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Hi, I am a trauma therapist.

I specialise in Schema Therapy which helps long-standing, deeply rooted patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving called early maladaptive schemas that develop in childhood and persist into adulthood.

06/01/2026

You didn’t shut down for no reason.
You were protecting yourself from feeling too much on your own. When emotions aren’t met with understanding, comfort, or consistency, the system learns to pull back.

Not because something is wrong but because that was the safest option available at the time. In Schema Therapy, shutdown and distance are understood as protection, not failure. They’re signs of how much you adapted in environments where support wasn’t reliably there.

You don’t need to force yourself to open up faster.
With safety, gentleness, and time, these parts soften naturally.

Nothing about you is broken.
You learned how to survive. 🤍

13/12/2025

The parts of you that feel overwhelming today didn’t start in the present. They’re younger parts that learned to carry fear, responsibility, confusion, or pain without enough support.

In Schema Therapy, we don’t label these parts as “too much.” We understand them as the versions of you who had to cope alone, long before you had the words or the safety to make sense of what you were feeling.

Overwhelm isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of how much you’ve held.

These parts don’t need controlling or fixing.
They need gentleness, presence, and reassurance that they don’t have to carry everything anymore.

Go softly.

Your healing doesn’t require perfection — just safety. 🤍

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09/12/2025

You didn’t stay quiet because you lacked a voice.
You stayed quiet because it was safer than being dismissed, misunderstood, or punished.

In Schema Therapy, these patterns are younger parts who learned silence as protection — not weakness.
They kept you safe in the only way they knew how.

As an adult, your system is slowly learning something new:
your voice isn’t dangerous,
your needs aren’t too much,
your truth isn’t a threat.

You’re not “finding” your voice —
you’re reclaiming what was always yours.

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03/12/2025

You didn’t feel too much. You just had to feel it alone.

When you grow up without enough emotional support, comfort, or attunement, your feelings don’t disappear they get stored in younger parts of you who were never helped through them.

In Schema Therapy, we understand these intense emotions as echoes of those younger experiences.
They’re not signs of weakness.
They’re evidence of how much you carried without being held.

Your feelings were never “too big.”
What was missing was someone to share the weight.

Healing isn’t about becoming less emotional.
It’s about finally having safety, presence, and understanding things you should’ve had all along.

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15/04/2025

We all have protective parts that were set down during trauma. These served to protect us and keep us safe. Even now they are doing this and how are they doing this... they make us behave in certain ways in order to protect ourselves whenever we feel a situation is similar to the trauma we experienced.

What might be some of these protective behaviours then?

These can be things like people pleasing, finding comfort in certain things like substances or activities.

If you experience any of these I know it's hard but just know your body is trying to protect you. ✨️

25/02/2025

It isn't uncommon for people to not remember vividly their trauma memories. Infact this is quite common and it's often a defence mechanism to protect you from the pain of those memories.

Just because you don't have clear memories though doesn't mean your body doesn't remember what happened to you. Trauma sits in the body, it gets stuck in your body and so you although you might not remember your body, your nervous system & your subconscious memory very much remembers.

13/08/2024

Hi friends. So my latest newsletter went out. I thought I'd share some snippets with you all:

The topic this month was around how we tend to invalidate certain traumas because they 'don't fit' what we might typically think of trauma to be. Often we think it is linked to major life events such as war and natural disasters but actually trauma is anything that overwhelms our ability to cope and this can be anything.

In my practice I've seen many different life events from loss of a pet to racism that have caused trauma.

So just a reminder it isn't always just the context of what's happened but it is how it affected us internally which causes the trauma.

If you'd like to subscribe to my newsletter you can do at the link below :

https://somla-zaman-psychotherapist.ck.page/30ba621730

24/07/2024

Trauma if left unprocessed doesn't just disappear, it remains stuck in the body. It's almost like a negative energy that remains circulating in the body that causes various symptoms. This energy (trauma) needs releasing otherwise it will remain stuck in the body and the trauma will remain unprocessed.

12/07/2024

Do you feel like you need to make everyone happy? You're not alone... it's very common for complex trauma sufferers to feel they need to please everyone.

This isn't something you've just developed, it's a learnt behaviour. You learnt it from somewhere.

Maybe this is how you survived as a child in your home environment.... through constantly pleasing your parents? Or maybe you were only validated when you made others happy? What did these messages teach you? Well you most likely learnt that making others happy was the key to your self worth. It defined who you are.

As an adult now it's likely you're still living as that younger self, you're still holding onto those beliefs that I'm worthy if I make others happy, but it's time to let this go... you're not that younger you anymore. You've grown, you matured and you are worthy regardless, it's time to put yourself first.

Is this something you struggle with? Let me know in the comments.

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08/07/2024

In order to heal from trauma it's important to get to know your body, it's important to befriend your bodily sensations.

Trauma causes physical sensations to become stuck in the body, trauma is physical and although it is hard unless we get learn to get to know these physical symptoms and how trauma manifests itself physically in our bodies we will struggle to heal.

Physical self awareness is the first step in helping yourself to heal from your past.

Do you agree? Let me know in the comments.

23/06/2024

Our inner child is a smaller version of ourselves that we carry around with us all the time.

When we experience some kind of difficulty which causes us an emotional shift of some sort such as anxiety and sadness it's likely to be our inner self that's calling out, it's likely to be our inner that'd feeling vulnerable.

It's important therefore for us to in those moments soothe our inner child with some kind words. This will help to regulate your nervous system making you and your inner self feel safer.

Can you add some words to these? What words help to soothe your inner child?

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