12/05/2026
Thank you for joining this group, I appreciate you 🤍
Assertiveness is one of the most important skills we can teach our children- not just for confidence, but for safety.
Children who can speak up, say no, express discomfort and set boundaries are less likely to become trapped in patterns of bullying, anxiety and people-pleasing.
As a mum to a painfully shy daughter who struggled deeply with insecurity, I know how heartbreaking and worrying this can feel. Watching your child stay silent, shrink themselves or avoid conflict because they’re frightened of upsetting others is incredibly hard.
Schools are doing their best with anti-bullying policies, resilience workshops and awareness programmes… but the truth is, this work has to start with us at home too.
And if you don’t know how to build assertiveness in your child yet, that’s okay. I didn’t either.
Because the truth is… I was just like my daughter.Crippled with insecurity. Terrified to speak up. Constantly worried about what people thought of me.
So first, I learned how to fake confidence.I practiced speaking up.I learned how to model resilience and assertiveness, even when it felt uncomfortable.
Then eventually, I stopped pretending and started rebuilding my self-esteem for real.
Because children don’t just learn from what we say.They learn from what we model.
If this resonates with you, pop a ⭐ in the comments and I’ll send you the assertiveness tasks I use with my own children — and the same strategies I’ve used throughout my work in educational psychology 🫶🏽
