twenty-five or fifty-five. We carry them with us wherever they go.

One day, the chapter that contains your mother will come to an end.

When it does, you’ll discover that the love she wrote into your life continues to shape every chapter that follows.

So call her.

Visit her.

Ask her about her life before you were born.

Listen to the stories you’ve heard a hundred times as though they’re the first. Because while you’re busy writing your own story, she’s quietly treasured every page of yours.

And to her, it has always been the greatest story ever told.

I see you.

Photo ~ Hillary and daughter Stephanie

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